Episode
#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
1:50:17
Published: Mon Jan 10 2022
Description
Charlie Houpert is the Founder of Charisma on Command, a podcaster and a YouTuber. Most people wish that they were better communicators. More engaging, more confident, and more charming. Charlie runs the biggest charisma channel on YouTube, Charisma on Command, with more than 5 million subscribers and has taught thousands of people how to be more attractive and compelling in their communication. Expect to learn the 5 archetypes of charismatic communication, how to greet someone with genuine energy, how to overcome being shy, the principles of communicating attractively to women, how to be better at small talk, how to add more humour into your conversations, why Charlie got his entire family to take MDMA, who Charlie thinks is the most charming communicator on the planet and much more... Sponsors: Join the Modern Wisdom Community to connect with me & other listeners - https://modernwisdom.locals.com/ Get 15% discount on Craftd London’s jewellery at https://bit.ly/cdwisdom (use code MW15) Get 10% discount on your first month from BetterHelp at https://betterhelp.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and Free Shipping from Athletic Greens at https://athleticgreens.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Extra Stuff: Join Charisma University - https://www.charismaoncommand.com/coc-charisma-university/ Subscribe to Charisma On Command - https://www.youtube.com/charismaoncommand Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/
Chapters
Founder of Charisma on Command, Charlie Hoopert shares insights on how to improve communication skills, greet someone with genuine energy, overcome shyness, communicate attractively to women, small talk, and adding humor into conversations.
00:00 - 01:22 (01:22)
Summary
Founder of Charisma on Command, Charlie Hoopert shares insights on how to improve communication skills, greet someone with genuine energy, overcome shyness, communicate attractively to women, small talk, and adding humor into conversations.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
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This podcast discusses an all-in-one nutritional supplement that includes 75 vitamins, minerals and whole food sourced ingredients for optimal health.
01:22 - 06:06 (04:43)
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This podcast discusses an all-in-one nutritional supplement that includes 75 vitamins, minerals and whole food sourced ingredients for optimal health. Additionally, the podcast mentions the world's leading men's jewellery brand.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
Comedian Rhod Gilbert discusses the frustrations of losing at video games and the difficulties of walking a dog on a leash; including individuals who attach dog leads to their waist.
06:06 - 08:49 (02:43)
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Comedian Rhod Gilbert discusses the frustrations of losing at video games and the difficulties of walking a dog on a leash; including individuals who attach dog leads to their waist.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
High conviction, authentic, and empathetic people are the three types that have influence over others.
08:49 - 14:30 (05:40)
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High conviction, authentic, and empathetic people are the three types that have influence over others.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
In this podcast, the speaker discusses the idea of self-esteem being one's birthright and shares how the book "The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" was instrumental in helping them to develop true self-esteem based on internal factors rather than external validation.
14:30 - 21:07 (06:37)
Summary
In this podcast, the speaker discusses the idea of self-esteem being one's birthright and shares how the book "The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" was instrumental in helping them to develop true self-esteem based on internal factors rather than external validation.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
In this podcast, the speaker discusses the struggles of hustle culture and the importance of dedicating time to one's personal growth and development during the ages of 18 to 25 to avoid deprogramming in later years.
21:07 - 29:57 (08:49)
Summary
In this podcast, the speaker discusses the struggles of hustle culture and the importance of dedicating time to one's personal growth and development during the ages of 18 to 25 to avoid deprogramming in later years. They also touch on relationship fears and how the need to be in a relationship can put people in a needy state.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
Many driven individuals, including the speaker, experience higher rates of unhappiness as the price for their success.
29:57 - 34:59 (05:02)
Summary
Many driven individuals, including the speaker, experience higher rates of unhappiness as the price for their success. This can result in avoiding other aspects of life in order to maintain focus on work and ignore other unfulfilling desires.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
The key to being a conversational leader is to set the vibe a level higher than you need to.
34:59 - 41:00 (06:00)
Summary
The key to being a conversational leader is to set the vibe a level higher than you need to. Avoid taking questions too literally and trigger topics while trying to suss out a vibe in early interactions.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
This podcast dissects the performative social persona of educators/teachers and the impact of their predictable stories on students which raises the question of whether students get to see the "real" them - or if there even is a "real" them.
