Psychologist John Bowlby observed different ways that children relate to their caregivers based on how they were raised during World War II, leading to different outcomes in their relationships with others throughout life.
Understanding and adjusting one's autonomic nervous system can help achieve cognitive empathy which can help us gain better self-awareness and navigate healthier romantic relationships or breakups, according to psychologists.
The speaker shares an anecdote about how jumping to conclusions can lead to conflict in relationships and stresses the importance of effective communication.
The way we first saw love modeled to us, especially by our parents, often determines our attachment style. Dr. Levine's book, Attached, explains the different attachment styles - secure, anxious, avoidant, and not secure.
Our attachment templates in romantic relationships are based on the templates we created as children for feeling safe and secure in novel environments, depending on the presence of our primary caregiver. Failing to understand this can affect our ability to form and maintain healthy romantic relationships.
Couples therapy involves helping couples recognize the negative patterns in their relationship and shifting towards a positive dance. This can involve phrases or questions to understand each other's needs and feelings.