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Moving on After a Breakup: Give Yourself Time to Wallow In Self-Pity
29:40 - 40:43 (11:03)
In this podcast, the speaker advises to allow yourself to feel self-pity after a breakup and not rush into a new relationship because the pain of the breakup doesn't go away instantly. It's essential to keep yourself engaged in new activities and meet new people to be able to move on healthily.
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The idea that moving on right after a break-up means the person has completely healed is a common misconception as it hinders individuals from having dealt with their emotions and accepting what the relationship meant to them leading to repercussions in their new relationship.
29:40 - 33:06 (03:26)
Summary
The idea that moving on right after a break-up means the person has completely healed is a common misconception as it hinders individuals from having dealt with their emotions and accepting what the relationship meant to them leading to repercussions in their new relationship.
ChapterMoving on After a Breakup: Give Yourself Time to Wallow In Self-Pity
Episode79. The psychology of breakups
PodcastThe Psychology of your 20’s
The end of a relationship can cause a neurological response mimicking depression and reexposure to past memories can reinforce this pathway.
33:06 - 37:48 (04:42)
Summary
The end of a relationship can cause a neurological response mimicking depression and reexposure to past memories can reinforce this pathway. It's important to remember that breakups are not only emotional but also neurological.
ChapterMoving on After a Breakup: Give Yourself Time to Wallow In Self-Pity
Episode79. The psychology of breakups
PodcastThe Psychology of your 20’s
Allow yourself to feel self-pity and wallow in your emotions for a bit, but also try to meet new people and make new friends who don't know your ex.
37:48 - 40:43 (02:55)
Summary
Allow yourself to feel self-pity and wallow in your emotions for a bit, but also try to meet new people and make new friends who don't know your ex. Keeping up a facade of being fine and moving on too quickly can actually prolong the pain.