Episode
#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
1:34:25
Published: Thu Feb 23 2023
Description
Alex DatePsych is a Neuroscience and Behavioural Science researcher whose work focuses on attractiveness and dating. We are in a new age of sexlessness. It could be that right now, the human race is having less sex than ever before. Given the rise of dating apps, the sexual revolution and hormonal birth control, how is this happening? Expect to learn what the science says about whether girls find it creepy to be approached, whether dating is harder for young men now than in the past, why women's sexual desire declines at twice the rate of mens' in marriages, why there is a PUA to Incel Pipeline, if it's true that women's standards have risen over the last few decades, whether inceldom is all about looks and much more... Sponsors: Get 15% discount on Craftd London’s jewellery at https://bit.ly/cdwisdom (use code MW15) Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first box at https://www.drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout) Get the Whoop 4.0 for free and get your first month for free at http://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Extra Stuff: Check out Alex's website - https://datepsychology.com/ Follow Alex on Twitter - https://twitter.com/datepsych Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/
Chapters
Listen in as the host discusses issues such as the evolving standards of women and the pipeline from pick-up artist to incel.
00:00 - 04:49 (04:49)
Summary
Listen in as the host discusses issues such as the evolving standards of women and the pipeline from pick-up artist to incel. Also, get an insight into why women's sexual desire declines at twice the rate of men's in marriages, and whether dating is more difficult for young men today than in the past, and more.
Episode#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
PodcastModern Wisdom
While 86% of women report experiencing creepy behavior, men approaching women isn't one of them.
04:49 - 14:16 (09:27)
Summary
While 86% of women report experiencing creepy behavior, men approaching women isn't one of them. Additionally, only about 10% of Americans meet online for dating, with the majority still meeting through traditional means like work, school, and friends.
Episode#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The societal stigma surrounding approaching someone in a pub or work, can oftentimes negatively impact people from forming relationships or engaging in pro-social behavior.
14:16 - 19:22 (05:05)
Summary
The societal stigma surrounding approaching someone in a pub or work, can oftentimes negatively impact people from forming relationships or engaging in pro-social behavior. Having strict rules can result in less sex and fewer relationships.
Episode#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
PodcastModern Wisdom
Young people are having less sex than before, and this trend is attributed to risk aversion and extending adolescence.
19:22 - 27:44 (08:21)
Summary
Young people are having less sex than before, and this trend is attributed to risk aversion and extending adolescence. The decrease in sexual activity is also linked to the rise of online communication and social media.
Episode#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
PodcastModern Wisdom
Educated and employed women have a smaller dating pool as men do not value education and employment prospects in their partners.
27:44 - 35:20 (07:35)
Summary
Educated and employed women have a smaller dating pool as men do not value education and employment prospects in their partners. Women also face competition from younger women who may not have the same level of education and employment.
Episode#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
PodcastModern Wisdom
Despite the misconception that women receive more swipes and have more sex, research shows that sexual strategies theory, like short-term mating, only applies to a certain group of women, indicating that swipe data may not represent actual dating behavior.
35:20 - 43:45 (08:24)
Summary
Despite the misconception that women receive more swipes and have more sex, research shows that sexual strategies theory, like short-term mating, only applies to a certain group of women, indicating that swipe data may not represent actual dating behavior.
Episode#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The shift in evolutionary psychology has moved from the idea of having two dualistic mating strategies, short-term and long-term, to realizing that there’s a lot of overlap between the two strategies, and that short-term strategies can be a doorway into long-term strategies.
43:45 - 50:09 (06:24)
Summary
The shift in evolutionary psychology has moved from the idea of having two dualistic mating strategies, short-term and long-term, to realizing that there’s a lot of overlap between the two strategies, and that short-term strategies can be a doorway into long-term strategies.
Episode#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The podcast explores the common myths and misconceptions that men have about what women find attractive in them, specifically in terms of physical features and personality traits.
50:09 - 58:32 (08:22)
Summary
The podcast explores the common myths and misconceptions that men have about what women find attractive in them, specifically in terms of physical features and personality traits.
Episode#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The PUA and Incel communities have a lot of variations in terms of their beliefs and opinions.
58:32 - 1:05:20 (06:47)
Summary
The PUA and Incel communities have a lot of variations in terms of their beliefs and opinions. Also, the trend of people transitioning from PUA to Incel communities has been observed.
Episode#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
PodcastModern Wisdom
This podcast episode highlights the negative consequences of relying on internet dating advice that often lacks scientific proof and how it can lead to people with traumatic experiences and poor resilience.
1:05:20 - 1:18:58 (13:38)
Summary
This podcast episode highlights the negative consequences of relying on internet dating advice that often lacks scientific proof and how it can lead to people with traumatic experiences and poor resilience. It also questions the validity of preselection and sexy son hypotheses, and how people's beliefs about the mating market affect their perspectives on relationships.
Episode#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The decline in libido over time and self-rated sexual satisfaction for women coming off birth control highlights the link between birth control and relationship satisfaction.
1:18:58 - 1:27:01 (08:03)
Summary
The decline in libido over time and self-rated sexual satisfaction for women coming off birth control highlights the link between birth control and relationship satisfaction. However, there are mixed results on how hormonal birth control affects libido on an individual level.
Episode#593 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is No One Having Sex?
PodcastModern Wisdom
Dr. John Gottman identified four things that could predict who would end up in divorce and the top one of those was contempt.
1:27:01 - 1:34:12 (07:11)
Summary
Dr. John Gottman identified four things that could predict who would end up in divorce and the top one of those was contempt. Online dating communities often display negativity and vitriol toward the opposite sex, which is counterproductive for forming healthy relationships.