Episode
How To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
1:00:10
Published: Wed Dec 01 2021
Description
Today’s guest is Dr. Ramani Durvasula. She’s a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology at California State University in Los Angeles. The focus of Dr. Ramani’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the cause and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations. She’s also the best-selling author of “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in the Era of Narcissism, Entitlement and Incivility. This is a topic that truly fascinated me so much that I split this episode into two parts! Make sure to listen to part 1 by going to www.lewishowes.com/1195In this episode we discuss the biggest misconceptions about narcissists, the essential components of every healthy relationship, the red flags to watch out for in your own relationships, the difference between narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic personality traits, the key to loving yourself in a more fulfilling way, how to create boundaries with a narcissist, and so much more!For more go to - www.lewishowes.com/1196Read Dr. Ramani's books - https://www.amazon.com/Dont-You-Know-Who-Entitlement/dp/1682617521 & https://www.amazon.com/Should-Stay-Surviving-Narcissistic-Relationship/dp/1618688782Check out her website - http://doctor-ramani.com/The Power of Erotic Intelligence with Esther Perel: https://link.chtbl.com/732-podFind Lasting Love with Matthew Hussey: https://link.chtbl.com/811-pod
Chapters
This episode covers misconceptions about narcissists, healthy relationship components, red flags, self-love, boundaries, and more.
00:00 - 02:53 (02:53)
Summary
This episode covers misconceptions about narcissists, healthy relationship components, red flags, self-love, boundaries, and more. Also, a fan's testimonial on how this podcast helped her heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The host discusses the signs of narcissistic parenting, including feeling like you're walking on eggshells around your parent and always feeling like they're getting the short end of the stick.
02:53 - 06:35 (03:42)
Summary
The host discusses the signs of narcissistic parenting, including feeling like you're walking on eggshells around your parent and always feeling like they're getting the short end of the stick.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Lori Gottlieb discusses the core ingredients of every healthy relationship, including kindness, compassion, patience, mutuality of regard, reciprocity, and respect, and explains why therapy should not feel like draining hard work.
06:35 - 09:01 (02:25)
Summary
Lori Gottlieb discusses the core ingredients of every healthy relationship, including kindness, compassion, patience, mutuality of regard, reciprocity, and respect, and explains why therapy should not feel like draining hard work.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The podcast discusses how to identify healthy relationships by paying attention to the way people behave under stress and noting red flags such as insecurity and disrespectful behavior.
09:01 - 11:43 (02:41)
Summary
The podcast discusses how to identify healthy relationships by paying attention to the way people behave under stress and noting red flags such as insecurity and disrespectful behavior.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Encouraging someone to chase their dreams can require personal sacrifice from the encourager, whether it's giving up time with them or simply praising their efforts.
11:43 - 15:01 (03:17)
Summary
Encouraging someone to chase their dreams can require personal sacrifice from the encourager, whether it's giving up time with them or simply praising their efforts. It's important to support each other's goals in order to strengthen the relationship.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The prevalence of narcissism in relationships is fueled by social media and the desire for attention and validation.
15:01 - 19:00 (03:59)
Summary
The prevalence of narcissism in relationships is fueled by social media and the desire for attention and validation. Not everyone who struggles with the ability to grow together in a relationship and coexist is a narcissist, and it's important to be aware of the distinctions.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that requires a full workup and a lengthy clinical interview.
19:01 - 22:08 (03:07)
Summary
Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that requires a full workup and a lengthy clinical interview. Symptoms of the disorder may not necessarily mean that an individual has the disorder, as the diagnosis requires subjective distress.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The key characteristics of emotionally intelligent people are empathy, kindness, respect, flexibility, self-awareness, emotional regulation, genuine curiosity about others, and setting internal goals.
22:08 - 27:54 (05:46)
Summary
The key characteristics of emotionally intelligent people are empathy, kindness, respect, flexibility, self-awareness, emotional regulation, genuine curiosity about others, and setting internal goals. Narrowing social circles and understanding the epidemiology of mental illnesses can help people cope with negative psychological impacts caused by narcissistic relationships.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The podcast explores the dangers of seeking external validation to boost self-worth and the importance of understanding that you are lovable just as you are, without any conditions of worth imposed by others.
27:54 - 31:33 (03:38)
Summary
The podcast explores the dangers of seeking external validation to boost self-worth and the importance of understanding that you are lovable just as you are, without any conditions of worth imposed by others.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Narcissistic relationships cause a wide range of mental health issues such as confusion, self-doubt, powerlessness, anxiety, lack of motivation, and hopelessness, among others.
31:33 - 34:51 (03:18)
Summary
Narcissistic relationships cause a wide range of mental health issues such as confusion, self-doubt, powerlessness, anxiety, lack of motivation, and hopelessness, among others. Survivors may also experience self-blame and self-shame that can negatively impact their mental well-being.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Love bombing and future faking are tactics used by manipulative partners to distract you from red flags and keep you in a relationship.
34:51 - 40:19 (05:27)
Summary
Love bombing and future faking are tactics used by manipulative partners to distract you from red flags and keep you in a relationship. It's important to recognize these tactics and prioritize your own needs and boundaries in a relationship.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The podcast discusses the effect of gaslighting in relationships and offers suggestions on how people can cope with it, including building strong friendships and engaging in religious or community activities.
40:19 - 47:32 (07:13)
Summary
The podcast discusses the effect of gaslighting in relationships and offers suggestions on how people can cope with it, including building strong friendships and engaging in religious or community activities.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The probability of finding an agreeable person who is wealthy is low.
47:32 - 50:32 (02:59)
Summary
The probability of finding an agreeable person who is wealthy is low. In addition, many agreeable people who have a lot of money often end up unhappy because of the lack of balance in their relationships.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker discusses the impact of collaboration on their sense of safety and belonging, which drove their need for validation and acceptance.
50:32 - 54:10 (03:38)
Summary
The speaker discusses the impact of collaboration on their sense of safety and belonging, which drove their need for validation and acceptance. Through a healing journey, they were able to address their insecurity and feelings of inadequacy.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Our desire for larger-than-life, charismatic leaders often leads us to overlook bad behavior and disappointment.
54:11 - 57:12 (03:00)
Summary
Our desire for larger-than-life, charismatic leaders often leads us to overlook bad behavior and disappointment. We want to believe in superheroes, but sometimes we need to accept that they are just ordinary people who may disappoint us.
EpisodeHow To Create Boundaries With A Narcissist w/Dr. Ramani Durvasula (PART 2) EP 1196
PodcastThe School of Greatness
In this podcast episode, the host acknowledges Dr. Ramani Durvasula's commitment to educating people about toxic relationships.
57:12 - 59:59 (02:47)
Summary
In this podcast episode, the host acknowledges Dr. Ramani Durvasula's commitment to educating people about toxic relationships. Dr. Ramani shares her life lessons, experiences and knowledge on how people can heal from toxic relationships, avoid getting into them and lead a peaceful life.