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Couples Therapy: Taking Responsibility
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40:24 - 46:17 (05:53)

In couples therapy, taking responsibility is essential. One needs to work on themselves first rather than coming in and just blaming the partner for everything.

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The victim position causes individuals to view themselves as the victim, and everyone else as the problem, leading to complaints and anxiety.
40:24 - 41:10 (00:46)
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Victim Mentality
Summary

The victim position causes individuals to view themselves as the victim, and everyone else as the problem, leading to complaints and anxiety. It can also lead to a cycle of hurt, as individuals believe they have the right to hurt those who have hurt them.

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Couples Therapy: Taking Responsibility
Episode
A MASTERCLASS On Narcissists: How To Spot, Handle & Avoid Them EP 1281
Podcast
The School of Greatness
In this episode, the speaker distinguishes between the two types of compassion.
41:10 - 41:47 (00:37)
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Compassion
Summary

In this episode, the speaker distinguishes between the two types of compassion. Idiot compassion is what we do with our friends, while wise compassion is what we need to cultivate in ourselves to help others change.

Chapter
Couples Therapy: Taking Responsibility
Episode
A MASTERCLASS On Narcissists: How To Spot, Handle & Avoid Them EP 1281
Podcast
The School of Greatness
Couples therapy focuses on individuals working to improve themselves and their behaviors in order to create a better relationship, rather than just pointing out what their partner needs to change.
41:47 - 43:56 (02:09)
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Couples Therapy
Summary

Couples therapy focuses on individuals working to improve themselves and their behaviors in order to create a better relationship, rather than just pointing out what their partner needs to change. Assignments are given to encourage self-improvement and tackling relationship issues as a team.

Chapter
Couples Therapy: Taking Responsibility
Episode
A MASTERCLASS On Narcissists: How To Spot, Handle & Avoid Them EP 1281
Podcast
The School of Greatness
The easiest way to help someone change is to make it easier for them.
43:56 - 45:25 (01:29)
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Personal Development
Summary

The easiest way to help someone change is to make it easier for them. It's important to encourage incremental improvements rather than expecting immediate and complete change.

Chapter
Couples Therapy: Taking Responsibility
Episode
A MASTERCLASS On Narcissists: How To Spot, Handle & Avoid Them EP 1281
Podcast
The School of Greatness
Couples tend to compare their struggles in a relationship which leads to no winning.
45:25 - 46:17 (00:52)
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Relationships
Summary

Couples tend to compare their struggles in a relationship which leads to no winning. Instead of acting it out, couples should directly tell the other person how they're struggling in a relationship.

Chapter
Couples Therapy: Taking Responsibility
Episode
A MASTERCLASS On Narcissists: How To Spot, Handle & Avoid Them EP 1281
Podcast
The School of Greatness