Episode
E174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
1:43:33
Published: Thu Sep 01 2022
Description
James Smith is a fitness influencer and the two-time best-selling author of Not a Life Coach and Not a Diet Book. His no holds barred approach to fitness advice makes him unlike any other fitness influencer today, and now he’s bringing his unique philosophy to improving people’s confidence. According to James, we’ve been getting self confidence and how to achieve it all wrong. Confidence is not a surefire belief in ourselves to achieve great things, but rather confidence is being at peace with the idea of losing or things going wrong. When you know it isn’t the end of the world, you realise losing isn’t the same as being defeated. Like James’ brutally honest fitness advice, there’s no quick fix to confidence, or any miracle cure. James starts, like he always does, by looking at himself honestly - and truthfully - in the mirror, and all he asks is we do the same as well. James’ book is out today. Topics: Why did you write a book about confidence How deep are our confidence issues? Our pain points in confidence The base of confidence and how we build it what is audacity? A: Airing your opinions Happiness recipe Productivity Are you a workaholic Your relationships monogamy Dating How do I help my friend that isn't changing? What do you need to work on? Building confidence with evidence picking your passengers utility of deprivation concept what is your goal? The worst day of your life How can someone build confidence today? The opposite to happiness is boredom The last guests question James’ book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Be-Confident-international-bestselling/dp/0008536449 James: https://www.instagram.com/jamessmithpt/ https://mobile.twitter.com/jamessmithpt_ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://g2ul0.app.link/aTf9jh8Zvsb Follow us on Telegram: https://g2ul0.app.link/E561VVf0vsb Sponsors: Huel - https://g2ul0.app.link/G4RjcdKNKsb BlueJeans - https://g2ul0.app.link/NCgpGjVNKsb
Chapters
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00:00 - 01:19 (01:19)
Summary
Stephen Bartlett discusses facing his fears, fighting his insecurities, and why it's important to strive for the best possible outcome even if it means being wrong sometimes.
EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
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The author shares his own insecurities and lack of confidence and how he overcame them by developing a set of values and a problem-solving approach.
01:19 - 08:50 (07:30)
Summary
The author shares his own insecurities and lack of confidence and how he overcame them by developing a set of values and a problem-solving approach. He emphasizes that confidence is not a trait like height, but something that can be learned and developed through practice.
EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
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The only way to build confidence is through evidence-based actions, and to do that, people need to identify their pain points, which are deeper and more meaningful than just surface-level desires.
08:50 - 19:27 (10:37)
Summary
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EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
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Being audacious is essential for progress, but with it comes the inevitable presence of haters.
19:27 - 25:27 (05:59)
Summary
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EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
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The importance of productivity in our lives, whether it's for personal or professional reasons, and how we can sometimes lose sight of our priorities when pursuing it.
25:27 - 34:42 (09:15)
Summary
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EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
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34:42 - 40:01 (05:18)
Summary
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EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
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The discussion revolves around relationships, dating apps, and the concept of open relationships.
40:01 - 46:23 (06:22)
Summary
The discussion revolves around relationships, dating apps, and the concept of open relationships. The guest emphasizes that commitment is what brings value to relationships and opening the door to catastrophic things should a partner decide to pursue an open relationship.
EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
In certain situations, we need to become a persona, but it's important to break it down into small steps in order to achieve the larger goal.
46:23 - 55:53 (09:29)
Summary
In certain situations, we need to become a persona, but it's important to break it down into small steps in order to achieve the larger goal. It's similar to fitness where if you stop training, you lose it quicker than expected.
EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
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In this podcast episode, the host discusses the importance of surrounding yourself with the right people to improve your productivity and mindset.
55:53 - 1:02:26 (06:32)
Summary
In this podcast episode, the host discusses the importance of surrounding yourself with the right people to improve your productivity and mindset. He uses the metaphor of "picking your passengers" and emphasizes the need to avoid people who drain your energy and instead choose those who bring positivity and value to your life.
EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
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The hosts discuss the potentially harmful effects of masturbating to excessive amounts of porn and the possible benefits of practicing abstinence.
1:02:26 - 1:07:29 (05:03)
Summary
The hosts discuss the potentially harmful effects of masturbating to excessive amounts of porn and the possible benefits of practicing abstinence.
EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
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The speaker describes a humorous incident where a miscommunication led to an unexpected exchange of gifts.
1:07:29 - 1:15:01 (07:32)
Summary
The speaker describes a humorous incident where a miscommunication led to an unexpected exchange of gifts.
EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
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Confidence is built when losing is accepted gracefully, not when we feel defeated by the outcome.
1:15:01 - 1:19:31 (04:29)
Summary
Confidence is built when losing is accepted gracefully, not when we feel defeated by the outcome. This mindset can be applied to all areas of life from asking for a raise to starting a business.
EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The speaker discusses the pressure to appear successful and how it can lead to feeling like a fraud, and shares a personal anecdote about asking for a discount on coffee.
1:19:31 - 1:23:49 (04:17)
Summary
The speaker discusses the pressure to appear successful and how it can lead to feeling like a fraud, and shares a personal anecdote about asking for a discount on coffee.
EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
In this coaching session, James discusses finding a meaningful purpose in life that truly resonates with the individual and how he found more fulfilment in coaching millions rather than one-on-one.
1:23:49 - 1:31:23 (07:34)
Summary
In this coaching session, James discusses finding a meaningful purpose in life that truly resonates with the individual and how he found more fulfilment in coaching millions rather than one-on-one.
EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
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1:31:23 - 1:40:37 (09:13)
Summary
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EpisodeE174: James Smith: Become Confident In 100 Minutes
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The podcast has two new sponsors, BlueJeans by Verizon and Huel.
1:40:37 - 1:43:14 (02:36)
Summary
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