Episode
760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
1:11:50
Published: Mon Feb 18 2019
Description
YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE. So many of us hide who we truly are. We bury our shame thinking that if anyone knew we would no longer be accepted. But living this way keeps us from connecting with others. It keeps us from truly experiencing life. I kept my history of abuse hidden for a long time. It wasn’t until I told my story that I could become the person I am today. You have to forgive yourself. On today’s episode of The School of Greatness, I talk about shame with a person of great courage and integrity: Terry Crews. Terry Crews is an actor, activist, artist, and former NFL football player. He plays “Terry” on Brooklyn 99 and is now a host on America’s Got Talent. Terry was included among the group of people named as Time Magazine's Person of the Year in 2017 for going public with stories of sexual assault. Terry has a powerful way of talking about what it means to be a man. We all can benefit from hearing his story. So get ready to learn all about guilt, shame, and toxic masculinity on Episode 760. Some Questions I Ask: What’s the biggest mistake that was the hardest to forgive yourself for? (5:30) What’s your view on forgiving toxic men? (55:00) How did you learn to forgive yourself? (1:00:00) What do love most about your wife (1:05:00) In This Episode You Will Learn: About Terry’s history of addiction (14:00) Why men need intimacy (21:00) The three stages of every man’s life (28:00) The difference between shame and guilt (31:00) The definition of toxic masculinity (40:00) About Terry’s #metoo moment (45:00)
Chapters
Former NFL player and actor Terry Cruz talks to Louis Howes about the importance of forgiveness, overcoming fear, and taking care of your mental health.
00:00 - 00:53 (00:53)
Summary
Former NFL player and actor Terry Cruz talks to Louis Howes about the importance of forgiveness, overcoming fear, and taking care of your mental health.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The podcast discusses accountability, forgiveness, and making mistakes with a guest speaker who shares personal experiences.
00:53 - 04:31 (03:38)
Summary
The podcast discusses accountability, forgiveness, and making mistakes with a guest speaker who shares personal experiences. The conversation also touches upon the impact of commercials on branding.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
A speaker discusses seeing pornography in grocery stores during their childhood.
04:31 - 08:06 (03:34)
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A speaker discusses seeing pornography in grocery stores during their childhood.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
A man speaks about his experience with feeling unworthy in both his faith and romantic relationships, and how he was able to overcome these insecurities.
08:06 - 12:32 (04:26)
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A man speaks about his experience with feeling unworthy in both his faith and romantic relationships, and how he was able to overcome these insecurities. He also touches on the concept of the rapture in Christian belief.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker discusses the mindset of self-improvement, emphasizing the importance of not being too hard on oneself and instead striving for personal growth.
12:32 - 14:42 (02:10)
Summary
The speaker discusses the mindset of self-improvement, emphasizing the importance of not being too hard on oneself and instead striving for personal growth.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Terry Crews recounts his experience on a TV show where he feared that he was going to get cut, but ended up being told that he would not be used for a few weeks.
14:42 - 18:12 (03:30)
Summary
Terry Crews recounts his experience on a TV show where he feared that he was going to get cut, but ended up being told that he would not be used for a few weeks.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Terry Crews reflects on the importance of image in the quest for success, emphasizing that success can sometimes be used as a cover-up for deeper insecurities.
18:12 - 21:44 (03:32)
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Terry Crews reflects on the importance of image in the quest for success, emphasizing that success can sometimes be used as a cover-up for deeper insecurities.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
A person describes a difficult interaction with their partner where they felt they were not being told the truth, and ultimately decided to move on.
21:44 - 24:16 (02:32)
Summary
A person describes a difficult interaction with their partner where they felt they were not being told the truth, and ultimately decided to move on.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
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Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The podcast discusses how motivating through shame is not helpful and how taking responsibility for both the good and bad in your life is essential to self-improvement and growth.
26:49 - 29:27 (02:38)
Summary
The podcast discusses how motivating through shame is not helpful and how taking responsibility for both the good and bad in your life is essential to self-improvement and growth.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker discusses how shame can be difficult to deal with and compares it to being in a court.
