Chapter
Approaching Avoidant Attachment Styles in Relationships
38:31 - 43:35 (05:04)
To approach an avoidant attachment style in a calm and grounded manner, it is suggested to first recognize positive aspects of the relationship and then address the specific issue respectfully and non-judgmentally, as the avoidant individual may fear rejection or shame if expressing their own needs.
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Anxiously attached adults tend to withhold their needs until they explosively demand them, while avoidantly attached ones fear rejection and shame if they express vulnerability.
38:31 - 41:35 (03:04)
Summary
Anxiously attached adults tend to withhold their needs until they explosively demand them, while avoidantly attached ones fear rejection and shame if they express vulnerability. Both result from insecurity in expressing oneself vulnerably and having their needs met.
ChapterApproaching Avoidant Attachment Styles in Relationships
EpisodeHow to Improve Any Relationship: The 4 Attachment Styles You Need to Know & Tools to Become More Secure
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
When approaching the avoidantly attached person, you should remain calm, acknowledge everything they're doing right, and then subtly mention what would make the relationship even better.
41:35 - 43:35 (01:59)
Summary
When approaching the avoidantly attached person, you should remain calm, acknowledge everything they're doing right, and then subtly mention what would make the relationship even better. It is important to avoid making the avoidantly attached person feel like they cannot meet your expectations as this may cause them to withdraw.