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#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
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Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost) | Brought to you by ButcherBox and Laird Superfood. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel (@EstherPerelOfficial) is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Esther is an acclaimed TED speaker and the host of the hit podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s Work?.In this episode, Esther and I explore:How to find (and convince) mentors who can change your life.What she’s learned from Holocaust survivors.Polyamory and close cousins.Is there such a thing as too much honesty in relationships?Can we want what we already have?Why do happy people cheat?And much, much more.This episode originally aired in 2017. You can find the show notes here: https://tim.blog/2017/05/21/esther-perel/ This episode is brought to you by ButcherBox! ButcherBox makes it easy for you to get high-quality, humanely raised meat that you can trust. They deliver delicious, 100% grass-fed, grass-finished beef; free-range organic chicken; heritage-breed pork, and wild-caught seafood directly to your door.For a limited time, new members can get 2 lbs of free ground beef in every ButcherBox order by signing up today at ButcherBox.com/Tim. That’s up to $180 in savings per year.*This episode is also brought to you by Laird Superfood. Founded by big-wave surfer Laird Hamilton and volleyball champion Gabby Reece, Laird Superfood promises to deliver high-impact fuel to help you get through your busiest days. Laird Superfood offers a line of plant-based products designed to optimize your daily rituals, from sunrise to sunset.My favorite two products are their Turmeric Superfood Creamer and Unsweetened Superfood Creamer. I put one of them in practically everything. Both can really optimize your daily coffee or tea ritual, and a $10 bag will last you a long time. For a limited time, Laird Superfood is offering you guys 20% off your order when you use code TIM at checkout. Check out lairdsuperfood.com/tim to see my favorite products and learn more.***If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. I also love reading the reviews!For show notes and past guests, please visit tim.blog/podcast.Sign up for Tim’s email newsletter (“5-Bullet Friday”) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim’s books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss YouTube: youtube.com/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, and many more. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
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Episode#463: Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost)
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