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Couples Therapy: Taking Responsibility
40:24 - 46:17 (05:53)
In couples therapy, taking responsibility is essential. One needs to work on themselves first rather than coming in and just blaming the partner for everything.
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The victim position causes individuals to view themselves as the victim, and everyone else as the problem, leading to complaints and anxiety.
40:24 - 41:10 (00:46)
Summary
The victim position causes individuals to view themselves as the victim, and everyone else as the problem, leading to complaints and anxiety. It can also lead to a cycle of hurt, as individuals believe they have the right to hurt those who have hurt them.
ChapterCouples Therapy: Taking Responsibility
EpisodeA MASTERCLASS On Narcissists: How To Spot, Handle & Avoid Them EP 1281
PodcastThe School of Greatness
In this episode, the speaker distinguishes between the two types of compassion.
41:10 - 41:47 (00:37)
Summary
In this episode, the speaker distinguishes between the two types of compassion. Idiot compassion is what we do with our friends, while wise compassion is what we need to cultivate in ourselves to help others change.
ChapterCouples Therapy: Taking Responsibility
EpisodeA MASTERCLASS On Narcissists: How To Spot, Handle & Avoid Them EP 1281
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Couples therapy focuses on individuals working to improve themselves and their behaviors in order to create a better relationship, rather than just pointing out what their partner needs to change.
41:47 - 43:56 (02:09)
Summary
Couples therapy focuses on individuals working to improve themselves and their behaviors in order to create a better relationship, rather than just pointing out what their partner needs to change. Assignments are given to encourage self-improvement and tackling relationship issues as a team.
ChapterCouples Therapy: Taking Responsibility
EpisodeA MASTERCLASS On Narcissists: How To Spot, Handle & Avoid Them EP 1281
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The easiest way to help someone change is to make it easier for them.
43:56 - 45:25 (01:29)
Summary
The easiest way to help someone change is to make it easier for them. It's important to encourage incremental improvements rather than expecting immediate and complete change.
ChapterCouples Therapy: Taking Responsibility
EpisodeA MASTERCLASS On Narcissists: How To Spot, Handle & Avoid Them EP 1281
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Couples tend to compare their struggles in a relationship which leads to no winning.
45:25 - 46:17 (00:52)
Summary
Couples tend to compare their struggles in a relationship which leads to no winning. Instead of acting it out, couples should directly tell the other person how they're struggling in a relationship.