Episode
#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
1:19:26
Published: Mon Dec 17 2018
Description
Relationships 101 & 102 both landed in the Top 50 Chart Worldwide on Apple Podcasts, here we go again. Jonny & Yusef join me as we delve into the murky depths at the end of a relationship. We explain our views on why we have cheated in the past, our strategies for getting over a partner and the best approaches we've found for delivering breakups. Discover what research says men & women fear most in relationships, why cheating is just parabolic discounting at it's finest and why saying "I'm not attracted to you, at all" is a suboptimal approach for justifying a breakup. Extra Stuff: Relationships 101 - https://youtu.be/Sm4lIGLmYEE Relationships 102 - https://youtu.be/O9FA4uJj_pM How To Get Over Someone - https://youtu.be/tAsH_LXT9P0 Stay In Or Leave A Relationship - https://youtu.be/YGV5o6UHjxM How To End A Relationship - https://youtu.be/VPXIzJcfAMk The Worst & Best Ways to Tell Someone It’s Over - https://youtu.be/f4d6UcRCQDc Check out everything I recommend from books to products and help support the podcast at no extra cost to you by shopping through this link - https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Join the discussion with me and other like minded listeners in the episode comments on the MW YouTube Channel or message me... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ModernWisdomPodcast Email: https://www.chriswillx.com/contact
Chapters
A listener shared via Twitter that listening to a relationship podcast led her to end an unhappy relationship which made her feel liberated.
00:00 - 05:41 (05:41)
Summary
A listener shared via Twitter that listening to a relationship podcast led her to end an unhappy relationship which made her feel liberated. When off by even just 1% at the start, over time the distance can become much farther than expected.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
The main reason people cheat is that they convince themselves that cheating gives them power and comfort, fulfilling their insecurities, and putting an artificial sense of inflation between them and their partner.
05:41 - 10:32 (04:51)
Summary
The main reason people cheat is that they convince themselves that cheating gives them power and comfort, fulfilling their insecurities, and putting an artificial sense of inflation between them and their partner.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
In this podcast, the speaker compares relationships to assets, emphasizing the importance of treating them well to ensure they become valuable like classic cars.
10:32 - 13:42 (03:09)
Summary
In this podcast, the speaker compares relationships to assets, emphasizing the importance of treating them well to ensure they become valuable like classic cars. He also highlights the need to invest more time in relationships to improve them.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
This podcast episode discusses the stereotype that men cheat for physical variety, while women cheat because they feel unloved.
13:42 - 19:48 (06:06)
Summary
This podcast episode discusses the stereotype that men cheat for physical variety, while women cheat because they feel unloved. It also touches on the idea that men value respect in a relationship, while women value love.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
This podcast discusses the concept of sex as a virtue and how it relates to being virtuous and polyamory, as well as the idea that humans have a longer sexual process compared to other animals.
19:48 - 24:18 (04:29)
Summary
This podcast discusses the concept of sex as a virtue and how it relates to being virtuous and polyamory, as well as the idea that humans have a longer sexual process compared to other animals.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
The transcript contains a collection of nonsensical phrases including relationships, working too much, sleeping with other people, and administrative work.
24:18 - 28:09 (03:51)
Summary
The transcript contains a collection of nonsensical phrases including relationships, working too much, sleeping with other people, and administrative work.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
The societal progression of women's sexual behavior becoming more stereotypically masculine has led to a rise in women being the protagonists of cheating scenarios.
28:09 - 33:58 (05:49)
Summary
The societal progression of women's sexual behavior becoming more stereotypically masculine has led to a rise in women being the protagonists of cheating scenarios. With less defined gender roles, the line between cheating and acceptable behavior has become increasingly blurry.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
If you are certain that you are unhappy in a relationship and want to end it, do it right away instead of wasting your and your partner's time.
33:58 - 37:28 (03:29)
Summary
If you are certain that you are unhappy in a relationship and want to end it, do it right away instead of wasting your and your partner's time. Deciding to end a relationship is a big decision, but the fear of regret should not make you delay the inevitable.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
Lack of self-worth and failure to respect one's time and their partner's time can make it difficult to end a relationship.
37:28 - 43:16 (05:47)
Summary
Lack of self-worth and failure to respect one's time and their partner's time can make it difficult to end a relationship. Ending multiple relationships in one go can increase the likelihood of depression.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
This podcast explores the complexities of standard relationships and how our beliefs about sex and commitment affect our decisions to move in or not with our partners.
43:16 - 49:58 (06:42)
Summary
This podcast explores the complexities of standard relationships and how our beliefs about sex and commitment affect our decisions to move in or not with our partners.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
The speaker discusses how people tend to overreact to news or ads on social media, without considering their own behavior on the platform.
49:58 - 54:20 (04:22)
Summary
The speaker discusses how people tend to overreact to news or ads on social media, without considering their own behavior on the platform.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
The fear of hurting the other person and the feeling of dependency are some reasons why people stay in unhappy relationships even when they know it's not working.
54:20 - 58:53 (04:32)
Summary
The fear of hurting the other person and the feeling of dependency are some reasons why people stay in unhappy relationships even when they know it's not working. It's important to recognize that the present moment isn't the only chance for happiness and to prioritize one's own well-being.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
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The way we frame and perceive life-changing events such as illness or a break-up can have a significant impact on our ability to cope and move forward.
58:53 - 1:03:39 (04:46)
Summary
The way we frame and perceive life-changing events such as illness or a break-up can have a significant impact on our ability to cope and move forward. By reframing the situation and focusing on what can be controlled, it is possible to turn a negative experience into the start of something new.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
The podcast suggests completely cutting contact with your ex, including deleting their number, photos, and blocking them on social media, for at least six months in order to move on effectively.
1:03:39 - 1:05:56 (02:16)
Summary
The podcast suggests completely cutting contact with your ex, including deleting their number, photos, and blocking them on social media, for at least six months in order to move on effectively.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
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A reminder to spend time with friends and to reach out to them when feeling down, as they might be able to offer the support and companionship one needs during tough times.
1:05:56 - 1:09:09 (03:13)
Summary
A reminder to spend time with friends and to reach out to them when feeling down, as they might be able to offer the support and companionship one needs during tough times.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
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Alex Hutchinson, author of "Endure," explains that successful endurance athletes are able to mindfully distinguish between the different elements of discomfort within the body.
1:09:09 - 1:16:40 (07:30)
Summary
Alex Hutchinson, author of "Endure," explains that successful endurance athletes are able to mindfully distinguish between the different elements of discomfort within the body. Mindfulness practices such as meditation and journaling can help athletes become more aware of these elements and improve their performance.
Episode#043 - Relationships 103 - Cheating, How To Get Over Someone & How To End A Relationship
PodcastModern Wisdom
The speaker suggests using painful breakups as a way to take ownership of the pain and to use it for growth.
1:16:40 - 1:19:13 (02:33)
Summary
The speaker suggests using painful breakups as a way to take ownership of the pain and to use it for growth. They reference Sam Harris's experience of transforming knee pain during meditation into a searing sensation.