Episode
What to Do When You’ve Been Cheated On
45:11
Published: Thu Mar 16 2023
Description
In this episode, we are digging into betrayal and learning how to get your power back after someone shatters your trust. It’s happened to me and I know it’s happened to you, too. Maybe someone cheated on you. Maybe someone stole from you in business. Perhaps it was a friend who stabbed you in the back. It’s painful. You might not be sure how to confront that person, or if it’s even worth it. Or if you did confront them, they may have denied and deflected, making you feel like something was wrong with you. Well today I’m using my own experiences with betrayal to coach Sonia and Jenn - and you - through this. You always have options, and whether you believe it or not, you can get your power back. Today’s episode will help you heal, change your perspective, and equip you with the tools you need to land on your feet and be smarter, more open and able to create healthier relationships, partnerships, and friendships in the future. You deserve that. Buckle up, because your friend Mel is hitting you between the eyes with some hard earned wisdom and tough love today. Xo Mel Check out research and other resources at melrobbins.com/podcast.In this episode, you’ll learn: 3:30: I was betrayed by someone in my business and this is what I learned.4:12: Sonia asks her question about a painful betrayal.5:15: Should you confront this person? Ask yourself this first.11:40: You don’t need to have this in order to feel closure with someone.14:20: Here’s how to have a conversation with someone who betrayed you.16:00: Jenn reveals how her painful betrayal has changed her.17:30: This is the hardest part of betrayal to grasp. Please play on repeat.19:20: Here is what you’re actually grieving after you’ve been betrayed.26:45: You need to change your story of betrayal. Here’s how.28:30: Trying to work through betrayal with someone you love? Listen to this.34:40: Here is what the experts say about affairs. 39:45: The advice from Jenn that you need to hear if you’ve just been betrayed. Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.Here is Betrayal 101: “3 Lessons From One of the Hardest Years of My Life.”When it’s time to do this, listen to “How to Let Go.” Disclaimer
Chapters
Two listeners of the Mel Robbins podcast join the host in discussing the topic of betrayal and how to overcome it.
00:00 - 02:17 (02:17)
Summary
Two listeners of the Mel Robbins podcast join the host in discussing the topic of betrayal and how to overcome it. Listeners will learn how to get their power back after feeling betrayed.
EpisodeWhat to Do When You’ve Been Cheated On
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Confronting a person who betrayed you can cause negative energy in your life, so it's okay to let go and move on.
02:17 - 08:36 (06:18)
Summary
Confronting a person who betrayed you can cause negative energy in your life, so it's okay to let go and move on. If you choose to stay in the relationship or friendship, confront the person by saying "I need to apologize for something" and have a conversation if you need closure.
EpisodeWhat to Do When You’ve Been Cheated On
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker reflects on how emotional betrayal in a business relationship taught her a valuable lesson.
08:36 - 12:58 (04:21)
Summary
The speaker reflects on how emotional betrayal in a business relationship taught her a valuable lesson. She stresses the importance of recognizing similar patterns of behavior in other relationships and the need to let go of these toxic relations.
EpisodeWhat to Do When You’ve Been Cheated On
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
It is important to grieve and have empathy for a partner who caused hurt, but also necessary to move forward and be with someone who is willing to heal and do the work.
12:58 - 25:06 (12:07)
Summary
It is important to grieve and have empathy for a partner who caused hurt, but also necessary to move forward and be with someone who is willing to heal and do the work. Breaking away from the momentary rush of relief and facing the pain head-on will allow for a healthier and positive transformation.
EpisodeWhat to Do When You’ve Been Cheated On
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The importance of changing the way you interpret the problems in your relationship and how couples therapy can help save your relationship from failure.
25:06 - 29:15 (04:08)
Summary
The importance of changing the way you interpret the problems in your relationship and how couples therapy can help save your relationship from failure.
EpisodeWhat to Do When You’ve Been Cheated On
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Going to couples therapy after an affair can help you gain a better understanding of yourself and what happened, allowing you to move forward without resentment or self-blame.
29:16 - 37:26 (08:10)
Summary
Going to couples therapy after an affair can help you gain a better understanding of yourself and what happened, allowing you to move forward without resentment or self-blame. It also helps to understand that often affairs occur due to past traumas or addiction, rather than just personal shortcomings.
EpisodeWhat to Do When You’ve Been Cheated On
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Encouragement to those going through a difficult time by sharing the idea that it's possible to become stronger, more loving, and even surprised about oneself.
37:26 - 42:56 (05:29)
Summary
Encouragement to those going through a difficult time by sharing the idea that it's possible to become stronger, more loving, and even surprised about oneself. The importance of bringing compassion to those who may have hurt us is emphasized as a form of love.
EpisodeWhat to Do When You’ve Been Cheated On
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker encourages listeners to do things that scare them and to embrace discomfort as a way to create a better, more meaningful life.
42:56 - 45:05 (02:08)
Summary
The speaker encourages listeners to do things that scare them and to embrace discomfort as a way to create a better, more meaningful life. She also expresses belief in listeners' ability to face difficult situations and reminds them of her love and support.