Episode
#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
1:43:01
Published: Thu Oct 06 2022
Description
James Smith is an author, podcaster, online trainer and not a life coach. Many people say that their number one personal development goal is to be more confident. But what if you don't have anything to be confident about? Is competence a required prerequisite to becoming confident or can you fake it until you make it? Expect to learn why most entrepreneurs are miserable, how leaving unasked questions can eat up your mental energy, the relationship between anxiety and confidence, how to deal with fear and failures, the heritability of confidence, whether women are actually more confident than men, the simplest way to build genuine confidence and much more... Sponsors: Get over 37% discount on all products site-wide from MyProtein at https://bit.ly/proteinwisdom (use code: MODERNWISDOM) Get £150 discount on Eight Sleep products at https://eightsleep.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get the Whoop 4.0 for free and get your first month for free at http://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Extra Stuff: Buy How To Be Confident - https://amzn.to/3C0gBfe Check out James' Academy - https://www.jamessmithacademy.com/ Follow James on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jamessmithpt Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/
Chapters
This episode talks about the relationship between confidence and anxiety, why most entrepreneurs are miserable, how to build genuine confidence and more.
00:00 - 01:33 (01:33)
Summary
This episode talks about the relationship between confidence and anxiety, why most entrepreneurs are miserable, how to build genuine confidence and more.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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The 8Sleep technology offers users optimal sleep by providing the ideal temperature, heart rate monitoring, and reducing sleep interruptions.
01:33 - 05:59 (04:25)
Summary
The 8Sleep technology offers users optimal sleep by providing the ideal temperature, heart rate monitoring, and reducing sleep interruptions. By using the product, users have reported falling asleep faster, interruptions reduced by 40%, and an increase in deep sleep by 30%.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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The LA school district is being criticized for a video that promotes the new concept of "food neutrality," claiming that diet culture is rooted in oppression and calling junk food bad.
05:59 - 14:55 (08:56)
Summary
The LA school district is being criticized for a video that promotes the new concept of "food neutrality," claiming that diet culture is rooted in oppression and calling junk food bad. Many are concerned about children's health and whether this ideology will impact school lunch programs.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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In this podcast, the speaker discusses how people tend to regret the things they didn't do rather than the things they did do, and highlights the danger of misconceptions about confidence impacting people's health.
14:55 - 24:27 (09:31)
Summary
In this podcast, the speaker discusses how people tend to regret the things they didn't do rather than the things they did do, and highlights the danger of misconceptions about confidence impacting people's health.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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The speaker talks about how working on his insecurities has resulted in a lot of his success in life, and explains that Jordan Peterson suggests taking stock of one's insecurities when experiencing an existential crisis.
24:27 - 28:12 (03:44)
Summary
The speaker talks about how working on his insecurities has resulted in a lot of his success in life, and explains that Jordan Peterson suggests taking stock of one's insecurities when experiencing an existential crisis.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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The line between competence and confidence in podcasting can often be blurred, with people mistaking the latter for the former.
28:12 - 32:10 (03:57)
Summary
The line between competence and confidence in podcasting can often be blurred, with people mistaking the latter for the former. It's important to recognize the hard work and dedication that goes into building a successful podcast, rather than attributing it solely to confidence.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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Personalities like Joe Rogan and Jocko Willink appreciate jujitsu as it humbles them when they are succeeding too much in their lives, providing an opportunity to realize the limits of their abilities.
32:10 - 37:29 (05:19)
Summary
Personalities like Joe Rogan and Jocko Willink appreciate jujitsu as it humbles them when they are succeeding too much in their lives, providing an opportunity to realize the limits of their abilities. Experiencing failures such as difficult breakups or being scorned can help in adjusting one's expectations of the challenges that come with life.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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The competition for success is often perceived as bigger than it actually is, and many people give up trying due to a lack of motivation or belief in their ability to succeed.
37:29 - 44:20 (06:51)
Summary
The competition for success is often perceived as bigger than it actually is, and many people give up trying due to a lack of motivation or belief in their ability to succeed. However, persistence and pushing through common challenges such as boredom, repetition, and fear of rejection may ultimately lead to success.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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In this episode, the speaker discusses how women are believed to want the six sixes, and also talks about the hardest barrier that writers face in writing a good book.
