Episode

E187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
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Paul Brunson is the host of Married At First Sight, and a world-renowned expert on relationships and human connection. Paul spent many years wondering how to get people to love and accept each other, before realising he had to get them to love and accept themselves. In the conversation Paul really unlocks that it’s connection to each other’s values that makes a last relationship. To be at peace with other peoples values, you have to have your own figured out first. One of the most illuminating, original and surprising experts on relationships who’s ever shared his wisdom with us, Paul is just one of a number of world-leading black thought leaders and celebrities were sharing with you this Black History Month. Topics: Early years Why match making? The influence your parents had on your work Attachment styles Men not being honest The science of dating How do we have important, tough conversations? Oprah reached out to you for a tv show? What did you learn from Oprah? Out of all your clients who struggles with being alone the most? Hugging The importance of compatibly Sex Do we know what we want? How hard do we have to work to find love? How honest should we be on the first date? What are you struggling with in your relationship? What re you working on now The last guest question Paul: Instagram - https://bit.ly/3D2kyBA Twitter - https://bit.ly/3SbRfkl Wait list for The Diary - Add your name here: https://bit.ly/3fUcF8q Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://g2ul0.app.link/3kxINCANKsb Follow us on Telegram: https://g2ul0.app.link/E5re0ADNKsb Sponsors: Huel - https://g2ul0.app.link/G4RjcdKNKsb Intel - https://g2ul0.app.link/Yh8T9b2KNtb BlueJeans - https://g2ul0.app.link/NCgpGjVNKsb
Chapters
Discover the science behind successful relationships as experts share tips on how to communicate and make relationships work.
00:00 - 02:10 (02:10)
Summary
Discover the science behind successful relationships as experts share tips on how to communicate and make relationships work.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The host talks about his mission of championing people who have been marginalized and bullied like him, simply because of the color of their skin.
02:10 - 06:17 (04:06)
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The host talks about his mission of championing people who have been marginalized and bullied like him, simply because of the color of their skin.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The founder of a successful matchmaking service for black women discusses the hopelessness and feeling of being alone that often drives clients to seek out her services, and the challenges of creating a successful matchmaking formula.
06:17 - 11:46 (05:28)
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The founder of a successful matchmaking service for black women discusses the hopelessness and feeling of being alone that often drives clients to seek out her services, and the challenges of creating a successful matchmaking formula.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The quality of our parents' relationship has a significant impact on the type of relationships we form as adults.
11:46 - 16:49 (05:03)
Summary
The quality of our parents' relationship has a significant impact on the type of relationships we form as adults. Studies suggest that children from homes with stable and secure relationships tend to form stable and secure attachments as adults, while those from unstable or neglectful homes may develop anxious or avoidant attachment styles.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
In this episode, the hosts explore how individuals with avoidant or anxious attachment styles can move towards a secure attachment style, even without being in a relationship with someone who is secure.
16:49 - 21:36 (04:46)
Summary
In this episode, the hosts explore how individuals with avoidant or anxious attachment styles can move towards a secure attachment style, even without being in a relationship with someone who is secure.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The podcast discusses how separation and divorce rates tend to increase at the five and seven year marks in marriages.
21:36 - 27:08 (05:32)
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The podcast discusses how separation and divorce rates tend to increase at the five and seven year marks in marriages. They also touch on gender differences in coping mechanisms during conflicts within relationships.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Learning your partner's love language and consistently giving love in that language can transform your relationship.
27:08 - 32:32 (05:23)
Summary
Learning your partner's love language and consistently giving love in that language can transform your relationship. Showing love through actions, words, and their preferred language of love can make a significant difference.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Learn techniques for having healthy arguments with your significant other such as setting boundaries, focusing on the topic at hand and avoiding unfair fights.
32:32 - 38:11 (05:39)
Summary
Learn techniques for having healthy arguments with your significant other such as setting boundaries, focusing on the topic at hand and avoiding unfair fights. Remember that therapy and counseling are beneficial and can improve your relationship.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Oprah offers the guest a job to co-host a television show on her network from a YouTube series that almost no one was watching.
38:11 - 45:24 (07:13)
Summary
Oprah offers the guest a job to co-host a television show on her network from a YouTube series that almost no one was watching.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The key to business success is to constantly invest in and strengthen our weak ties, according to Mark Granavetter's theory.
45:24 - 55:08 (09:44)
Summary
The key to business success is to constantly invest in and strengthen our weak ties, according to Mark Granavetter's theory. This involves adding new people and kicking others out of our network.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Older singles seeking matchmaking have often reached the end of their hope, leading to feelings of sadness, loneliness, and emptiness from comparisons to their younger selves and others in the dating scene.
55:08 - 1:02:50 (07:41)
Summary
Older singles seeking matchmaking have often reached the end of their hope, leading to feelings of sadness, loneliness, and emptiness from comparisons to their younger selves and others in the dating scene.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Loneliness leads to a state of self-preservation in the brain, which goes back to our ancestral backgrounds where leaving the tribe put individuals at risk.
1:02:50 - 1:09:51 (07:00)
Summary
Loneliness leads to a state of self-preservation in the brain, which goes back to our ancestral backgrounds where leaving the tribe put individuals at risk. This also explains why there are different chronotypes in the tribe to keep watch at different times.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
This podcast episode discusses the idea of compatibility and how physical attraction, decision-making, values, and attachment style play a role in relationships.
1:09:51 - 1:18:37 (08:46)
Summary
This podcast episode discusses the idea of compatibility and how physical attraction, decision-making, values, and attachment style play a role in relationships. The hosts also touch on the low success rate of dating apps leading to committed relationships that last.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The vast majority of women need clitoral stimulation in addition to penetrative sex.
1:18:37 - 1:27:44 (09:07)
Summary
The vast majority of women need clitoral stimulation in addition to penetrative sex. Historical milestones like the introduction of the pill played a significant role in women's sexual liberation.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The speaker reflects on how many people resentfully talk about the money and time they've spent on preparing for a date that didn't work out, and suggests that putting the work into yourself, such as improving communication skills and emotional intelligence, is more important than putting the work into someone else.
1:27:44 - 1:37:57 (10:12)
Summary
The speaker reflects on how many people resentfully talk about the money and time they've spent on preparing for a date that didn't work out, and suggests that putting the work into yourself, such as improving communication skills and emotional intelligence, is more important than putting the work into someone else.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The speaker emphasizes the importance of appreciating the small moments in life and being present in them, even when others are focused on achieving bigger goals.
1:37:57 - 1:45:51 (07:54)
Summary
The speaker emphasizes the importance of appreciating the small moments in life and being present in them, even when others are focused on achieving bigger goals.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The podcast discusses the importance of being consciously aware of how we want to be laid to rest, having a will and thinking through it, as well as the impact of one's actions on others, using Karma to make an impact in the world.
1:45:51 - 1:51:56 (06:05)
Summary
The podcast discusses the importance of being consciously aware of how we want to be laid to rest, having a will and thinking through it, as well as the impact of one's actions on others, using Karma to make an impact in the world.
EpisodeE187: World’s No.1 Matchmaker: How To FIND And KEEP Real Love!: Paul Brunson
PodcastThe Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The podcast has a new sponsor, Blue Jeans by Verizon, who is a video conferencing and collaboration platform with enterprise-grade security to protect organizations from malicious attacks.
1:51:56 - 1:53:07 (01:10)
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The podcast has a new sponsor, Blue Jeans by Verizon, who is a video conferencing and collaboration platform with enterprise-grade security to protect organizations from malicious attacks.