Episode
#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
1:38:33
Published: Mon Dec 13 2021
Description
Vincent Harinam is a data scientist, law enforcement consultant and writer on social phenomenon and the dating market. Between Tinder and OnlyFans, polyamory and Red Pill, incels, simps, sugar daddies and gold diggers, it's difficult to say that romance is alive and well in modern culture. Vincent has written some of the best articles and done huge deep data dives to uncover why the modern dating market is such a mess. Expect to learn why smart women are less likely to get married, why simping is such an unsuccessful dating strategy, how women's modern dating advice is mostly total trash, what Vincent's data uncovered around what women and men look for in a partner, how asymmetries in the dating market can create men who are dangerous for public safety and much more... Sponsors: Join the Modern Wisdom Community to connect with me & other listeners - https://modernwisdom.locals.com/ Get a $5 discount on Magic Spoon’s amazing cereal at https://magicspoon.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get 5 days unlimited access to Shortform for free at https://www.shortform.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and Free Shipping from Athletic Greens at https://athleticgreens.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Extra Stuff: Check out Vincent's articles - https://quillette.com/author/vincent-harinam/ Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/
Chapters
Vincent has done a deep data dive to uncover why the modern dating market is such a mess, discussing why smart women are less likely to get married, how women's modern dating advice is mostly total trash, asymmetries in the dating market creating men who are dangerous for public safety, and more.
00:00 - 01:52 (01:52)
Summary
Vincent has done a deep data dive to uncover why the modern dating market is such a mess, discussing why smart women are less likely to get married, how women's modern dating advice is mostly total trash, asymmetries in the dating market creating men who are dangerous for public safety, and more.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
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01:52 - 06:55 (05:02)
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Get a year's free supply of vitamin D supplements along with free travel packs, a shaker, and pot to store it in. Additionally, a gluten-free cereal with low carbs, sugar and high protein is being advertised.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
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The term "simp" originated from "simpleton" back in the 1920s.
06:55 - 13:13 (06:17)
Summary
The term "simp" originated from "simpleton" back in the 1920s. Men who fear rejection are willing to pay a price to remove it, even though the chance of genuine reciprocation is low, and this behavior can be described as "simping".
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
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The concept of masculinity has evolved over time due to societal changes and its depiction in media.
13:13 - 20:35 (07:22)
Summary
The concept of masculinity has evolved over time due to societal changes and its depiction in media. The traits associated with masculinity, such as being a warrior or a frontiersman, have been largely attributed to men despite women also possessing these qualities.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
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The perfect man combines disagreeability with agreeability, as disagreeable men tend to make more money.
20:35 - 26:36 (06:00)
Summary
The perfect man combines disagreeability with agreeability, as disagreeable men tend to make more money. However, he should also possess the dad perspective for long-term relationships.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
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The episode discusses the idea of men being more powerful than women based on the fact that women are the gatekeepers of the sexual marketplace, but also highlights the important role each gender plays in courting and mating.
26:36 - 32:08 (05:32)
Summary
The episode discusses the idea of men being more powerful than women based on the fact that women are the gatekeepers of the sexual marketplace, but also highlights the important role each gender plays in courting and mating.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The podcast hosts discuss whether women experience the same pain of rejection in dating as men and ask female listeners to share their thoughts.
32:10 - 39:06 (06:56)
Summary
The podcast hosts discuss whether women experience the same pain of rejection in dating as men and ask female listeners to share their thoughts. They also touch on the topic of online dating and incel/red pill culture blaming women's high standards for a lack of sex.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The limited number of desirable partners among tribes or social groups creates a large number of lonely and sexually frustrated people.
39:06 - 47:42 (08:35)
Summary
The limited number of desirable partners among tribes or social groups creates a large number of lonely and sexually frustrated people. This problem is severe because a minority of men are receiving most of the female attention.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The adoption of more relaxed rules around casual sex and birth control means women can engage in sex without fear of having children and pursue higher value men.
47:42 - 54:26 (06:44)
Summary
The adoption of more relaxed rules around casual sex and birth control means women can engage in sex without fear of having children and pursue higher value men. However, this may affect their long-term goals and aspirations regarding who they wish to be in a long-term relationship with, and what they hope to achieve in life.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The increasing age of women having children may lead to resentment in incel culture because the focus is on high-value men who are tying up potential available women's fertile years, preventing other men from having children, which leads to a rivalry.
54:27 - 1:02:18 (07:51)
Summary
The increasing age of women having children may lead to resentment in incel culture because the focus is on high-value men who are tying up potential available women's fertile years, preventing other men from having children, which leads to a rivalry. Men who have no intention of being in a long-term relationship give off signals to deceive women who seek such commitments.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
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The speaker suggests that polygamy could be a solution for women's hypergamous nature, as it can decrease the number of single people by having many women with one man at the top, while leaving men at the bottom to be cast away.
1:02:18 - 1:07:10 (04:51)
Summary
The speaker suggests that polygamy could be a solution for women's hypergamous nature, as it can decrease the number of single people by having many women with one man at the top, while leaving men at the bottom to be cast away.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The podcast discusses how societal norms are pushing people towards a more masculine way of doing things, even in situations where it benefits men over women.
1:07:10 - 1:13:10 (06:00)
Summary
The podcast discusses how societal norms are pushing people towards a more masculine way of doing things, even in situations where it benefits men over women.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
PodcastModern Wisdom
Women generally prefer men who are taller than them, while men prefer women who are shorter.
1:13:10 - 1:19:27 (06:17)
Summary
Women generally prefer men who are taller than them, while men prefer women who are shorter. This height preference may lead to older women seeking taller partners due to their higher economic and educational achievements.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
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The speaker acknowledges the enduring nature of hypergamy and its negative correlation with a woman's professional success.
1:19:27 - 1:29:46 (10:18)
Summary
The speaker acknowledges the enduring nature of hypergamy and its negative correlation with a woman's professional success. Women have the advantage of being able to settle, but the current societal priority on stable relationships is decreasing.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
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The speaker expresses concern about the impact that the rise of insultum could have on crime rates, particularly the fringes of incels engaging in criminal activity.
1:29:46 - 1:35:16 (05:29)
Summary
The speaker expresses concern about the impact that the rise of insultum could have on crime rates, particularly the fringes of incels engaging in criminal activity. They caution about the potential consequences of labeling this group as terrorists, which could lead to further verbal activity.
Episode#410 - Vincent Harinam - Why Is The Modern Dating Market A Mess?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The speaker discusses the constraint of time and cognitive capital and how it affects productivity and creativity.
1:35:16 - 1:38:32 (03:16)
Summary
The speaker discusses the constraint of time and cognitive capital and how it affects productivity and creativity.