The speaker highlights the importance of grieving, feeling, and healing when coping with trauma. They emphasize the need for individuals to feel their emotions rather than suppressing or medicating them, and to allow themselves to grieve in a healthy way.
The quiet period after the initial shock of losing a loved one can be the most difficult as there is less support and one is left to their own devices. However, going through the process of grieving, recovering and uncovering the trauma is important for growth and healing.
Despite its devastating effects, studies show that trauma can transform people in positive ways such as finding inner strength, meaningfulness in everyday life, and closer relationships with family and friends.
Tim Ferriss noticed that by the time he graduated from high school and left home, he had spent 93% of all hours with his parents that he would ever spend with them, assuming he lived to be 90 years old. Many people regret not saying what they wanted to say to loved ones before they pass, and unconventional treatments like psychoactive compounds have been shown to alleviate fear of death.
The speaker shares how facing their own mortality at a young age led to hidden gifts and a positive outlook on life.
Instead of fighting reality, it is best to work on accepting it, ideally embracing and loving it, according to this podcast. The more you wish for things to be different, the more you will suffer.