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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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Published: Thu Dec 09 2021
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Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation | Brought to you by Wealthfront automated investing and Athletic Greens all-in-one nutritional supplement.Jessica Lahey (@jesslahey) is the author of the New York Times bestselling book The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. Over twenty years, Jessica has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont. She currently serves as a recovery coach at Sana at Stowe, a medical detox and recovery center in Stowe, Vermont, where 100 percent of her salary goes to a scholarship fund for young adults.Jessica writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Washington Post, The New York Times, and The Atlantic, is a book critic for Air Mail, and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ award-winning The Stinky and Dirty Show. She co-hosts the #AmWriting podcast with bestselling authors KJ Dell’Antonia and Sarina Bowen from her house in Vermont, where she lives with her husband, two sons, and a lot of dogs.Please enjoy!This episode is brought to you by Athletic Greens. I get asked all the time, “If you could only use one supplement, what would it be?” My answer is usually Athletic Greens, my all-in-one nutritional insurance. I recommended it in The 4-Hour Body in 2010 and did not get paid to do so. I do my best with nutrient-dense meals, of course, but AG further covers my bases with vitamins, minerals, and whole-food-sourced micronutrients that support gut health and the immune system. Right now, Athletic Greens is offering you their Vitamin D Liquid Formula free with your first subscription purchase—a vital nutrient for a strong immune system and strong bones. Visit AthleticGreens.com/Tim to claim this special offer today and receive the free Vitamin D Liquid Formula (and five free travel packs) with your first subscription purchase! That’s up to a one-year supply of Vitamin D as added value when you try their delicious and comprehensive all-in-one daily greens product.*This episode is also brought to you by Wealthfront! Wealthfront pioneered the automated investing movement, sometimes referred to as ‘robo-advising,’ and they currently oversee $20 billion of assets for their clients. It takes about three minutes to sign up, and then Wealthfront will build you a globally diversified portfolio of ETFs based on your risk appetite and manage it for you at an incredibly low cost. Smart investing should not feel like a rollercoaster ride. Let the professionals do the work for you. Go to Wealthfront.com/Tim and open a Wealthfront account today, and you’ll get your first $5,000 managed for free, for life. Wealthfront will automate your investments for the long term. Get started today at Wealthfront.com/Tim.*For show notes and past guests, please visit tim.blog/podcast.Sign up for Tim’s email newsletter (“5-Bullet Friday”) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim’s books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss YouTube: youtube.com/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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This podcast episode mentions a special offer from Athletic Greens for a free vitamin D supplement and travel packs with a subscription purchase.
00:00 - 05:31 (05:31)
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Athletic Greens, BlockFi
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This podcast episode mentions a special offer from Athletic Greens for a free vitamin D supplement and travel packs with a subscription purchase. It also discusses an upcoming feature from BlockFi to trade cryptocurrency directly with a bank account and their credit card that allows users to earn Bitcoin back on purchases.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
A middle school teacher talks about the potential of education in sixth, seventh, and eighth grades and emphasizes the lack of effort put into ninth-grade education.
05:32 - 11:38 (06:06)
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Education
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A middle school teacher talks about the potential of education in sixth, seventh, and eighth grades and emphasizes the lack of effort put into ninth-grade education.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
In this podcast episode, the host discusses his previous desire to teach ninth grade, the influence teachers have on students' direction, and the importance of patience in seeing learning moments unfold in middle school.
11:39 - 18:00 (06:21)
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Teaching
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In this podcast episode, the host discusses his previous desire to teach ninth grade, the influence teachers have on students' direction, and the importance of patience in seeing learning moments unfold in middle school.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
The episode discusses epigenetics, the study of how environmental factors can impact gene expression, and its role in addiction and recovery.
18:00 - 23:59 (05:59)
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Addiction
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The episode discusses epigenetics, the study of how environmental factors can impact gene expression, and its role in addiction and recovery. It emphasizes the importance of researching the root causes of addiction rather than just focusing on the end result.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
This podcast episode explores how psychedelics and other substances can help individuals disassociate from their physical being and reduce fear around dying, as well as the intersection between addiction and end-of-life care.
23:59 - 31:06 (07:06)
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Psychedelics
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This podcast episode explores how psychedelics and other substances can help individuals disassociate from their physical being and reduce fear around dying, as well as the intersection between addiction and end-of-life care.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
Over-praising children for their inherent qualities can actually lower their self-esteem rather than raising it, according to recent research.
31:06 - 40:21 (09:14)
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Parenting
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Over-praising children for their inherent qualities can actually lower their self-esteem rather than raising it, according to recent research. Autonomy-supportive parenting, which allows a child to struggle and learn through frustration, can lead to a better ability to complete difficult tasks in the long term.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
The author expresses her frustration towards parents who steal their children's learning opportunities by always fixing things for them.
