Episode
#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
2:37:16
Published: Mon May 18 2020
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Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More | Brought to you by LMNT and "5-Bullet Friday""So many of us destroy our aliveness through pretending. I wasn't going to pretend." — Jim DethmerJim Dethmer is one of the world’s leading voices on conscious leadership. He is a co-founder at Conscious Leadership Group; co-author of the #1 best-selling book on conscious leadership, The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership; an international speaker, and has advised hundreds of CEOs and their teams to eliminate drama and build trust.Top hedge-fund managers, heads of major hospital systems, tech leaders, elite thought-leaders, and YPO chapters and forums rely on Jim’s wisdom and guidance to become highly self-aware and create conscious cultures. Currently, Jim’s focus is on working with the most devoted conscious leaders, with a particular interest in those leading underserved populations, and training the next generation of Conscious Leadership coaches.Visit conscious.is/tim for a list of free resources on the topics discussed in this episode and to sign up for a free webinar from Jim Dethmer and Diana Chapman.Please enjoy!This episode is brought to you by LMNT! What is LMNT? It’s a delicious sugar-free electrolyte drink-mix. I’ve stocked up on boxes and boxes of this and usually use 1-2 per day. LMNT is formulated to help anyone with their electrolyte needs and perfectly suited to folks following a keto, low-carb, or Paleo diet. If you are on a low-carb diet or fasting, electrolytes play a key role in relieving hunger, cramps, headaches, tiredness, and dizziness.LMNT came up with a very special offer for you, my dear listeners. They’ve created Tim’s Club: Simply go to DrinkLMNT.com/TIM, select “Subscribe and Save” and use promo code TIMSCLUB to get the 30-count box of LMNT for only $36. This will be valid for the lifetime of the subscription and you can pause it anytime.This episode is also brought to you by "5-Bullet Friday," my very own email newsletter, which every Friday features five bullet points of cool things I've found that week, including apps, books, documentaries, gadgets, albums, articles, TV shows, new hacks or tricks, and -- of course -- all sorts of weird stuff I've dug up from around the world.It's free, it's always going to be free, and you can subscribe now at tim.blog/friday.***If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests.For show notes and past guests, please visit tim.blog/podcast.Sign up for Tim’s email newsletter (“5-Bullet Friday”) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Interested in sponsoring the podcast? Please fill out the form at tim.blog/sponsor.Discover Tim’s books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss YouTube: youtube.com/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, and many more. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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In this podcast, the host discusses personal physical limits and the concept of a cybernetic organism.
00:00 - 00:43 (00:43)
Summary
In this podcast, the host discusses personal physical limits and the concept of a cybernetic organism. The episode includes an ad for Element, a sugar-free electrolyte drink mix.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
Element is a healthy electrolyte drink with no sugar, artificial ingredients, or coloring.
00:43 - 04:05 (03:22)
Summary
Element is a healthy electrolyte drink with no sugar, artificial ingredients, or coloring. Created by former research biochemist and two-time New York Times bestselling author of The Paleo Solution and Wired to Eat, Rob Wolf, the drink is formulated to help anyone with their electrolyte needs and perfectly suited for folks following a keto, low carb or paleo diet, or if you are doing any type of endurance exercise mountain biking.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
In this transcript of The Tim Ferriss Show, Tim Ferriss advertises his email newsletter, Five Bullet Friday, and discusses taking Athletic Greens for additional immune system support.
04:05 - 08:28 (04:22)
Summary
In this transcript of The Tim Ferriss Show, Tim Ferriss advertises his email newsletter, Five Bullet Friday, and discusses taking Athletic Greens for additional immune system support.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
In this episode, Tim Ferriss interviews Jim Dethmer, a world-renowned expert in conscious leadership, about his work with CEOs and teams to create conscious cultures that build trust and eliminate drama.
08:28 - 16:53 (08:25)
Summary
In this episode, Tim Ferriss interviews Jim Dethmer, a world-renowned expert in conscious leadership, about his work with CEOs and teams to create conscious cultures that build trust and eliminate drama. Dethmer shares frameworks and tools that can be applied not only in business, but also in personal relationships, and discusses the importance of self-awareness and self-exploration in leadership.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
In this episode, Jim and Sam discuss the benefits of down regulating the mind and being present in the moment, and how this can lead to better decision making, problem solving, and emotional intelligence.
16:53 - 27:14 (10:20)
Summary
In this episode, Jim and Sam discuss the benefits of down regulating the mind and being present in the moment, and how this can lead to better decision making, problem solving, and emotional intelligence. They also explore the transformative power of Byron Katie's techniques for reframing thoughts and achieving liberation from suffering.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
High performers are often motivated by fear, which can be a toxic residue, so exploring alternative motivations that are effective such as creativity or playfulness is crucial.
27:14 - 45:05 (17:51)
Summary
High performers are often motivated by fear, which can be a toxic residue, so exploring alternative motivations that are effective such as creativity or playfulness is crucial. It's important to learn how to process heightened feeling states, such as fear, anger, and sadness, by directing attention to the breath for just 30 seconds to instantly de-stress in the moment.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
This conversation explores the importance of allowing and accepting your emotions as they come up, rather than suppressing or repressing them.
45:05 - 53:25 (08:20)
Summary
This conversation explores the importance of allowing and accepting your emotions as they come up, rather than suppressing or repressing them. When emotions are met with acceptance, they naturally release, and we can then ask the emotion what it's trying to show us.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
The first question is "Where are you?"