41:00 - 46:42 (05:41)
Summary
This podcast dissects the performative social persona of educators/teachers and the impact of their predictable stories on students which raises the question of whether students get to see the "real" them - or if there even is a "real" them.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
The key to overcoming shyness is through progressive exposure therapy, which involves practicing communication skills in group settings.
46:42 - 53:47 (07:05)
Summary
The key to overcoming shyness is through progressive exposure therapy, which involves practicing communication skills in group settings. It's important to constantly challenge yourself to be in the conversation while also working on specific skills.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
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To find genuine connections beyond physical appearance or attraction, try listing out the things that attract or repulse you in people and find ways to incorporate those into conversations instead of relying on superficial interactions such as going on a typical date.
53:47 - 59:46 (05:58)
Summary
To find genuine connections beyond physical appearance or attraction, try listing out the things that attract or repulse you in people and find ways to incorporate those into conversations instead of relying on superficial interactions such as going on a typical date.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
Creating non-realistic, playful worlds during a conversation is a remarkable way to engage in fun, flirty acts with women, avoiding the discomfort of zero to 60 from the start.
59:46 - 1:03:58 (04:12)
Summary
Creating non-realistic, playful worlds during a conversation is a remarkable way to engage in fun, flirty acts with women, avoiding the discomfort of zero to 60 from the start. Such fun ideas can help create a vibe that leads to exciting moments during interactions.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
The best way to add humor into conversations is to be an outgoing and friendly person who sets a playful and fun vibe, rather than trying too hard to be a "sniper" who avoids engaging with others.
1:03:58 - 1:08:37 (04:38)
Summary
The best way to add humor into conversations is to be an outgoing and friendly person who sets a playful and fun vibe, rather than trying too hard to be a "sniper" who avoids engaging with others. Split-testing different conversation tactics can also be a helpful way to determine what works best.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
A helpful tip on how to create a positive social interaction is to watch a comedian for 10-15 minutes before speaking to someone, as it helps establish a positive vibe.
1:08:37 - 1:13:55 (05:18)
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A helpful tip on how to create a positive social interaction is to watch a comedian for 10-15 minutes before speaking to someone, as it helps establish a positive vibe. Oprah's communication style is also mentioned to create a safe space for people to open up and share their stories.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
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The ability to deal with sexual tension in a conversation requires a certain level of comfort and communication skills, which some people may lack.
1:13:55 - 1:19:36 (05:40)
Summary
The ability to deal with sexual tension in a conversation requires a certain level of comfort and communication skills, which some people may lack. Playing within the frame of the conversation and taking opponents in good faith could be effective strategies for navigating such situations.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
The speaker shares their experience of convincing their parents to try new experiences and how it ultimately brought them closer together.
1:19:36 - 1:24:14 (04:38)
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The speaker shares their experience of convincing their parents to try new experiences and how it ultimately brought them closer together. The changes that the speaker had experienced convinced the parents that it would be good for them as well.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
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The speaker discusses experiencing a point where they need to rediscover their individuality to move forward.
1:24:14 - 1:32:25 (08:10)
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The speaker discusses experiencing a point where they need to rediscover their individuality to move forward. They compare it to a power dynamic flip that everyone goes through at some point, where instead of relying on parents, one becomes the wisdom giver.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
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The speaker discusses the pressure that people feel to conform to societal expectations, even if it conflicts with their authentic selves.
1:32:25 - 1:37:59 (05:34)
Summary
The speaker discusses the pressure that people feel to conform to societal expectations, even if it conflicts with their authentic selves. They explore the common struggle of wanting to be accepted while also striving for personal fulfillment.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
The key to successful dating is paying attention to your excitement levels during and after a date.
1:37:59 - 1:42:42 (04:42)
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The key to successful dating is paying attention to your excitement levels during and after a date. Taking note of how you feel before and after a date will help you navigate your emotions and determine if there's a spark or not.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
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The speaker shares his desire to be more interested in reality than his idea of reality, and how he thinks charisma is a worthy pursuit.
1:42:43 - 1:47:53 (05:09)
Summary
The speaker shares his desire to be more interested in reality than his idea of reality, and how he thinks charisma is a worthy pursuit.
Episode#420 - Charlie Houpert - How To Build Genuine Charisma And Confidence
PodcastModern Wisdom
The podcast contains an ad for Athletic Greens and Better Help.
1:47:53 - 1:50:14 (02:21)
Summary
The podcast contains an ad for Athletic Greens and Better Help. Communication skills are discussed in the episode.