Today’s guest is Deborah Tuerkheimer. She is a professor at Northwestern University Pritzker School of Law. She earned her undergraduate degree from Harvard College and her law degree from Yale Law School. Tuerkheimer served for five years as an Assistant District Attorney in the New York County District Attorney's Office, where she specialized in domestic violence and child abuse prosecution. She’s written a new book called Credible: Why We Doubt Accusers And Protect Abusers.In this episode we discuss how to create a safe space for people to openly talk about their trauma and abuse,what Deborah calls the credibility complex and how to work around it, what to do if you’re a victim who hasn’t shared your story yet, why abusers have traditionally been protected and what we need to change in our society, the immediate steps you should take after being abused and so much more.It is my intention to help spread awareness to help those who have dealt with abuse, but there is a chance that this episode could be a trigger for some of you.For more go to: www.lewishowes.com/1186Mel Robbins: The “Secret” Mindset Habit to Building Confidence and Overcoming Scarcity: https://link.chtbl.com/970-podDr. Joe Dispenza on Healing the Body and Transforming the Mind: https://link.chtbl.com/826-podMaster Your Mind and Defy the Odds with David Goggins: https://link.chtbl.com/715-pod
This episode discusses creating a safe environment for individuals to speak about their trauma, overcoming the credibility complex, understanding the steps to take after being abused, and changing current societal norms that protect abusers.
Trauma victims often give signs to the people close to them, and cases involving sexual/domestic violence are difficult to prove as they are threatening to our idealized version of relationships and gender relations.
In the absence of video footage, evaluating testimonies becomes critical to understanding the truth. Therefore, knowing the strategies that work to help judge testimonies is of major importance.
Debra suggests the need to transform how the culture perceives credibility and meet out judgments. This would change the way we think about each other as human beings and how credibility judgments are made, especially around discussing violence and sexual misconduct.
In this podcast episode, the guest talks about the importance of context and how one should be aware of the audience and their own purpose before sharing a story. They also discuss the impact that trauma can have on narrative and how society is starting to become more educated on the topic of delayed reporting.
A discussion on the different levels of sexual misconduct and physical abuse, and if incidents should always be reported to the police.
The criminal justice system often responds poorly to sexual assault cases, making it difficult for survivors to come forward. Journalists investigating sexual assault cases often ask if the survivor told anyone around the time of the assault.
It's important to be aware of warning signs in an abusive relationship, as it's difficult to change the abuser. Leaving such relationships is also challenging, despite being necessary.
The conversation emphasizes that instead of blaming the victim of sexual assault based on certain scenarios or actions, individuals should become better humans and not stand for these situations. Victim profiling should be discouraged and individuals should try to make the society safer for everyone.
The conversation discusses the importance of sharing abuse stories publicly and the need for unbiased and informed responses to those who come forward. It also emphasizes the impact of sharing a story with someone you love and the importance of supporting victims in their healing process.
The podcast episode discusses the importance of holding a higher standard towards individuals who get away with crimes, effectively communicating the trauma faced by some individuals and helping them heal, and the significance of acknowledging those going through difficult times.
In this episode, Deborah Feldman shares her journey of leaving a Hasidic Jewish community, finding her voice, and speaking her truth through writing. Her definition of greatness is doing or being in ways that transcend self-interest and elevate the good of another person or other people.