Chapter
The Power of the Love Chemicals
47:46 - 53:01 (05:15)
Falling in love can release a powerful cocktail of chemicals that can make us feel pulled into a relationship, even if we're afraid of intimacy, which may replace some of our underlying wounds and triggers, as highlighted by the example of anxiously attached people feeling secure with each other for a year, or avoidantly attached people feeling comfortable with connection and intimacy.
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The presence of high arousal can be mistaken as a sign of love when it is actually a result of being triggered and feeling wounded.
47:46 - 49:15 (01:28)
Summary
The presence of high arousal can be mistaken as a sign of love when it is actually a result of being triggered and feeling wounded. As one becomes more secure, getting triggered and feeling uneasy in a relationship no longer becomes appealing.
ChapterThe Power of the Love Chemicals
EpisodeHow to Improve Any Relationship: The 4 Attachment Styles You Need to Know & Tools to Become More Secure
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
This episode talks about how the chemicals of falling in love can be so powerful that they can affect a person's wounds and triggers, making them feel secure in a relationship even if they are afraid of intimacy.
49:15 - 51:08 (01:52)
Summary
This episode talks about how the chemicals of falling in love can be so powerful that they can affect a person's wounds and triggers, making them feel secure in a relationship even if they are afraid of intimacy. However, these feelings may fade away once the couple starts living together and the reality of the relationship sets in.
ChapterThe Power of the Love Chemicals
EpisodeHow to Improve Any Relationship: The 4 Attachment Styles You Need to Know & Tools to Become More Secure
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Our attachment styles not only affect our expectations on romantic relationships but also in friendships.
51:08 - 53:01 (01:53)
Summary
Our attachment styles not only affect our expectations on romantic relationships but also in friendships. Insecure attachment may lead to becoming more accepting of insecure behavior from friends or partners, while avoidant attachment can result in having trust issues and difficulties in setting boundaries.