Episode
Forgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
1:12:17
Published: Wed May 26 2021
Description
“Real love is a two way thing.”Today's guest is Stephan Labossiere, also known as Stephan Speaks. As a certified relationship coach, a speaker and author, he helps both men and women overcome the challenges that hinder their relationships. Stephan empowers millions to take charge of the difficult situations standing in the way of the life and love they seek and to make impactful changes on a daily basis. He’s written a book called Love After Heartbreak and the first volume is all about helping you self-heal, find inner peace and true happiness. This is actually the second part of Lewis and Stephan's conversation, so if you haven’t checked out part 1, you can do so by going to www.lewishowes.com/1114In this episode Lewis and Stephan discuss the importance of forgiveness in our relationships, the 3 things you should do to know if you have a connection with someone, how to know if you’re staying in the wrong relationship, why Stephan doesn’t believe in setting expectations for relationships, and so much more!For more go to: www.lewishowes.com/1115Check out his website: www.stephanspeaks.comCheck out his book: Finding Love After Heartbreak: Volume IPrevious episodes: www.lewishowes.com/703 , www.lewishowes.com/994The Power of Erotic Intelligence with Esther Perel: https://link.chtbl.com/732-podFind Lasting Love with Matthew Hussey: https://link.chtbl.com/811-pod
Chapters
Stefan talks about the difficulties people face when it comes to forgiving others and the impact it has on their relationships.
00:00 - 02:21 (02:21)
Summary
Stefan talks about the difficulties people face when it comes to forgiving others and the impact it has on their relationships. He shares insights and tips on how to overcome these challenges and practice forgiveness for a healthier and happier life.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Forgiveness is not easy and it is a journey that may take time.
02:21 - 06:01 (03:40)
Summary
Forgiveness is not easy and it is a journey that may take time. You have to accept that everyone is flawed and it can sometimes be harder to forgive yourself than others.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker discusses their writing process for letters, including writing multiple letters for the same person, and how it hasn't impacted their relationships negatively.
06:01 - 07:22 (01:20)
Summary
The speaker discusses their writing process for letters, including writing multiple letters for the same person, and how it hasn't impacted their relationships negatively.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Text and voice messaging have limitations when it comes to expressing complex emotions as they are inherently quick and condensed ways of communicating.
07:22 - 10:11 (02:48)
Summary
Text and voice messaging have limitations when it comes to expressing complex emotions as they are inherently quick and condensed ways of communicating. This can make it difficult for individuals to fully express themselves.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Tips for Building strong connections and maintaining mental wellness.
10:11 - 13:40 (03:29)
Summary
Tips for Building strong connections and maintaining mental wellness.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Authenticity is crucial in creating a genuine and lasting connection with someone, even if there are differences in values and opinions.
13:40 - 16:00 (02:19)
Summary
Authenticity is crucial in creating a genuine and lasting connection with someone, even if there are differences in values and opinions. It is important to be open and honest about your thoughts and feelings to build true connection.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
This podcast episode discusses the prevalence of true connection in relationships and the fear and reluctance that people have in moving on from relationships lacking true connection due to fear of being alone or fear of validation from others.
16:00 - 21:29 (05:28)
Summary
This podcast episode discusses the prevalence of true connection in relationships and the fear and reluctance that people have in moving on from relationships lacking true connection due to fear of being alone or fear of validation from others.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The emotional investment in a relationship can make it difficult for women to walk away even when there's no longer a connection, and there are societal pressures that reinforce this behavior.
21:29 - 23:58 (02:28)
Summary
The emotional investment in a relationship can make it difficult for women to walk away even when there's no longer a connection, and there are societal pressures that reinforce this behavior.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The pain of a failed relationship and the feeling of being left alone at the altar is a hurtful experience.
23:58 - 25:51 (01:53)
Summary
The pain of a failed relationship and the feeling of being left alone at the altar is a hurtful experience. However, building a robust personal relationship with oneself is more crucial than stooping to stay in a relationship that doesn't genuinely serve you.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker discusses how women often feel like they aren't deserving of a man and how it's important to recognize "struggle love" situations where you may not truly be in love.
