The starting point to achieve your goals and become the person you want to be is to define who you want to be and the behaviors you want to have. This process starts with a blank piece of paper and focusing on what you want, not what you don't want.
The speaker shares how he uses a machine to manage and reduce anxiety. This machine helps him calm down and relax, replacing the human system that can't do anxiety.
Unpacking and recognizing the real you starts with examining what is not you by listening to the words you use and examining past life events in order to unravel and build a healthy sense of self.