44:20 - 50:05 (05:44)
Summary
In this episode, the speaker discusses how women are believed to want the six sixes, and also talks about the hardest barrier that writers face in writing a good book. They also mention the importance of belief and preparation in promoting and selling a book, and use martial arts and fitness analogies to emphasize these points.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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Building confidence and competence through a primary vehicle is a great way to avoid the anxiety cost and open loops from the zygonic effect.
50:05 - 54:11 (04:06)
Summary
Building confidence and competence through a primary vehicle is a great way to avoid the anxiety cost and open loops from the zygonic effect. Failure under conditions of optimism is different from failure under conditions of pessimism, as the latter confirms fears.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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The episode discusses the importance of viewing mistakes as feedback rather than a moral judgement on oneself, and how doing so can lead to personal growth and a healthier mindset.
54:11 - 58:32 (04:20)
Summary
The episode discusses the importance of viewing mistakes as feedback rather than a moral judgement on oneself, and how doing so can lead to personal growth and a healthier mindset.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
PodcastModern Wisdom
People need to balance being grateful for their achievements with taking risks to continue growing and avoid becoming complacent.
58:32 - 1:02:24 (03:51)
Summary
People need to balance being grateful for their achievements with taking risks to continue growing and avoid becoming complacent. This delicate balance requires effort and self-awareness.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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The speaker expresses sympathy for people who create content at the expense of their personal lives, while highlighting the differences between content creators who genuinely care about their work versus those who create content solely for the effects it might have.
1:02:24 - 1:12:58 (10:34)
Summary
The speaker expresses sympathy for people who create content at the expense of their personal lives, while highlighting the differences between content creators who genuinely care about their work versus those who create content solely for the effects it might have.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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The speaker shares how being in a happy relationship has helped him in not wanting to drink and compares it to the utility of deprivation with porn.
1:12:58 - 1:19:23 (06:24)
Summary
The speaker shares how being in a happy relationship has helped him in not wanting to drink and compares it to the utility of deprivation with porn. He also mentions attending a social event and realizing that he would never consider going to a club now that he's in a relationship.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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The speaker discusses their experience with caffeine, including the physical effects and how it relates to their energy balance.
1:19:23 - 1:22:40 (03:16)
Summary
The speaker discusses their experience with caffeine, including the physical effects and how it relates to their energy balance. They also touch on the potential differences in how caffeine affects different individuals.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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Simon Sinek emphasizes the importance of teaching those three steps behind you, as when you're ten steps ahead, you're unlikely to remember the challenges that people might face.
1:22:40 - 1:30:00 (07:19)
Summary
Simon Sinek emphasizes the importance of teaching those three steps behind you, as when you're ten steps ahead, you're unlikely to remember the challenges that people might face. It's important to remember that even people we look up to have flaws and face the same fears as us.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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The difficulty of engaging listeners in long-format content is acknowledged as a challenge.
1:30:00 - 1:35:06 (05:06)
Summary
The difficulty of engaging listeners in long-format content is acknowledged as a challenge. The taboo associated with certain topics, like political narratives and personal relationship questions, is still present.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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In this podcast episode, the concept of Red Pill, Blue Pill, and Black Pill ideologies in the Manosphere is explained.
1:35:06 - 1:38:48 (03:41)
Summary
In this podcast episode, the concept of Red Pill, Blue Pill, and Black Pill ideologies in the Manosphere is explained. The Red Pill ideology emphasizes personal growth, attraction, and sexual strategy, while the Blue Pill ideology represents traditional society's values and beliefs.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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A discussion on the different waves of feminism and the emergence of the Manosphere, in response to modern day feminism and gender politics.
1:38:48 - 1:41:46 (02:57)
Summary
A discussion on the different waves of feminism and the emergence of the Manosphere, in response to modern day feminism and gender politics.
Episode#535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
PodcastModern Wisdom
The speaker thanks the audience for listening and reminds them to follow him on social media.
1:41:46 - 1:42:58 (01:12)
Summary
The speaker thanks the audience for listening and reminds them to follow him on social media. He also promotes his Modern Wisdom reading list and offers discounts on products from MyProtein, Eight Sleep, and Whoop.