25:51 - 29:49 (03:58)
Summary
The speaker discusses how women often feel like they aren't deserving of a man and how it's important to recognize "struggle love" situations where you may not truly be in love.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker talks about how some women hold back their emotions in relationships, thinking that they are losing themselves.
29:49 - 32:01 (02:11)
Summary
The speaker talks about how some women hold back their emotions in relationships, thinking that they are losing themselves. However, he explains that dysfunctional men do not demand emotions from their partner.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Men are often viewed as bad in society due to the stories heard from their mothers, aunts, sisters, and friends; resulting in young men not knowing how to handle relationships with women and making bad decisions.
32:01 - 37:56 (05:54)
Summary
Men are often viewed as bad in society due to the stories heard from their mothers, aunts, sisters, and friends; resulting in young men not knowing how to handle relationships with women and making bad decisions. However, not all men are bad, and there may be underlying reasons why they reject a relationship.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
When a good man shows up, sometimes women tend to believe that the relationship is too good to be true, or even anticipate that something bad is going to happen.
37:56 - 42:22 (04:26)
Summary
When a good man shows up, sometimes women tend to believe that the relationship is too good to be true, or even anticipate that something bad is going to happen. This podcast episode discusses the challenge of trusting a good relationship and how to overcome this mindset.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The chances of dating struggles for women over 30 tend to increase as they grow older.
42:22 - 47:01 (04:38)
Summary
The chances of dating struggles for women over 30 tend to increase as they grow older. The desire to meet new people, enjoy life, and find a partner can also put them at a disadvantage in the dating game.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Don't minimize issues that don't align with your preferences when it comes to relationships.
47:01 - 49:46 (02:45)
Summary
Don't minimize issues that don't align with your preferences when it comes to relationships. Recognize the deal breakers, no matter how small they may seem, to avoid issues in the long run.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
This episode delves into the topic of addictions, both chemical and behavioral, and how they can be tackled by focusing on healing and resolving underlying issues that cause pain and discomfort.
49:46 - 53:20 (03:33)
Summary
This episode delves into the topic of addictions, both chemical and behavioral, and how they can be tackled by focusing on healing and resolving underlying issues that cause pain and discomfort. The speakers discuss the role of religion and personal beliefs in addiction, along with the need to recognize and address addictions instead of trying to justify or normalize them.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
To make a relationship work, it's important to understand the foundation of relationships and how men and women can coexist in a long-term, committed relationship, including the messiness that comes along with it.
53:20 - 56:09 (02:49)
Summary
To make a relationship work, it's important to understand the foundation of relationships and how men and women can coexist in a long-term, committed relationship, including the messiness that comes along with it.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker shares their desire for a genuine relationship and acknowledges the struggle that often comes with success.
56:09 - 59:01 (02:52)
Summary
The speaker shares their desire for a genuine relationship and acknowledges the struggle that often comes with success. They explain their intention to provide an authentic representation of relationships and offer resources for navigating different stages of a relationship.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The key to determining if your partner's love is real is to first know if your own love is real.
59:01 - 1:03:04 (04:02)
Summary
The key to determining if your partner's love is real is to first know if your own love is real. If you're not truly in love with your partner, then they're not truly in love with you.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker encourages people to live life to the fullest by giving their whole heart to their relationships, family, and careers, instead of holding back.
1:03:04 - 1:08:13 (05:09)
Summary
The speaker encourages people to live life to the fullest by giving their whole heart to their relationships, family, and careers, instead of holding back. Many people do not experience the life they deserve by not walking in their purpose, being in the relationship they deserve, or having the career that is meant for them.
EpisodeForgiveness, Finding Real Love & Setting Expectations w/Stephan Speaks (PART 2) EP 1115
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The podcast encourages embracing both masculine and feminine traits to live life to the fullest potential.
1:08:13 - 1:11:57 (03:43)
Summary
The podcast encourages embracing both masculine and feminine traits to live life to the fullest potential. Considered living as your true self is greatness itself.