Episode
72. Attachment styles, non-negotiables and dating men ft. Chidera Eggerue
1:00:38
Published: Tue Feb 14 2023
Description
This week I am joined by Chidera Eggerue, otherwise known as the Slumflower, host of the Slumflower Hour and author of the Number 1 Sunday Times Bestsellers What a Time to be Alone (2018) and How to Get Over a Boy (2020) to discuss attachment styles, how to set boundaries and non-negotiables when dating men. We discuss the own hard lessons we’ve learnt through our intimate relationships, how to reclaim your power, the psychology behind why we accept the bare minimum and so much more. Listen now!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Episode72. Attachment styles, non-negotiables and dating men ft. Chidera Eggerue
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