Episode
The SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
1:27:31
Published: Fri Mar 04 2022
Description
Over the years I’ve had the pleasure of sitting down with Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel. She’s recognized as one of today’s most insightful voices on modern relationships which is a bio that I completely agree with. Today I’m going to put together the most powerful moments from our interviews to really create a masterclass on relationships. In this episode we discuss:The biggest obstacles people face in relationships.What most people get wrong when dating.Why even happy people sometimes cheat.How to build trust even when you’ve lost it.The expectations you should be setting in your relationships.And so much more! For more go to: www.lewishowes.com/1236 For Esther Perel's previous episodes:www.lewishowes.com/929www.lewishowes.com/285
Chapters
In this episode, Louis Howes shares some of Esther Perel's most powerful relationship advice from over the years.
00:00 - 02:51 (02:51)
Summary
In this episode, Louis Howes shares some of Esther Perel's most powerful relationship advice from over the years. They discuss the biggest obstacles people face in their relationships and what most people get wrong when they are dating, encouraging listeners to share and spread the message.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
This podcast speaks about common behaviors in relationships that suggest a lack of effort and interest, such as talking nicer to others, neglecting communication and being indifferent.
02:51 - 05:50 (02:58)
Summary
This podcast speaks about common behaviors in relationships that suggest a lack of effort and interest, such as talking nicer to others, neglecting communication and being indifferent.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
This podcast discusses how contraception has liberated women from the burden of pregnancy and death, and how the concept of sex in relationships has evolved over a short period of 60 years.
05:50 - 10:28 (04:38)
Summary
This podcast discusses how contraception has liberated women from the burden of pregnancy and death, and how the concept of sex in relationships has evolved over a short period of 60 years.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker is fascinated with the nature of erotic desire and how to sustain it, especially in the context of committed relationships that are often not interesting enough for women.
10:28 - 14:37 (04:09)
Summary
The speaker is fascinated with the nature of erotic desire and how to sustain it, especially in the context of committed relationships that are often not interesting enough for women. She explains that many factors can turn women off and hinder their desire for sex, such as spending too much time on the phone, overeating, having bad days at work, and feeling numb or dead.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
In this episode, the host discusses the significance of pleasure in our lives and relationships.
14:37 - 18:02 (03:25)
Summary
In this episode, the host discusses the significance of pleasure in our lives and relationships. He emphasizes that arousing our life force through activities that give us pleasure is crucial for our overall well-being and for maintaining a fulfilling relationship.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker highlights the importance of putting in effort for business growth and suggests that letting a business languish is not a desirable outcome.
18:02 - 20:47 (02:44)
Summary
The speaker highlights the importance of putting in effort for business growth and suggests that letting a business languish is not a desirable outcome.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
It is important to have multiple sources of connection, intimacy, and friendship in order to avoid burdening one person and to have a group of people to support you.
20:47 - 24:15 (03:28)
Summary
It is important to have multiple sources of connection, intimacy, and friendship in order to avoid burdening one person and to have a group of people to support you. Charisma is not about standing in front of a crowd but about making people feel special in your presence.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
A discussion about the difficulties people face in different types of relationships and why it's important to have strong connections with others.
24:15 - 28:30 (04:15)
Summary
A discussion about the difficulties people face in different types of relationships and why it's important to have strong connections with others.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The podcast discusses the issue of longing for emotional connection, intensity, and different experiences in a partner.
28:30 - 36:25 (07:54)
Summary
The podcast discusses the issue of longing for emotional connection, intensity, and different experiences in a partner. It emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and communication to address the issue.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Couples who maintain a level of attention on each other are more likely to be erotic couples.
36:25 - 41:03 (04:38)
Summary
Couples who maintain a level of attention on each other are more likely to be erotic couples. Familiar activities may create a sense of comfort, but trying new things can increase attraction in a relationship.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The concept of fidelity in relationships is being challenged with the increase of online dating and social media but the aftermath of infidelity crisis can lead to a prioritization of honesty and authenticity in life.
41:03 - 43:41 (02:37)
Summary
The concept of fidelity in relationships is being challenged with the increase of online dating and social media but the aftermath of infidelity crisis can lead to a prioritization of honesty and authenticity in life.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The stigma surrounding non-monogamous options is causing guilt for those in committed, monogamous relationships who may desire exploration.
43:41 - 50:44 (07:02)
Summary
The stigma surrounding non-monogamous options is causing guilt for those in committed, monogamous relationships who may desire exploration. Monogamy is often seen as the only acceptable option, but communication and negotiation can lead to a successful, non-traditional relationship.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
In this podcast, the speaker shares their opinion on how we cannot treat a partner as a product and beta-test the relationship to see if they are good enough.
50:44 - 56:11 (05:27)
Summary
In this podcast, the speaker shares their opinion on how we cannot treat a partner as a product and beta-test the relationship to see if they are good enough. Instead, a relationship should be based on what we can give to the other person, not just what we can get from them.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The process of rebuilding trust in a relationship after betrayal, how to distinguish between caring touch and hurtful touch and how to allow yourself to experience pleasure again.
56:11 - 1:00:43 (04:31)
Summary
The process of rebuilding trust in a relationship after betrayal, how to distinguish between caring touch and hurtful touch and how to allow yourself to experience pleasure again.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Esther Perel discusses the aftermath of infidelity in relationships, including how an affair can serve as a wake-up call and the long process of rebuilding trust.
1:00:43 - 1:05:45 (05:01)
Summary
Esther Perel discusses the aftermath of infidelity in relationships, including how an affair can serve as a wake-up call and the long process of rebuilding trust.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
This podcast episode explores the root of estrangement in relationships and how communication can improve it.
1:05:45 - 1:09:25 (03:39)
Summary
This podcast episode explores the root of estrangement in relationships and how communication can improve it. The speaker highlights the importance of understanding each other's needs in order to have a successful relationship.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The definition of a happy, fulfilled relationship varies greatly between cultures, and even between individuals.
1:09:25 - 1:16:02 (06:37)
Summary
The definition of a happy, fulfilled relationship varies greatly between cultures, and even between individuals. The percentage of people in a long-term intimate relationship who are happy most of the time is subjective and dependent on individual definitions of happiness.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The search for the right partner can be challenging, but it's important to distinguish whether you're looking for a love story or a life story.
1:16:02 - 1:21:04 (05:02)
Summary
The search for the right partner can be challenging, but it's important to distinguish whether you're looking for a love story or a life story. When seeking a long-term partner, it's essential to find someone who values community and relationships in a similar way to yourself.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The success of a travel partnership depends on complementary traits, such as curiosity and attitudes towards money, emotions, religion, and family.
1:21:04 - 1:24:29 (03:24)
Summary
The success of a travel partnership depends on complementary traits, such as curiosity and attitudes towards money, emotions, religion, and family.
EpisodeThe SECRET To Desire In A Long-Term Relationship w/Esther Perel EP 1236
PodcastThe School of Greatness
This podcast episode discusses how power dynamics play a role in expectations for relationships, including love, intimacy, and partnerships.
1:24:29 - 1:27:21 (02:51)
Summary
This podcast episode discusses how power dynamics play a role in expectations for relationships, including love, intimacy, and partnerships. The host explores the concept of calibrating expectations and finding a partner who can meet them.