Today, you and I are calling BS on partners, friends, siblings, colleagues, and roommates who ride on your coattails, mooch off your generosity, and love the fact that you do everything. (While they do next to nothing.…) It’s time to take your power back with 5 actionable takeaways to get people in your life to step up and do their part. I’m not messing around. The first person you’ll meet in this episode is tired of being the only one holding her family together. And during the second coaching session I get even more intense with a woman whose boyfriend hasn’t had a job in three years. Hear me loud and clear: by enabling other people, you are part of the problem. There are 5 things you need to know that will change this dysfunction now. Clear your schedule for the next hour because you and I have an appointment where you, my friend, will learn how to lay down the law and start putting yourself first. Xo Mel Can’t ask for what you need? Listen to “How to Speak Up for Yourself.” In this episode, you will learn: 3:00: Do you have people in your life who rely on you a little too much?4:30: Maybe you’re being used or maybe it’s this instead.7:00: Is it time for you to be the parent now?10:00: This is how to get your entire family on the same page.14:00: Your siblings will understand your expectations if you do this.17:15: Do this to make people feel that they’re doing the right thing.21:30: Have a partner that isn’t pulling their weight? You need to hear this.35:00: This is how you start a conversation when it’s time to set boundaries.38:30: In a toxic partnered relationship? This is the truth bomb you need.40:15: Has it become more important to be loved than to love yourself?44:45: Let me coach you through this exercise to help you change your future.48:00: Another truth bomb you need to hear today, no matter what you’re doing.51:45: Listen to Brooke set a courageous boundary for the first time.54:00: Keep little ears away, because this is what tough f’n love sounds like.56:30: Stop letting your patterns make choices for you and step up.1:00:45: Use this word instead of “ultimatum” when it’s time for that. Disclaimer
The podcast discusses how to deal with frustration when someone you love doesn't fulfill their potential, the difference between being used by someone and being used to a situation, and the struggles of trying to inspire and motivate others.
The concept of putting someone on a performance improvement plan can be confronting and embarrassing. This plan is typically put in place when an individual's work is not satisfactory and outlines small, attainable goals for the individual to feel successful and have a sense of pride when they achieve them.
The key to helping someone achieve their goals is to break them down into small, achievable tasks and make them realistic and timely. This plan can be used for adult children or friends who are living with you as well as for yourself to help detach from being their crutch.
The hosts discuss how to inspire those around you to level up in life without trying to fix them, and recommend framing support in a way that makes the other person feel appreciated and valued.
A listener shares her struggles with a toxic relationship and her hopes for her partner to become a better version of himself, while also acknowledging the need for change in herself and finding empowerment through new realizations.
The added shame and discrimination someone can feel after losing their job can make it difficult for loved ones to provide support. It's important to understand the complexity of the situation and find new ways to encourage and motivate them towards finding their potential.
The speaker discusses her struggles with anxiety in relationships, including the need for constant reassurance and fear of abandonment. She also touches on the toxicity of the situation and how it can be difficult to tell what is true or not.
The speaker addresses the difficulty of maintaining a relationship with her mother, while having a better relationship with her father after leaving a rocky romantic relationship. She also touches on feeling guilty about not being present enough as a mother herself.
A couple talks about their communication breakdown and how setting boundaries, expressing feelings, and finding solutions can help improve their relationship.
The hosts discuss the value of therapy in helping people work through personal struggles and improving their lives.
A mother discusses her decision to give her son's father the ultimatum of attending therapy in order to improve their broken dynamic. She emphasizes the value of her time and the importance of prioritizing mental health for the sake of the family.
A mother explains the importance of encouraging a loved one to go to therapy and giving them the support they deserve in order to heal and grow.
It’s important to be willing to let go of situations that don’t work for you, even if they work for others. Recognize when you’re being used and tap into something greater for yourself.