Episode

How Do I Learn to Love Myself, Really?
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35:12
Published: Mon Nov 28 2022
Description

Whatever you're doing right now, stop and make time for this conversation. Every single day, I get questions from listeners about self-love, self-hatred, and what it actually means to like yourself. I understand why it’s confusing.  The topic of self-love is so broad, and there is very little actionable advice on how exactly you learn to like yourself, especially if you’ve spent your whole life being hard on yourself. So don’t worry, I’ve decided to attack this topic of self-love in a completely unique, surprising, and tactical manner. This is also one of the most personal episodes I’ve released because I’m inviting you to join a conversation I’m having with our 17-year-old son, Oakley. This is not a “podcast interview.” This is an intimate conversation between a mother and a son about the most important topic you could discuss: self-love.  When Oakley was in middle school, he hated himself, and as his mom, it was awful to see him so lonely and sad. In today’s conversation, he shares things with me about this time in his life that I never knew. And more importantly, we unpack the moment he had an epiphany that changed everything. You will absolutely relate to everything he shares and his reflections about it. I’m so proud to share this conversation with you. You will be blown away because you’ll not only feel like you’re part of our family, but we’re also welcoming you into our hearts. You will laugh out loud, even though your heart might break a little. And by the end of it, you’ll have not only wisdom, but also a couple of simple tools to help you learn how to like yourself a little more. This conversation is a must-listen for EVERYONE in your life. And especially for young adults because when they hear these insights from someone their age, it’s way more compelling than getting advice from an adult. I do want to be up front about one thing: Oakley is 17 and like most 17-year-olds, whether they do it in front of you or not, he has a case of the F’s, meaning he drops the F-word a fair number of times, and I made a decision to record it as is and allow him to speak freely. And, I just can’t emphasize enough how much insight this is going to give you into your own relationship with yourself. I hope you will make the time to spend a half hour with the two of us, because I know you will leave feeling seen, understood, and liking yourself a little better. I cannot wait to hear what you learn. Xo Mel  For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com

Chapters
A mother and her 17-year-old son discuss self-hatred and self-love, highlighting the importance of being kinder to oneself and learning to love who you are becoming at any age.
00:00 - 07:23 (07:23)
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Self-love
Summary

A mother and her 17-year-old son discuss self-hatred and self-love, highlighting the importance of being kinder to oneself and learning to love who you are becoming at any age. The conversation demonstrates how it is possible to learn to accept oneself at any point in life.

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How Do I Learn to Love Myself, Really?
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The speaker talks about how the weather influenced their insecurities about their appearance and led them to wear jeans in warm weather.
07:24 - 12:14 (04:50)
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Insecurities
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The speaker talks about how the weather influenced their insecurities about their appearance and led them to wear jeans in warm weather.

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How Do I Learn to Love Myself, Really?
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker discusses the pressures and insecurities they have felt regarding their physical appearance, detailing incidents where they changed behaviors and appearance in response to perceived criticism from others.
12:14 - 16:40 (04:25)
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Body Image
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The speaker discusses the pressures and insecurities they have felt regarding their physical appearance, detailing incidents where they changed behaviors and appearance in response to perceived criticism from others.

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How Do I Learn to Love Myself, Really?
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker discusses how caring more about your own happiness and wellbeing rather than external validation can change everything and eliminate self-doubt and negativity.
16:40 - 21:50 (05:10)
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Self-Care
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The speaker discusses how caring more about your own happiness and wellbeing rather than external validation can change everything and eliminate self-doubt and negativity.

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How Do I Learn to Love Myself, Really?
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
The episode features a conversation between a parent and their child about loving, accepting, and validating oneself.
21:50 - 27:29 (05:39)
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self-love
Summary

The episode features a conversation between a parent and their child about loving, accepting, and validating oneself. They discuss the importance of liking oneself, how it affects one's behavior, and share personal experiences and practical ways of implementing self-acceptance in daily life.

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How Do I Learn to Love Myself, Really?
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
In this transcript snippet, the speaker talks about the importance of self-love and suggests that finding small things to appreciate about oneself can be helpful.
27:29 - 33:50 (06:20)
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Self-Love
Summary

In this transcript snippet, the speaker talks about the importance of self-love and suggests that finding small things to appreciate about oneself can be helpful. They also discuss how giving compliments to others can draw positive attention away from oneself.

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How Do I Learn to Love Myself, Really?
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
A heartwarming conversation between a mother and daughter about the importance of complimenting personality over looks and the value of being in tune with one's own values.
33:50 - 35:03 (01:13)
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Self-Love
Summary

A heartwarming conversation between a mother and daughter about the importance of complimenting personality over looks and the value of being in tune with one's own values. The mother expresses her unwavering belief in her daughter's ability to learn to love and be kinder to herself.

Episode
How Do I Learn to Love Myself, Really?
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast