Episode

Your Turn: How to Be an Adult | Julie Lythcott-Haims
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21:41
Published: Tue Aug 02 2022
Description

By loading kids with high expectations and micromanaging their lives at every turn, parents aren't actually helping. At least, that's how Julie Lythcott-Haims sees it. With passion and wry humor, the former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford makes the case for parents to stop defining their children's success via grades and test scores. Instead, she says, they should focus on providing the oldest idea of all: unconditional love. After the talk, stick around for a discussion on how you can be a grown-up, too, as Elise and Julie discuss her new book, "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult." This episode is part of the TED Talks Daily summer book club, a series featuring talks and interviews to inspire your next great read. And if you'd like to learn more from Julie, you can enroll in her new TED Course, which builds off the ideas from her book. Whether you're just launching your adult life or finally giving yourself permission to question what adulthood even is, you'll learn practical strategies to build a future that fits you. Enroll at tedtalks.social/bestself.

Chapters
Author Julie Lithcott-Hames discusses the negative effects of modern parenting on children and offers tips on how to raise self-sufficient kids.
00:00 - 01:29 (01:29)
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Parenting
Summary

Author Julie Lithcott-Hames discusses the negative effects of modern parenting on children and offers tips on how to raise self-sufficient kids. Stick around after her talk to hear more about her new book, Your Turn, How to Be an Adult, and her new online course for TED on building a future that fits you.

Episode
Your Turn: How to Be an Adult | Julie Lythcott-Haims
Podcast
TED Talks Daily
The pressure placed on children to achieve high grades and scores can send the message that they can't succeed without their parents' constant intervention.
01:29 - 11:39 (10:10)
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Parenting
Summary

The pressure placed on children to achieve high grades and scores can send the message that they can't succeed without their parents' constant intervention. Instead, parents should value other aspects of childhood development such as love and chores.

Episode
Your Turn: How to Be an Adult | Julie Lythcott-Haims
Podcast
TED Talks Daily
The speaker argues that success isn't tied to a student's acceptance at a prestigious college, and that limiting choices for students only hurts their chances.
11:39 - 17:51 (06:11)
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Education
Summary

The speaker argues that success isn't tied to a student's acceptance at a prestigious college, and that limiting choices for students only hurts their chances.

Episode
Your Turn: How to Be an Adult | Julie Lythcott-Haims
Podcast
TED Talks Daily
The current precarious state of the world can drive the urgency to take charge of one's life, including taking care of work, relationships, health and being a contributing member of the community, regardless of living situation.
17:51 - 21:24 (03:33)
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Personal Development
Summary

The current precarious state of the world can drive the urgency to take charge of one's life, including taking care of work, relationships, health and being a contributing member of the community, regardless of living situation.

Episode
Your Turn: How to Be an Adult | Julie Lythcott-Haims
Podcast
TED Talks Daily