Episode
The secret to making new friends as an adult | Marisa G. Franco
32:57
Published: Thu Feb 02 2023
Description
Making friends as an adult can feel like a baffling obstacle course. Why was it so much easier to connect as kids? To help you find well-rounded and fulfilling friendships, psychologist Marisa Franco discusses science-backed tips on how to make (and keep) friends, like the optimism-inducing "acceptance prophecy" and the shame-reducing "theory of chums." Learn more about the power of platonic love and how it can help you experience the full richness and complexity of who you are. (This conversation, hosted by TED current affairs curator Whitney Pennington Rodgers, was part of an exclusive TED Membership event. Visit ted.com/membership to become a TED Member.)
Chapters
Research suggests that assuming people like you can lead to making more friends and feeling less lonely in the long run, while assuming the opposite can have the opposite effect.
00:00 - 06:27 (06:27)
Summary
Research suggests that assuming people like you can lead to making more friends and feeling less lonely in the long run, while assuming the opposite can have the opposite effect.
EpisodeThe secret to making new friends as an adult | Marisa G. Franco
PodcastTED Talks Daily
The experience of experiencing platonic love from friends can teach us the importance of connecting with people and of accepting all sides of ourselves, even the parts we feel shame about.
06:27 - 17:15 (10:47)
Summary
The experience of experiencing platonic love from friends can teach us the importance of connecting with people and of accepting all sides of ourselves, even the parts we feel shame about. It can help us move away from fear and mistrust and towards optimism and hope in our relationships with others.
EpisodeThe secret to making new friends as an adult | Marisa G. Franco
PodcastTED Talks Daily
Generating exclusivity with someone in a group by developing memories and experiences is key to creating meaningful friendships.
17:15 - 32:23 (15:08)
Summary
Generating exclusivity with someone in a group by developing memories and experiences is key to creating meaningful friendships. Securely attached people who are comfortable with vulnerability and empathic tend to develop healthier relationships than anxiously attached people.