Episode
#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
1:12:07
Published: Thu Apr 28 2022
Description
Matthew Fray is a relationship coach, blogger and an author. Matthew's marriage ended because he left a glass next to the sink. Well, not exactly, but near enough. He spent the next few years recovering, reflecting and writing about how a relationship can fall apart without anything catastrophic happening, and also working out how to stop it from happening again. Expect to learn how even good people can be bad spouses, why men and women aren't speaking the same language in most relationships, why most divorces are initiated by women, why trust is even more important than love, why peace and contentment are better life goals than happiness, and much more... Sponsors: Join the Modern Wisdom Community to connect with me & other listeners - https://modernwisdom.locals.com/ Get over 37% discount on all products site-wide from MyProtein at https://bit.ly/proteinwisdom (use code: MODERNWISDOM) Get 83% discount & 3 months free from Surfshark VPN at https://surfshark.deals/MODERNWISDOM (use code MODERNWISDOM) Extra Stuff: Buy This Is How Your Marriage Ends - https://amzn.to/3L78KzK Check out Matthew's website - https://amzn.to/3L78KzK Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/
Chapters
The transcript covers recommendations for a range of products including proteins, health supplements and apparel, as well as a discussion on accessing global Netflix libraries and tools for maintaining successful relationships.
00:00 - 04:16 (04:16)
Summary
The transcript covers recommendations for a range of products including proteins, health supplements and apparel, as well as a discussion on accessing global Netflix libraries and tools for maintaining successful relationships.
Episode#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
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The speaker believes that most men are decent people who are unaware of the pain caused by their behavior in their romantic relationships.
04:16 - 10:26 (06:09)
Summary
The speaker believes that most men are decent people who are unaware of the pain caused by their behavior in their romantic relationships. She cites examples of external traumas and major negative actions that warrant the end of a marriage but acknowledges that not all men are bad and that men also face difficulties in the institution of marriage.
Episode#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
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The color that one person sees may not be the same as the color another person sees, even though they're both being shown the same thing.
10:26 - 16:21 (05:55)
Summary
The color that one person sees may not be the same as the color another person sees, even though they're both being shown the same thing. Trust is an important factor in relationships, and people often end relationships with those they love due to a lack of trust.
Episode#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
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The increasing financial burden on individuals in modern times has made relationships more complicated, especially when it comes to supporting a household.
16:21 - 26:03 (09:42)
Summary
The increasing financial burden on individuals in modern times has made relationships more complicated, especially when it comes to supporting a household. It is essential to pay attention to small issues in relationships and acknowledge each other's suffering to build healthy relationships.
Episode#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
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The easiest habit to make your relationship better is to learn how to validate instead of invalidate your partner.
26:03 - 29:57 (03:53)
Summary
The easiest habit to make your relationship better is to learn how to validate instead of invalidate your partner. This involves avoiding the three ways to invalidate someone, including disagreeing with them based on intellectual grounds, telling them they are wrong to feel the way they do, and ignoring their feelings.
Episode#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
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The way we respond to our partners can be crucial for relationship health.
29:57 - 35:36 (05:38)
Summary
The way we respond to our partners can be crucial for relationship health. Validating their emotions while also using logic can provide a better approach than just making them feel safe and loved.
Episode#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
The speaker reflects on the significant loss experienced and the challenges they faced in coping with it, including moving their mother.
35:36 - 43:00 (07:23)
Summary
The speaker reflects on the significant loss experienced and the challenges they faced in coping with it, including moving their mother. They also discuss the changes that have occurred since the loss and how they have affected their relationships.
Episode#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
The speaker reflects on the challenges men face in the dating market amid evolving female achievement with status, resources, and education, which make it harder for them to find women they're attracted to, and the culture of men who complain about women's outrageous standards.
43:00 - 48:33 (05:33)
Summary
The speaker reflects on the challenges men face in the dating market amid evolving female achievement with status, resources, and education, which make it harder for them to find women they're attracted to, and the culture of men who complain about women's outrageous standards.
Episode#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
The bottom 80% of men compete for the bottom 20% of women and the top 80% of women compete for the top 20% of men on dating apps.
48:33 - 51:51 (03:17)
Summary
The bottom 80% of men compete for the bottom 20% of women and the top 80% of women compete for the top 20% of men on dating apps. However, adopting a hopeful and positive perspective on relationships is key to making progress in the dating world.
Episode#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
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This episode explores men taking dating courses and the potential pitfalls of prioritizing learning over genuine development of one's impression and relationships.
51:51 - 1:03:41 (11:50)
Summary
This episode explores men taking dating courses and the potential pitfalls of prioritizing learning over genuine development of one's impression and relationships.
Episode#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
The modern dating movement for men often focuses on manipulation tactics to get women, but fails to consider the experiences and challenges women face in the dating market such as physical vulnerability and societal norms around casual sex.
1:03:41 - 1:10:53 (07:12)
Summary
The modern dating movement for men often focuses on manipulation tactics to get women, but fails to consider the experiences and challenges women face in the dating market such as physical vulnerability and societal norms around casual sex.
Episode#466 - Matthew Fray - How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
Matthew provides his contact information and invites people to participate in his conversations.
1:10:53 - 1:12:04 (01:10)
Summary
Matthew provides his contact information and invites people to participate in his conversations. He also shares discount codes for Myprotein and Surfshark VPN.