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Episode

How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard
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Published: Mon Mar 27 2023
Description

In this episode, you’re learning how to speak up for yourself and make sure that you are heard. Whether you want to be more influential and visible at work or there’s a hard conversation that you’ve been avoiding with a family member, this episode will empower you to have a breakthrough. Most of us have never been taught the skills we need to have challenging conversations or to better advocate for our needs. The good news is that these are skills, and you are going to learn them in a very entertaining and relatable format today. You’re invited to listen in on multiple coaching sessions with listeners just like you and me who are struggling to find the words or the courage to say what needs to be said. So today I’m unpacking my formula, step by step, for handling challenging conversations. This is an excellent episode to send to people in your life who you really wish saw their own value and worth and could communicate it better. I can’t wait to hear how these very clear steps have helped you have those conversations you’ve been putting off and to show up differently at work and school. Xo Mel  Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here. In this episode, you’ll learn: 3:00: Listen to Claudia’s question about how to set boundaries in friendships.5:30: Here are 3 reasons why we avoid difficult conversations in the first place.14:40: Do you have a friend who criticizes you? Listen to this.17:30: Make sure you are ready with THIS before you start your conversation.19:45: This is a prime example of a time when I was being a crappy friend.23:30: Here’s what you should assume before you have a conversation.25:30: Never do this or you’ll put the other person on the defensive.26:45: If you can, PLEASE have your conversation this way.30:40: Here’s my favorite visual when it’s my turn to listen.33:40: Do you have to communicate with an ex? Listen to Erica.35:50: You’ve got to learn how to “gray rock” when dealing with difficult people.36:40: See the petty people in this ridiculous way and it will help!39:30: Like it or not, you have to have this conversation for your kids’ sake.40:30: Here is what anger and pettiness actually is.41:15: One of two things will happen when you handle conversations like this.43:30: How do you handle combative people in your life? Listen to Candace.46:00: Here’s what a person with anxious attachment needs to hear from you.49:00: Need to have a conversation with someone who’s triggered easily? Is it time to let go of your relationship? If so, then listen to “How to Let Go.” Learn about “The 4 Attachment Styles for Healthy Relationships.” Disclaimer

Chapters
In this episode, host Mel Robbins coaches four listeners on how to have difficult conversations with people in their lives and gives tips on how to handle the conversation if it goes off the rails.
00:00 - 02:54 (02:54)
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communication
Summary

In this episode, host Mel Robbins coaches four listeners on how to have difficult conversations with people in their lives and gives tips on how to handle the conversation if it goes off the rails.

Episode
How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Sometimes it's difficult to navigate friend group dynamics, especially when there's someone in the group that you just don't click with.
02:54 - 13:41 (10:47)
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Relationships
Summary

Sometimes it's difficult to navigate friend group dynamics, especially when there's someone in the group that you just don't click with. However, for the sake of the larger group or for family, it's important to find a way to coexist respectfully.

Episode
How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
In this podcast episode, the speaker discusses the importance of knowing your "why" and using specific examples as anchors when having difficult conversations.
13:41 - 20:09 (06:27)
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communication
Summary

In this podcast episode, the speaker discusses the importance of knowing your "why" and using specific examples as anchors when having difficult conversations. They also share guidelines for having productive conversations and a formula for tackling tough topics.

Episode
How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker emphasizes the importance of honest communication in relationships and the negative effects of exaggerating a situation.
20:09 - 26:33 (06:23)
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Relationships
Summary

The speaker emphasizes the importance of honest communication in relationships and the negative effects of exaggerating a situation. Clear communication helps to avoid misunderstandings and build trust with one's partner.

Episode
How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
In this podcast, the speaker shares five steps to have a difficult conversation with loved ones.
26:33 - 33:40 (07:07)
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difficult conversations
Summary

In this podcast, the speaker shares five steps to have a difficult conversation with loved ones. These include protecting your peace, removing friction, talking specifically about the problem, listening actively, and validation of their experience.

Episode
How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
The host suggests visualizing a childish version of one's husband's ex in order to avoid getting caught up in the drama.
33:41 - 40:48 (07:07)
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Relationship Advice
Summary

The host suggests visualizing a childish version of one's husband's ex in order to avoid getting caught up in the drama. Additionally, the host urges the importance of setting a good example for children by modeling healthy relationships.

Episode
How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
This podcast discusses setting boundaries in relationships and addressing emotional triggers.
40:48 - 47:58 (07:09)
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Relationships
Summary

This podcast discusses setting boundaries in relationships and addressing emotional triggers. It emphasizes the importance of communicating one's needs and giving oneself the necessary time to process emotional situations.

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How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
The podcast discusses the difficult conversation someone might have to have with a family member dealing with addiction and offers advice on how to support them through the recovery process.
47:58 - 54:57 (06:58)
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Addiction
Summary

The podcast discusses the difficult conversation someone might have to have with a family member dealing with addiction and offers advice on how to support them through the recovery process.

Episode
How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
This podcast encourages listeners to have the courage to engage in difficult conversations because it is essential to become the best and highest version of themselves.
54:57 - 56:40 (01:42)
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Self-improvement
Summary

This podcast encourages listeners to have the courage to engage in difficult conversations because it is essential to become the best and highest version of themselves.

Episode
How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast