Episode
#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
1:34:02
Published: Mon Apr 19 2021
Description
Adam Lane Smith is a psychotherapist an author. Humans are not transparent to ourselves. We are complex creatures who operate on ancient programming. Having spent years and years as a practicing psychotherapist for men, women and couples, Adam has come to learn some insights about us which he put into an epic Twitter thread and that's what we go through today. Expect to learn why women are disgusted when they learn how the male sex drive works, why having an asshole for a child is your fault, why performative sex stops a woman from orgasming, why depressed men probably don't need medication, the truth about overcoming sexual trauma, how your brain stops you from having sex with your sister and much more... Sponsors: Get 10% discount on your first month from BetterHelp at https://betterhelp.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get perfect teeth 70% cheaper than other invisible aligners from DW Aligners at http://dwaligners.co.uk/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Check out Adam's original Twitter Thread - https://twitter.com/TheBrometheus/status/1381710882225328135 Check out Adam's Website - https://adamlanesmith.com/ Buy How To Get A Girlfriend - https://gumroad.com/l/htgagf Get my free Ultimate Life Hacks List to 10x your daily productivity → https://chriswillx.com/lifehacks/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Join the discussion with me and other like minded listeners in the episode comments on the MW YouTube Channel or message me... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ModernWisdomPodcast Email: https://www.chriswillx.com/contact
Chapters
Psychotherapist Adam Lane Smith shares his insights into the male sex drive, parenting, orgasm, medication for depression, sexual trauma, and incest avoidance.
00:00 - 05:08 (05:08)
Summary
Psychotherapist Adam Lane Smith shares his insights into the male sex drive, parenting, orgasm, medication for depression, sexual trauma, and incest avoidance.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
In this podcast episode, the dangers of relying on someone else to care, help and save you are discussed.
05:08 - 09:24 (04:16)
Summary
In this podcast episode, the dangers of relying on someone else to care, help and save you are discussed. False beliefs can lead you to be stuck in a cycle of seeking approval without ever truly being yourself.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
The female sex drive is built on emotional intimacy while the male sex drive tends to be more physical.
09:24 - 13:14 (03:49)
Summary
The female sex drive is built on emotional intimacy while the male sex drive tends to be more physical. Evolutionary psychology provides a basis for understanding these differences in sexual behavior.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
This episode discusses the connection between attachment issues and engaging in sexual behavior with multiple partners, as well as the idea that sex work can be empowering for some women.
13:14 - 16:07 (02:53)
Summary
This episode discusses the connection between attachment issues and engaging in sexual behavior with multiple partners, as well as the idea that sex work can be empowering for some women. The value of sex is also explored within this context.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
In couples therapy, the vast majority of men have trouble forming emotional connections and providing emotional intimacy, leading to exhaustion and divorce by their female partners, who require emotional intimacy for sexual desire in their relationships.
16:07 - 21:16 (05:09)
Summary
In couples therapy, the vast majority of men have trouble forming emotional connections and providing emotional intimacy, leading to exhaustion and divorce by their female partners, who require emotional intimacy for sexual desire in their relationships.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
The way a child is treated by one parent affects their perception of the world around them, leading them to believe that 50% of people will treat them badly.
21:16 - 29:28 (08:11)
Summary
The way a child is treated by one parent affects their perception of the world around them, leading them to believe that 50% of people will treat them badly. This can be detrimental and irreversible for the child's future relationships and life choices.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
The pressure to label negative emotions and experiences with diagnostic terms stems from a desire to bring order to chaos and validate one's feelings, but can also lead to a dangerous attachment to those labels.
29:28 - 35:01 (05:33)
Summary
The pressure to label negative emotions and experiences with diagnostic terms stems from a desire to bring order to chaos and validate one's feelings, but can also lead to a dangerous attachment to those labels. Differentiating male and female forms of depression can also contribute to harmful stigmas.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
The podcast discusses how male depression is often treated the same as female depression, but the root causes and treatments can be different between the genders.
35:01 - 41:07 (06:05)
Summary
The podcast discusses how male depression is often treated the same as female depression, but the root causes and treatments can be different between the genders.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
The female body can experience an orgasm during sexual assault, which is not a sign of enjoyment but a natural response that can lead to trauma.
41:07 - 46:19 (05:11)
Summary
The female body can experience an orgasm during sexual assault, which is not a sign of enjoyment but a natural response that can lead to trauma. With therapy, individuals can have a healthy sex life with little to no flashbacks or issues and use it to build intimacy with their partner in the future.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
During ovulation, women tend to be attracted to men with masculine features and look for rough sex, while during menstruation they tend to be attracted to men with softer features and look for different sexual activities.
46:20 - 51:01 (04:40)
Summary
During ovulation, women tend to be attracted to men with masculine features and look for rough sex, while during menstruation they tend to be attracted to men with softer features and look for different sexual activities.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
The idea of the "sexy son hypothesis" suggests that men who are physically attractive according to cultural norms may attract women purely for reproduction, rather than for a healthy and long-lasting relationship.
51:01 - 58:06 (07:05)
Summary
The idea of the "sexy son hypothesis" suggests that men who are physically attractive according to cultural norms may attract women purely for reproduction, rather than for a healthy and long-lasting relationship. In order to attract a healthy woman, it's important to consider evolutionary attraction and what women would have wanted from men 10,000 years ago, rather than just focusing on aesthetic appearance.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
Having a symmetrical face signals strong genetics, and maximizing the effectiveness of one's body type can help attract partners who appreciate that body type.
58:06 - 1:02:29 (04:22)
Summary
Having a symmetrical face signals strong genetics, and maximizing the effectiveness of one's body type can help attract partners who appreciate that body type.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
The idea of "learning from mistakes" is like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon, shedding the old self for a new one.
1:02:29 - 1:10:04 (07:35)
Summary
The idea of "learning from mistakes" is like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon, shedding the old self for a new one. The appeal of scandal and witnessing the downfall of others may stem from the pleasure of feeling indignation without having to engage in any moral action, a behavior that lacks moral fiber.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
A therapist explains the importance of intimacy and recognizing a partner's desire for their female partner to have an orgasm.
1:10:04 - 1:18:36 (08:32)
Summary
A therapist explains the importance of intimacy and recognizing a partner's desire for their female partner to have an orgasm. She cautions against women believing that achieving an orgasm is a chore for their male partners and discusses how upbringing can influence attachment issues in men and women's sexual experiences.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
This podcast discusses how to have a first date that will lead to a successful marriage by setting healthy boundaries for both individuals.
1:18:36 - 1:24:52 (06:15)
Summary
This podcast discusses how to have a first date that will lead to a successful marriage by setting healthy boundaries for both individuals. It emphasizes the importance of discussing important topics such as having children early on in the relationship.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
Limited research suggests that having multiple sexual partners as a woman may have potential relationship and mental health consequences that are often overlooked.
1:24:52 - 1:31:52 (07:00)
Summary
Limited research suggests that having multiple sexual partners as a woman may have potential relationship and mental health consequences that are often overlooked. Couples who have been together without children for an extended period may find themselves falling apart due to the evolutionary implications of reproduction.
Episode#310 - Adam Lane Smith - 15 Harsh Psychology Truths
PodcastModern Wisdom
The extract contains an ad for "betterhelp.com" and "dwalliners."
1:31:52 - 1:33:59 (02:07)
Summary
The extract contains an ad for "betterhelp.com" and "dwalliners."