Despite ignoring the warning signs, the speaker realizes that the person pursuing them was only interested in winning the challenge of winning her over after he messed up, and didn't have any genuine remorse for his dishonesty.
The speaker discusses how being in a toxic relationship led to severe trust issues, and how she conditioned herself to not follow her intuition or value herself, resulting in trauma and difficulty in future relationships.
The speaker reflects on how he realized that he had conditioned himself to believe that he was not worthy of love and real human connection. He recognizes that relationships are essential for his emotional and mental well-being.