Episode
#599 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
1:35:05
Published: Thu Mar 09 2023
Description
Adam Lane Smith is a psychotherapist and an author. Adam has helped thousands of patients and couples to deal with problems from childhood, their relationships and their sex lives. He also writes amazing Twitter threads filled with insights from his time as a therapist and today we get to go through some of my favourites. Expect to learn the common trend Adam saw in every couples' therapy session he conducted, the biggest differences between male and female communication styles, why so many young girls are on depression medication, why the female sex drive switches after 6 to 12 months into a relationship, what mistakes all women wish guys would stop making on the first 3 dates and much more... Sponsors: Get the Whoop 4.0 for free and get your first month for free at http://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Download Hevy, the best workout tracker for free at https://hevyapp.app.link/modernwisdom Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and more from Athletic Greens at https://athleticgreens.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Extra Stuff: Check out Adam's website - https://adamlanesmith.com/ Follow Adam on Twitter - https://twitter.com/TheBrometheus Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/
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Episode#599 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
Most couples seek therapy when it's already too late to salvage their relationship.
05:23 - 10:05 (04:41)
Summary
Most couples seek therapy when it's already too late to salvage their relationship. However, coaching men to fix their attachment issues is more practical and effective in overcoming dating problems, insecurities, fears, and other issues that stem from broken attachment.
Episode#599 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
The American school system is not designed for young boys and the system punishes those who stick out and medicates them instead of changing their response.
10:05 - 19:04 (08:58)
Summary
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Episode#599 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
The traditional therapy approaches are not designed to help the male brain deal with pain or find solutions to restore a sense of personal power.
19:04 - 33:57 (14:52)
Summary
The traditional therapy approaches are not designed to help the male brain deal with pain or find solutions to restore a sense of personal power. Most men avoid therapy because they feel helpless and want solutions, not just feelings of being heard and loved.
Episode#599 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
As a man who has built his own business, has been married for 14 years, and has been a marriage and family therapist and dating coach, the speaker claims that most women want a loving relationship, to feel safe, build a family, and support their partner's goals.
33:57 - 48:49 (14:51)
Summary
As a man who has built his own business, has been married for 14 years, and has been a marriage and family therapist and dating coach, the speaker claims that most women want a loving relationship, to feel safe, build a family, and support their partner's goals. He debunks the idea perpetuated in "red pill culture" that women are all emotionally unstable and incapable of love.
Episode#599 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
Couples therapist explains how improving emotional bonding and attachment can lead to better sex and relationships, and how to overcome oxytocin aversion and anxious attachment.
48:50 - 1:03:39 (14:48)
Summary
Couples therapist explains how improving emotional bonding and attachment can lead to better sex and relationships, and how to overcome oxytocin aversion and anxious attachment.
Episode#599 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
Men evolved to develop solving skills in communication, while women developed sharing skills.
1:03:39 - 1:18:11 (14:32)
Summary
Men evolved to develop solving skills in communication, while women developed sharing skills. This can lead to women with attachment issues actively rejecting the emotional connection that would enhance their relationship and sex drive.
Episode#599 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
Women who believe they have little to offer in the dating marketplace may resort to offering sex as a means of keeping a man, which ultimately attracts avoidant or anxious partners.
1:18:11 - 1:32:59 (14:47)
Summary
Women who believe they have little to offer in the dating marketplace may resort to offering sex as a means of keeping a man, which ultimately attracts avoidant or anxious partners. However, a secure and stable person is more likely to seek a life partnership through sharing stories that illuminate their values and goals.
Episode#599 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
Adam Lane Smith shares insights on attachment theory, building relationships, and creating social media presence on several platforms through his website, courses, and personal coaching.
1:32:59 - 1:35:01 (02:01)
Summary
Adam Lane Smith shares insights on attachment theory, building relationships, and creating social media presence on several platforms through his website, courses, and personal coaching.