40:21 - 45:37 (05:16)
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Gift of Failure
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The author expresses her frustration towards parents who steal their children's learning opportunities by always fixing things for them. She argues that the fear of making mistakes and the obsession with perfection creates a culture where children are afraid to fail and inhibits their ability to learn and grow.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
Esther Wojcicki talks about the importance of having one person who can help you believe in yourself, offering hope and optimism for the future.
45:37 - 51:56 (06:18)
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Education
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Esther Wojcicki talks about the importance of having one person who can help you believe in yourself, offering hope and optimism for the future. She also recommends a book that inspires her to write and gives her a "jab in the arm".

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
The speaker shares their thoughts on parenting, cultural influences, and their approach to finding joy in life.
51:56 - 55:12 (03:16)
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Parenting, Culture, Happiness
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The speaker shares their thoughts on parenting, cultural influences, and their approach to finding joy in life.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
The speaker shares their experience with medically assisted detox, being a role model for recovery and prioritizing sobriety in social situations.
55:12 - 1:01:06 (05:54)
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Medically Assisted Detox
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The speaker shares their experience with medically assisted detox, being a role model for recovery and prioritizing sobriety in social situations.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
Inoculation theory can be used to provide kids with real data on the actual prevalence of risky behaviors, such as drug and alcohol use, and help them make informed decisions to avoid them in the future.
1:01:06 - 1:11:17 (10:10)
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Inoculation theory
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Inoculation theory can be used to provide kids with real data on the actual prevalence of risky behaviors, such as drug and alcohol use, and help them make informed decisions to avoid them in the future. This theory can be applied to various risky behaviors, including not getting in a car with a drunk driver or having sex before they are ready.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
The importance of being specific and addressing the use of the word "addiction" in writing is highlighted, as the speaker shares their experience of turning a two-chapter book into a bestseller by being honest about addiction.
1:11:17 - 1:18:30 (07:12)
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Addiction
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The importance of being specific and addressing the use of the word "addiction" in writing is highlighted, as the speaker shares their experience of turning a two-chapter book into a bestseller by being honest about addiction. Negotiating for probationary chapters and meeting deadlines also proved to be valuable skills for writing success.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
Journalist Esther Wojcicki shares valuable writing tips she learned from her editor, including starting with your last paragraph and auditing the language you use to eliminate repetitive words.
1:18:30 - 1:24:08 (05:37)
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Writing Tips
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Journalist Esther Wojcicki shares valuable writing tips she learned from her editor, including starting with your last paragraph and auditing the language you use to eliminate repetitive words.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
The speaker believes that it is important to read bad books.
1:24:08 - 1:28:52 (04:44)
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Writing
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The speaker believes that it is important to read bad books. It helps to have people like bad writers who are not afraid to tell the truth and take a risk as an example, to boost your confidence as a writer.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
The speaker shares how investing in his kids' interests, even if they do not necessarily interest him, has been a great learning experience.
1:28:52 - 1:33:10 (04:17)
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Parenting
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The speaker shares how investing in his kids' interests, even if they do not necessarily interest him, has been a great learning experience. Such investment has also enabled his kids to take up speaking trips, find crystal stores, and produce digital music.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
The speaker talks about the importance of meaningful possessions in his life, and how they could act as a reminder of the journey he has gone through.
1:33:10 - 1:38:54 (05:43)
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Possessions
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The speaker talks about the importance of meaningful possessions in his life, and how they could act as a reminder of the journey he has gone through.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
The guest discusses the importance of having difficult conversations with children and avoiding avoidance on such topics, highlighting the relevance of educating oneself via the means of books, as well as an anecdote about a personal carousel experience.
1:38:54 - 1:43:51 (04:57)
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Parenting
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The guest discusses the importance of having difficult conversations with children and avoiding avoidance on such topics, highlighting the relevance of educating oneself via the means of books, as well as an anecdote about a personal carousel experience.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
Tim Ferriss's Five Bullet Friday newsletter includes articles, books, gadgets, and podcasts recommended by his friends and podcast guests.
1:43:51 - 1:47:47 (03:55)
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Newsletter
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Tim Ferriss's Five Bullet Friday newsletter includes articles, books, gadgets, and podcasts recommended by his friends and podcast guests. One of the featured items is a recovery high school based in Massachusetts.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show
BlockFi offers a credit card that allows users to earn Bitcoin while shopping and is now offering a bonus for opening a new account, while Athletic Greens is giving away a free vitamin D supplement and travel packs with your first subscription purchase.
1:47:47 - 1:50:09 (02:22)
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Bitcoin
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BlockFi offers a credit card that allows users to earn Bitcoin while shopping and is now offering a bonus for opening a new account, while Athletic Greens is giving away a free vitamin D supplement and travel packs with your first subscription purchase.

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#553: Jessica Lahey on Parenting, Desirable Difficulties, The Gift of Failure, Self-Efficacy, and The Addiction Inoculation
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The Tim Ferriss Show