Episode
#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
1:33:46
Published: Mon Feb 20 2023
Description
Charlie Houpert is the creator of Charisma On Command – a YouTube channel with more than 6 million subscribers. His videos have more than 600 million views in an attempt to help people become more charismatic and confident. He is also the host of The Dropping In Podcast - where he discusses philosophy, business, and current events. In this conversation, we spoke about how fame was different than he expected, the work after charisma, how he did psychedelics with his family, and the difference between attention vs. connection for content creators. Sponsored by... Aarthi & Sriram's Good Time Show (@AarthiAndSriram). Listen to conversations with founders, athletes, and technologists who have made it from being outsiders to insiders. Past guests include Elon Musk, Mark Zuckerberg, Naomi Osaka, Gary Vaynerchuk, and many more – Apple / Spotify / YouTube (0:00) Intro (3:30) The War Of Art by Steven Pressfield (7:50) YouTube Treadmill (12:32) Suppressing “Video Game Self” (17:12) Looks Versus Feels (22:42) Looking Inward (27:25) Being Vs. Doing (30:55) The Problem With Happiness (34:27) Cleaning Internal Pipes (36:48) Attention vs. Memory (42:40) Holotropic Breathwork (45:12) Friends (47:53) Fame (55:48) Validation (1:00:05) Psychedelics With Family (1:22:32) Who Charlie Admires Today (1:24:38) Parenting (1:29:31) Romantic Relationships (1:32:13) Challenge Resources The War Of Art by Steven Pressfield – https://www.amazon.com/War-Art-Through-Creative-Battles/dp/1936891026 Guided Breathwork Class (Evan Berger) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzwVp7W-ghM Charlie’s Links Charisma On Command: https://www.youtube.com/@Charismaoncommand Dropping In Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@DroppingInPodcast My Links ✉️ Newsletter: https://dannymiranda.substack.com 🎙 Podcast: https://anchor.fm/dannymiranda 🎥 YouTube: https://youtube.com/dannymiranda 🐣 Twitter: https://twitt
Chapters
In this podcast episode, Charlie Hooper talks about his experiences in fame, his post-charisma personal development, his family's psychedelic trip together, and the difference between attention and connection for creators.
00:00 - 01:25 (01:25)
Summary
In this podcast episode, Charlie Hooper talks about his experiences in fame, his post-charisma personal development, his family's psychedelic trip together, and the difference between attention and connection for creators.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
The pressure to constantly produce content for social media can leave creatives feeling burnt out.
01:25 - 07:01 (05:35)
Summary
The pressure to constantly produce content for social media can leave creatives feeling burnt out. Taking a break to replenish that creative spark is essential for long-term success and happiness.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
The speaker reflects on the challenge of creating new and experimental work while also satisfying the expectations of their audience, acknowledging the potential for a middle ground or for going all-out as an artist.
07:01 - 13:24 (06:22)
Summary
The speaker reflects on the challenge of creating new and experimental work while also satisfying the expectations of their audience, acknowledging the potential for a middle ground or for going all-out as an artist.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
Social media can trigger negative emotions which cause a decline in mental health according to studies.
13:24 - 20:27 (07:03)
Summary
Social media can trigger negative emotions which cause a decline in mental health according to studies. The obsession with appearance has also penetrated through social channels over the internet, as people click more often on "how to look confident" than "how to be confident".
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
In the early stages of pursuing a goal, the advice to "fake it till you make it" can be useful as it helps to stay positive and motivated.
20:27 - 26:39 (06:11)
Summary
In the early stages of pursuing a goal, the advice to "fake it till you make it" can be useful as it helps to stay positive and motivated. However, as you progress, it's important to acknowledge the limitations and reevaluate your approach.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
People often cut themselves off from certain experiences to pursue happiness which leads to compulsive behaviors.
26:39 - 33:21 (06:41)
Summary
People often cut themselves off from certain experiences to pursue happiness which leads to compulsive behaviors. While making happiness the North star promotes positivity, it also has downsides in terms of overlooking negative experiences.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
The attention economy is actually the memory economy, and memorable experiences like sharing a deep personal story or going through somatic modalities can stay with someone for a long time.
33:21 - 40:11 (06:49)
Summary
The attention economy is actually the memory economy, and memorable experiences like sharing a deep personal story or going through somatic modalities can stay with someone for a long time.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
In this podcast, the speaker shares his thoughts on the power of guided psychedelic experience and holotropic breath work, explaining how they can be transformative in one’s personal growth.
40:11 - 46:19 (06:08)
Summary
In this podcast, the speaker shares his thoughts on the power of guided psychedelic experience and holotropic breath work, explaining how they can be transformative in one’s personal growth.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
The speaker discusses the challenges he faced when dealing with fame, including feelings of needing to perform and being inauthentic around women.
46:19 - 50:53 (04:34)
Summary
The speaker discusses the challenges he faced when dealing with fame, including feelings of needing to perform and being inauthentic around women. Despite only achieving F list level fame, he found himself recognized by many people in public.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
The speaker discusses the importance of validation and how he realized it is like food - needed three times a day.
50:53 - 59:28 (08:34)
Summary
The speaker discusses the importance of validation and how he realized it is like food - needed three times a day. He shares his experience of getting validation from someone and feeling truly loved for who he is now.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
The speaker shares their experience of using MDMA therapy to address anxiety and grief related to mortality and discusses creating a space for healing with loved ones.
59:28 - 1:05:55 (06:27)
Summary
The speaker shares their experience of using MDMA therapy to address anxiety and grief related to mortality and discusses creating a space for healing with loved ones.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
The speaker recounts some of his personal experiences in self-discovery and how he was able to uncover his true emotions and relationships.
1:05:55 - 1:13:22 (07:26)
Summary
The speaker recounts some of his personal experiences in self-discovery and how he was able to uncover his true emotions and relationships.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
In this podcast episode, the importance of emulating the lives of the people we admire is discussed.
1:13:22 - 1:22:39 (09:17)
Summary
In this podcast episode, the importance of emulating the lives of the people we admire is discussed. The idea of vulnerability and openness is also touched upon.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
The speaker discusses the societal pressure to have kids and the misconception that having kids will bring unconditional love and fulfillment.
1:22:39 - 1:30:50 (08:10)
Summary
The speaker discusses the societal pressure to have kids and the misconception that having kids will bring unconditional love and fulfillment. They reflect on the lack of emotional support from their own parents and grandparents due to physically deprived times.
Episode#319: Charlie Houpert – From YouTube Fame To Inner Work
PodcastThe Danny Miranda Podcast
The speaker reflects on the different styles of parenting and the importance of both control and support, rather than relying on just one style.
1:30:50 - 1:33:43 (02:53)
Summary
The speaker reflects on the different styles of parenting and the importance of both control and support, rather than relying on just one style. They also admire the profound self-awareness of a parent who prioritizes time with their children.