53:25 - 1:01:07 (07:42)
Summary
The first question is "Where are you?" meaning are you above or below the line. The second question is "Can you give yourself just a breath of acceptance?" which is aimed at accepting as many things as possible that enable and don’t disable you.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
Blame is a limiting, fault-finding energy rooted in the need to be right, while radical responsibility comes from the chance to learn.
1:01:08 - 1:08:19 (07:11)
Summary
Blame is a limiting, fault-finding energy rooted in the need to be right, while radical responsibility comes from the chance to learn. Self-blame is just as toxic as blaming others, and the shift to a learning opportunity mindset can help avoid blame altogether.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
The speaker discusses several tools for having difficult conversations, including choosing between obligation and freedom, taking responsibility for co-creating problems, and changing the language used in discussions.
1:08:19 - 1:15:17 (06:58)
Summary
The speaker discusses several tools for having difficult conversations, including choosing between obligation and freedom, taking responsibility for co-creating problems, and changing the language used in discussions. These tools can help shift the relationship to the content and promote learning opportunities rather than blaming and complaining.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
The speaker is a therapist who works with couples to help them live from freedom instead of obligation.
1:15:17 - 1:25:12 (09:55)
Summary
The speaker is a therapist who works with couples to help them live from freedom instead of obligation.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
Practicing candor in relationships involves differentiating facts from stories, holding stories lightly, and revealing for the sake of being known rather than proving oneself right.
1:25:12 - 1:35:16 (10:03)
Summary
Practicing candor in relationships involves differentiating facts from stories, holding stories lightly, and revealing for the sake of being known rather than proving oneself right. This kind of candor also requires conscious listening to build trust and create a space where both parties are comfortable revealing themselves.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
Tim Ferriss and a guest discuss a mental model of human development called "to me, by me, through me, as me" which consists of four states of consciousness and emphasizes the importance of separating facts from story.
1:35:16 - 1:42:42 (07:25)
Summary
Tim Ferriss and a guest discuss a mental model of human development called "to me, by me, through me, as me" which consists of four states of consciousness and emphasizes the importance of separating facts from story. They also touch on the addiction to being right and the negative impact it can have on relationships.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
In this episode, Michael Gervais talks about experiencing a state of "through me" in which individuals feel a sense of flow and creativity as though something is happening through them instead of to them.
1:42:42 - 1:51:04 (08:21)
Summary
In this episode, Michael Gervais talks about experiencing a state of "through me" in which individuals feel a sense of flow and creativity as though something is happening through them instead of to them. This state can be related to various activities such as surfing, music, and innovation, and can lead to a greater sense of wonder and connection to the world around us.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
The speaker, a former minister and counselor, talks about his journey in finding relief and peace during his midlife crisis.
1:51:04 - 1:57:20 (06:15)
Summary
The speaker, a former minister and counselor, talks about his journey in finding relief and peace during his midlife crisis. He shares how he found new teachings and started men's groups to help others struggling with the same issues.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
In this podcast, the speaker encourages individuals to ask themselves what they really want in life and what they are willing to risk for full aliveness.
1:57:20 - 2:06:11 (08:51)
Summary
In this podcast, the speaker encourages individuals to ask themselves what they really want in life and what they are willing to risk for full aliveness. He differentiates between private stuff and shame-based secrets to allow individuals to live an authentic life.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
The tendency is to prioritize niceness and civility over authenticity, leading to a pseudo community.
2:06:11 - 2:14:53 (08:42)
Summary
The tendency is to prioritize niceness and civility over authenticity, leading to a pseudo community. In order to achieve authentic community and full aliveness, one must be willing to take risks, even if it means temporary discomfort or messiness.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
The speaker talks about the formula for producing lasting change, where V (Vision) times D (Dissatisfaction) has to be greater than R (Resistance) to achieve change.
2:14:53 - 2:21:59 (07:06)
Summary
The speaker talks about the formula for producing lasting change, where V (Vision) times D (Dissatisfaction) has to be greater than R (Resistance) to achieve change. He also shares about his personal experience with Christianity and the events that led him to quit.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
This podcast episode features a conversation about stabilizing a sense of approval that comes from within, instead of seeking validation from external sources.
2:21:59 - 2:28:39 (06:39)
Summary
This podcast episode features a conversation about stabilizing a sense of approval that comes from within, instead of seeking validation from external sources. The conversation shares personal experiences and offers insights on the benefits of sourcing approval inwards.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
Tim Ferriss thanks his listeners for tuning in and encourages them to say "I love you" to their loved ones.
2:28:39 - 2:35:57 (07:18)
Summary
Tim Ferriss thanks his listeners for tuning in and encourages them to say "I love you" to their loved ones. However, the transcript also includes an advertisement for LMNT, a company that provides electrolyte supplements.
Episode#434: Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More
PodcastThe Tim Ferriss Show
Element is a hydration partner of various athletic groups, such as Navy SEAL and Marine units, FBI sniper teams, and at least five NFL teams.
2:35:57 - 2:37:02 (01:04)
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Element is a hydration partner of various athletic groups, such as Navy SEAL and Marine units, FBI sniper teams, and at least five NFL teams. They offer a low return rate and a special offer for subscribers who can get a 30-count box of Element for $36 with promo code "tim's club" at drinklmnt.com/tim.