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The Negative Effects of Over-Praising Children
31:06 - 40:21 (09:14)
Over-praising children for their inherent qualities can actually lower their self-esteem rather than raising it, according to recent research. Autonomy-supportive parenting, which allows a child to struggle and learn through frustration, can lead to a better ability to complete difficult tasks in the long term.
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This podcast talks about how over-parenting can hinder long-term motivation and affect the ability to enter a flow state.
31:06 - 33:33 (02:27)
Summary
This podcast talks about how over-parenting can hinder long-term motivation and affect the ability to enter a flow state. The speaker draws insight from Dan Pink and Edward D. C.'s research on motivation.
ChapterThe Negative Effects of Over-Praising Children
Episode#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
Kids with autonomy-supportive parenting are able to complete difficult tasks because they are comfortable with frustration, while extrinsic motivators undermine long-term motivation.
33:33 - 37:20 (03:46)
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Kids with autonomy-supportive parenting are able to complete difficult tasks because they are comfortable with frustration, while extrinsic motivators undermine long-term motivation. When parents and teachers do too much for children, it takes away valuable learning opportunities and prevents children from becoming more competent and capable.
ChapterThe Negative Effects of Over-Praising Children
Episode#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
Parents have been led to believe that constantly praising their kids will create a force field of self-esteem around them, but this approach can actually lower kids' self-esteem.
37:21 - 40:21 (03:00)
Summary
Parents have been led to believe that constantly praising their kids will create a force field of self-esteem around them, but this approach can actually lower kids' self-esteem. Instead, kids' self-esteem is raised by competence, which turns into genuine confidence through actual experience.