Episode

2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
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Published: Thu Nov 03 2022
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How do I know if I’m in a relationship with a narcissist?Are certain personalities more drawn to narcissists?Can I heal if I was raised by a narcissist?How do I handle narcissists at work?Why do I keep attracting narcissists into my life?How can I keep a narcissist in my life… and not go crazy? And, most of all: What EXACTLY do I do to cope with narcissists? You have been flooding my inbox with questions since Dr. Ramani Durvasula, the world’s leading expert on narcissism, spoke about it on the podcast. You asked to bring her back and I’m listening: Dr. Ramani is here with answers to all of your questions. This episode is for you if you… Have no idea what narcissism isWere raised by a narcissistAre married to a narcissistThink you might be dating a narcissistWork with/for a narcissist Want to know the telltale red flags so you’re better preparedAre afraid you’re a narcissist Today you get: Two important tools to help you start your own healing and create boundariesKey takeaways to help you move forwardOne solid truth that will ground you in your confidence  You’ll also learn: What you can do today to begin your own healingHow to stay in a relationship with a narcissist and maintain your sanityThe signs to watch for to know if you’re with a narcissistWhat gaslighting looks like in real lifeThe situations that make you more susceptibleHow to coach your friend who’s dating a narcissistIf you’re more prone to attracting narcissistsWhy you ditch the “good ones” for the “bad ones”About “trauma bonds” The signs of “love bombing”About the “Golden Goose” phenomenon in the workplaceWhat yellow rocking and gray rocking are Listen in on today’s conversation. You will not only be glad you did – you’ll also leave armed with the knowledge, tools, and resources you need to diffuse the impact of a narcissist, get your power back, and know that whatever it is that this person says or does – it’s not your fault. Xo, Mel  PS: Once you’re done with this one, if you haven’t had a chance to listen to Dr. Ramani’s first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast, absolutely spend some time listening to it:  “5 Signs You’re Dealing With a Narcissist & How To Protect Yourself”

Chapters
Mel Robbins is joined by leading narcissism expert, Dr. Romani, to discuss the five signs that indicate someone may have a narcissistic personality.
00:00 - 00:56 (00:56)
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Narcissism
Summary

Mel Robbins is joined by leading narcissism expert, Dr. Romani, to discuss the five signs that indicate someone may have a narcissistic personality.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
In this episode, the speaker talks about how growing up with a narcissistic parent affects individuals as adults and the importance of healing from it in order to develop healthy relationships.
00:56 - 09:11 (08:15)
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Parental Narcissism
Summary

In this episode, the speaker talks about how growing up with a narcissistic parent affects individuals as adults and the importance of healing from it in order to develop healthy relationships.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
People often justify or ignore red flags, or blame themselves for their partner's behavior.
09:11 - 20:07 (10:55)
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Relationship
Summary

People often justify or ignore red flags, or blame themselves for their partner's behavior. Recognizing these red flags early on in a relationship can save future heartache and complications.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
The podcast explores the trope of love bombing in relationships, where one partner showers the other with extravagant gestures and gifts during the initial stages, making them feel loved and special.
20:07 - 23:15 (03:08)
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Love Bombing
Summary

The podcast explores the trope of love bombing in relationships, where one partner showers the other with extravagant gestures and gifts during the initial stages, making them feel loved and special.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
The podcast discusses how to approach a friend in a toxic relationship with care and concern, encouraging them to think about their own feelings and whether they want to be in that situation.
23:15 - 27:56 (04:40)
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Relationships
Summary

The podcast discusses how to approach a friend in a toxic relationship with care and concern, encouraging them to think about their own feelings and whether they want to be in that situation. It suggests using non-judgmental language and bringing up concerns in a gentle way.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
This podcast episode discusses examples of gaslighting behavior, including the silent treatment, minimizing concerns, and lying.
27:56 - 31:42 (03:45)
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Gaslighting
Summary

This podcast episode discusses examples of gaslighting behavior, including the silent treatment, minimizing concerns, and lying. The conversation also delves into dealing with gaslighting in work relationships, such as those with narcissistic colleagues or bosses.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker discusses the challenges of healing from a narcissistic relationship and how it requires empathy, listening, and holding space for others.
31:42 - 35:55 (04:13)
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Narcissistic Relationships
Summary

The speaker discusses the challenges of healing from a narcissistic relationship and how it requires empathy, listening, and holding space for others. Mentalization work is also necessary to force individuals to think about how the other person feels.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
In this episode, the importance of understanding empathy is discussed along with the realization that gaining knowledge brings its own form of empathy.
35:56 - 39:01 (03:04)
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Empathy
Summary

In this episode, the importance of understanding empathy is discussed along with the realization that gaining knowledge brings its own form of empathy. The speakers also touched on expectations surrounding the behavior of narcissists and how to navigate those expectations.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
In a workplace, if a high-performing individual is also a narcissistic leader, it is unlikely for them to be removed as they bring in too much revenue.
39:01 - 43:24 (04:23)
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Leadership
Summary

In a workplace, if a high-performing individual is also a narcissistic leader, it is unlikely for them to be removed as they bring in too much revenue. The only way to reach a good outcome is if the said leader is removed, which is usually aided by the organization itself because of its culture and institutional settings.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Learn about the technique of "gray rocking," which involves disengaging and being unresponsive to toxic people to ultimately create distance and minimize their impact on your life.
43:24 - 51:19 (07:55)
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Toxic Relationships
Summary

Learn about the technique of "gray rocking," which involves disengaging and being unresponsive to toxic people to ultimately create distance and minimize their impact on your life.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
The importance of breaking out of cognitive dissonance and accepting multiple truths in relationships is discussed in this episode.
51:20 - 54:17 (02:56)
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Relationships
Summary

The importance of breaking out of cognitive dissonance and accepting multiple truths in relationships is discussed in this episode. The hosts also mention the use of wearable technology to encourage apologizing.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
By engaging in small acts of rebellion, like prioritizing personal self-care and interests without seeking permission or validation from a narcissistic abuser, individuals can slowly build the strength to detach and break free from their abuser's control.
54:17 - 1:03:13 (08:56)
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Narcissism
Summary

By engaging in small acts of rebellion, like prioritizing personal self-care and interests without seeking permission or validation from a narcissistic abuser, individuals can slowly build the strength to detach and break free from their abuser's control.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
In toxic relationships, leaving might not always be the best option or feel overwhelming.
1:03:13 - 1:07:55 (04:41)
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Toxic Relationships
Summary

In toxic relationships, leaving might not always be the best option or feel overwhelming. However, finding ways to empower oneself, like actualizing dreams and getting validated by others, can awaken the real you and help you distance yourself psychologically from the relationship.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
In this promotional transcript for The Mel Robbins Podcast, the host encourages listeners to tune in to the show for life-changing information, and to share it with those who would benefit from it.
1:07:55 - 1:08:58 (01:03)
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
Summary

In this promotional transcript for The Mel Robbins Podcast, the host encourages listeners to tune in to the show for life-changing information, and to share it with those who would benefit from it. The transcript also includes a personal message of support from the host to her audience.

Episode
2 Secrets to Handling a Narcissist: A Toolkit for Dealing With Toxic Behavior at Work, Dating, Marriage, and Family (With World-Renowned Dr. Ramani)
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast