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The Fascinating Science Behind Love Relationships
40:16 - 44:09 (03:53)
The father of attachment science, John Bowlby, linked biology and social interaction patterns in a testable way that gives us a map to love relationships, and shows that we are interdependent human beings wired for connection from the cradle to the grave. Our long term vulnerability has wired our nervous system in a particular way and creates these social dramas.
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