29:27 - 32:50 (03:23)
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The speaker discusses how shame can be difficult to deal with and compares it to being in a court. They express feeling worthless.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker became an ambassador for Polaris Project to raise awareness for human slavery and to share her story to bring attention to it.
32:50 - 37:20 (04:30)
Summary
The speaker became an ambassador for Polaris Project to raise awareness for human slavery and to share her story to bring attention to it. She highlights the importance of educating people on the issue, including the fact that there are groups that are pro black Taliban, and the need for individuals to be cautious with their clothing choices.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker discusses their perspective on toxic masculinity, highlighting how being in a certain framework and mindset can lead to normalization of such behavior.
37:20 - 39:21 (02:01)
Summary
The speaker discusses their perspective on toxic masculinity, highlighting how being in a certain framework and mindset can lead to normalization of such behavior. However, they stress that once you are aware of it and step out of that mindset, you can clearly see it for what it is.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Terry received advice during his therapy and comeback times to not let anyone pull him into any altercation if he didn't want to lose everything, as the pain of being involved in one was too great.
39:21 - 42:37 (03:16)
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Terry received advice during his therapy and comeback times to not let anyone pull him into any altercation if he didn't want to lose everything, as the pain of being involved in one was too great.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Terry was given the option to either meet a powerful person at his home or at the Four Seasons after declining to go to their house initially.
42:37 - 46:14 (03:37)
Summary
Terry was given the option to either meet a powerful person at his home or at the Four Seasons after declining to go to their house initially.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Terry Crews shares how he confronted a network executive about the handling of a colleague's anti-semitic remarks, resulting in the colleague losing his title and receiving a 30-day suspension.
46:14 - 50:43 (04:29)
Summary
Terry Crews shares how he confronted a network executive about the handling of a colleague's anti-semitic remarks, resulting in the colleague losing his title and receiving a 30-day suspension. Crews also discusses how speaking out can lead to backlash in the entertainment industry.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The importance of holding men accountable for toxic behavior and whether forgiveness is possible, even when someone has done something wrong and illegal, but is working to improve.
50:43 - 54:02 (03:19)
Summary
The importance of holding men accountable for toxic behavior and whether forgiveness is possible, even when someone has done something wrong and illegal, but is working to improve.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The hosts discuss ways to forgive oneself for past mistakes and betrayals and also contemplate the possibility of reintroducing someone back into their lives after a sincere display of accountability.
54:02 - 57:55 (03:53)
Summary
The hosts discuss ways to forgive oneself for past mistakes and betrayals and also contemplate the possibility of reintroducing someone back into their lives after a sincere display of accountability.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker reflects on the importance of introspection and constant self-correction in our lives.
57:55 - 1:01:03 (03:08)
Summary
The speaker reflects on the importance of introspection and constant self-correction in our lives. He emphasizes the value of vulnerability and transparency, and sees these qualities as a part of the process of realization and self-discovery.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker asks for accountability by urging people to take notes, listing down three things they know to be true about their experiences.
1:01:03 - 1:03:58 (02:55)
Summary
The speaker asks for accountability by urging people to take notes, listing down three things they know to be true about their experiences. The podcast ends with a brief set of final questions to cap off the discussion on accountability.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Terry Crews discusses the value of heart strength and using his platform for service and impact, alongside his physical strength and appearance.
1:03:58 - 1:08:20 (04:22)
Summary
Terry Crews discusses the value of heart strength and using his platform for service and impact, alongside his physical strength and appearance.
Episode760 Terry Crews on Success, Accountability, and Toxic Masculinity
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The episode discusses taking a powerful step towards achieving dreams, an interactive children's book app that brings characters to life, and storytelling with Terry.
1:08:20 - 1:11:05 (02:45)
Summary
The episode discusses taking a powerful step towards achieving dreams, an interactive children's book app that brings characters to life, and storytelling with Terry.