Episode

Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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1:05:07
Published: Thu Mar 02 2023
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This is an episode about how to face the things that you’re scared to admit, or as in the case of my guest today, have never publicly spoken about.Today, you and I are going on a healing journey so that you can put the past where it belongs: in the rearview mirror.You deserve healing.It’s the only pathway for experiencing true peace, happiness, and the greatness you’re capable of.So, I’m introducing you to a friend of mine who had some serious sh*t to face and has spent the last several years addressing the things that used to drag him down.Do not miss this deeply personal conversation.It is profound. It is relevant to your life and packed with so much wisdom. And we jump right in. There are so many mic-drop moments, it would be hard for me to pick just one, because my guest today was so unguarded and generous.You may know him, but you’ve never heard him like this before.I’m talking about Lewis Howes, host of the award-winning podcast, The School of Greatness, which just celebrated its 10-year anniversary and has over 500 million downloads.His brand new book, The Greatness Mindset, teaches you how to discover your own unique gifts and talents, but more importantly, how to do the work to heal.And look, this conversation is “unguarded” and covers sensitive topics (particularly perhaps for the men in your life). So if this isn’t for you right now – please skip this episode.I cannot wait to hear your favorite and most meaningful parts of this unforgettable conversation with Lewis.Xo MelIn this episode, you’ll learn: 3:00: After all the work he’s done, how does Lewis define greatness?4:50: If you’re drowning emotionally, here’s what to do.6:00: One of the most profound ways to start accepting yourself.8:00: If you were bullied or didn’t do well in school, you’ll relate to this.13:00: Almost all of us have an identity crisis at some point in our lives.14:43: Here’s what happens when success never feels fulfilling.15:40: What does it feel like to be “at peace”?19:30: Listen to Lewis describe the surprising places he felt his past trauma.21:00: Here’s how Lewis came to terms with being dyslexic.23:40: If you haven’t healed trauma, here’s how it can come out in your day to day life.28:20: Lewis describes the first time he shared his trauma out loud.37:00: No matter what you do, you don’t feel like you’re enough. Here’s what to do.37:35: Here’s what’s incredible about seeing your own value.40:30: Lewis started a podcast when podcasts were not really a thing. This is how it began.42:30: The wake up moment that led to The School of Greatness.45:15: Do this when you want to change your career or start a business.46:30: I love this way of thinking about winning.48:30: Out of hundreds, this is the interview guest that had the most impact.50:30: Lewis only found real love after doing this first.53:00: What does it mean to no longer abandon yourself?54:00: Most men struggle with this because they were never taught how.56:30: The powerful words Lewis said at the start of his current relationship.58:00: The moment in Lewis’ therapy that changed everything.60:00: The surprising place where Lewis found men who felt emotionally free. Visit www.melrobbins.com/podcast for additional resources. Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here.Disclaimer

Chapters
In this episode, Lewis Howes talks about how to heal, be less reactive, calmer, clearer, more confident, and how to tap into the knowing that you are meant for greatness, especially when your life feels like a disaster.
00:00 - 04:02 (04:02)
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Self-Help
Summary

In this episode, Lewis Howes talks about how to heal, be less reactive, calmer, clearer, more confident, and how to tap into the knowing that you are meant for greatness, especially when your life feels like a disaster. He also discusses his latest book, The Greatness Mindset, which is a guide to creating better habits and experiencing more happiness and love in your life.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker discusses the importance of healing past traumas in order to achieve true success and fulfillment in life, both internally and externally.
04:02 - 10:31 (06:29)
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Trauma
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The speaker discusses the importance of healing past traumas in order to achieve true success and fulfillment in life, both internally and externally.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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The speaker shares their experiences with depression and overcoming adversity, using their personal story as an example of how it's possible to turn things around and achieve success.
10:31 - 17:12 (06:40)
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Adversity
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The speaker shares their experiences with depression and overcoming adversity, using their personal story as an example of how it's possible to turn things around and achieve success.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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The speaker talks about learning to recognize disturbances and triggers and how to cope with them faster, by taking a deep breath and accepting that imperfection is okay.
17:12 - 25:29 (08:17)
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Coping Mechanisms
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The speaker talks about learning to recognize disturbances and triggers and how to cope with them faster, by taking a deep breath and accepting that imperfection is okay. This can save a lot of time and improve performance in various daily activities.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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The speaker shares a personal experience about losing control in a physical altercation and how it became a tendency that lasted months until it escalated into a fist fight on a basketball court.
25:29 - 30:03 (04:33)
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Mental Health
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The speaker shares a personal experience about losing control in a physical altercation and how it became a tendency that lasted months until it escalated into a fist fight on a basketball court.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker shares their experience of having an emotional breakthrough during therapy where they were able to address different issues from their childhood, including their parents' divorce and being picked on in school.
30:03 - 37:59 (07:56)
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Therapy
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The speaker shares their experience of having an emotional breakthrough during therapy where they were able to address different issues from their childhood, including their parents' divorce and being picked on in school.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
The feeling of "not enough" even after achieving great things can be detrimental to your self-worth.
37:59 - 42:44 (04:45)
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Self-Worth
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The feeling of "not enough" even after achieving great things can be detrimental to your self-worth. It's important to find fulfillment beyond just accomplishments and financial success.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker talks about his experience of feeling like a loser despite being successful and how interviewing business leaders and sports athletes helped him overcome self-doubt and achieve business results.
42:44 - 46:15 (03:30)
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Self-doubt, Impostor Syndrome
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The speaker talks about his experience of feeling like a loser despite being successful and how interviewing business leaders and sports athletes helped him overcome self-doubt and achieve business results.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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The speaker talks about experiencing a nagging pain that he compares to a ball and how it made him realize the importance of getting results and appreciating his partner.
46:15 - 53:46 (07:30)
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Health
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The speaker talks about experiencing a nagging pain that he compares to a ball and how it made him realize the importance of getting results and appreciating his partner.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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The speaker emphasizes the importance of maintaining one's individuality in a relationship, despite external pressures to conform, as abandoning oneself can result in stress and resentment.
53:46 - 59:19 (05:33)
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Relationships
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The speaker emphasizes the importance of maintaining one's individuality in a relationship, despite external pressures to conform, as abandoning oneself can result in stress and resentment.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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The speaker reflects on feeling emotionally trapped and struggling to break free until they realized their physical freedom and the ability to make choices.
59:19 - 1:02:31 (03:11)
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Emotional Health
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The speaker reflects on feeling emotionally trapped and struggling to break free until they realized their physical freedom and the ability to make choices.

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Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
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The importance of developing a mindset that helps you fall in love with yourself to bring about positive change in the world is discussed.
1:02:31 - 1:04:59 (02:28)
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Self-love
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The importance of developing a mindset that helps you fall in love with yourself to bring about positive change in the world is discussed.

Episode
Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast