The lack of self-control and willpower could be the reason why you are struggling to form positive habits such as exercising, keeping your phone away, and being present with your family. Stimulating your "pause and plan" instinct helps you to stay focused and committed to your goals.
This podcast discusses how exercise can be a positive addiction, unlike negative addictions such as drugs or alcohol. The process by which it teaches the brain to become more responsive to every other kind of reward in life is explored, as well as one person's journey with becoming addicted to exercise.
The ability to make choices consistent with our most important goals and values is known as willpower. To develop willpower, we need to have a strong foundation of meaning and purpose that will help us stay on track even when we encounter obstacles.
The upward spiral of setting goals and values for yourself can change how you make choices, thereby creating a healthier and supportive environment for yourself and others around you.
When we struggle to stay committed to our goals and avoid distractions, it may be because we are not triggering our pause and plan instinct. By recognizing moments that pull us away from our commitments and decelerating our heart rate, we can activate this instinct and stay focused.