Episode
The “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
Description
Buckle up and get ready to take notes because this episode is a masterclass. The tools you’re about to learn will help you become more confident, influential, and even make more money. Today, we’re talking about The “It” Factor. Some people just seem to have IT, right? When I think of The It Factor, people like Oprah, The Rock, Taylor Swift, the Dalai Lama, and Martin Luther King, Jr. come to mind. These people make you want to lean in, join in, and learn more. So today we’re asking… What is “It” that some people have that makes us automatically trust and like them? And, more importantly, how can you get it? Here to answer that question is Vanessa Van Edwards, a best-selling author, researcher, and founder of the behavior lab The Science of People. I cannot wait for you to dig into what she has researched. Turns out The It Factor has another name: charisma. And the good news? YOU can learn how to have charisma, starting today. You’re going to want to. Research finds that charismatic people are more influential, earn a higher income, and have a bigger impact at work, in their communities, and in their relationships. The secret to hacking it? Social cues, like body language and the way you speak. That’s why today’s episode is a masterclass. You’ll learn… Shocking research from Princeton about how people size you up3 things you must do in the first 10 seconds of a Zoom callTips for nailing an interviewThe major mistake you’re making as you speakHow to ask for a raiseA simple test that will help you figure out how charismatic you areWhy you never want to fake a smileTips for charisma for introvertsWhy a second impression is as important as the first That’s just the tip of the iceberg. Today’s episode is jam-packed with simple, tactical research and tools that will help you and anyone you care about develop the skill of charisma. And you deserve that. Xo Mel Join the free 5-day Wake Up Challenge with me and master your morning routine here. All show notes for this episode can be found at melrobbins.com/podcastCheck out the video version of this podcast on my YouTube channel here.
Chapters
Mel Robbins talks about "the it factor," which people possess to make others lean in and care about what they are saying.
00:00 - 01:10 (01:10)
Summary
Mel Robbins talks about "the it factor," which people possess to make others lean in and care about what they are saying. This factor can make an individual more influential and trusted.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
According to research, 82% of people's impression of you is based on whether or not you display charisma.
01:10 - 07:05 (05:55)
Summary
According to research, 82% of people's impression of you is based on whether or not you display charisma. Charisma can help bring your "it factor" to life, make an impact, influence people, and increase your income.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The presence of charisma can act as a lubricant to smoother conversations and relationships, alleviating any feelings of awkwardness or internal disruptions that may hinder communication.
07:05 - 10:48 (03:42)
Summary
The presence of charisma can act as a lubricant to smoother conversations and relationships, alleviating any feelings of awkwardness or internal disruptions that may hinder communication.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Highly competent individuals often struggle with signaling warmth, which can lead to being perceived as cold and unapproachable.
10:48 - 14:23 (03:35)
Summary
Highly competent individuals often struggle with signaling warmth, which can lead to being perceived as cold and unapproachable. This can hinder collaboration and make it difficult to work effectively with others.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Balancing the desire to be liked with the need to be respected can be a challenge at work.
14:23 - 19:05 (04:41)
Summary
Balancing the desire to be liked with the need to be respected can be a challenge at work. Being too focused on being right or too warm can cause people to not trust or respect you.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
This podcast episode provides tips and tricks on how to improve one's charisma during virtual meetings, interviews, and even in emails.
19:05 - 23:32 (04:26)
Summary
This podcast episode provides tips and tricks on how to improve one's charisma during virtual meetings, interviews, and even in emails. The first minute of the video is broken down to help listeners understand how to connect and build rapport with others.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
In this podcast, the speaker discusses the concept of personal space and how it influences our interactions with others.
23:32 - 27:41 (04:09)
Summary
In this podcast, the speaker discusses the concept of personal space and how it influences our interactions with others. He talks about the different zones of personal space and how body language can affect the way we are perceived by others.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
According to a study, doctors with the lowest warmth and competence ratings based on their voice tone were found to have the highest rate of malpractice lawsuits, proving that voice tone plays a significant role in perception of charisma.
27:41 - 31:05 (03:23)
Summary
According to a study, doctors with the lowest warmth and competence ratings based on their voice tone were found to have the highest rate of malpractice lawsuits, proving that voice tone plays a significant role in perception of charisma.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Highly warm people who desperately want to be liked are more prone to using uptalk, a rising inflection at the end of a sentence that makes it sound like a question.
31:05 - 34:42 (03:37)
Summary
Highly warm people who desperately want to be liked are more prone to using uptalk, a rising inflection at the end of a sentence that makes it sound like a question. This speech pattern can affect your confidence, performance in interviews, and how you are perceived by others.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Learn how to improve your speaking skills by speaking on the out breath and maintaining proper breathing techniques.
34:42 - 37:12 (02:29)
Summary
Learn how to improve your speaking skills by speaking on the out breath and maintaining proper breathing techniques.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Your smile can convey authenticity or fake happiness in your LinkedIn profile picture.
37:12 - 40:46 (03:34)
Summary
Your smile can convey authenticity or fake happiness in your LinkedIn profile picture. A real smile can make a positive impact, while a fake one can signal inauthenticity.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Learn how a simple head tilt during a video call or in your profile picture can convey warmth and competence to others, making you appear as a better listener and communicator.
40:46 - 43:07 (02:20)
Summary
Learn how a simple head tilt during a video call or in your profile picture can convey warmth and competence to others, making you appear as a better listener and communicator.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The language used in an email can trigger a physiological response in the recipient.
43:07 - 49:37 (06:30)
Summary
The language used in an email can trigger a physiological response in the recipient. Warm words such as connection, trust, and handshake can trigger positive feelings, while competent words like brainstorm and power through can promote productivity and efficiency.
EpisodeThe “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and communicating your needs to others in order to be treated the way you deserve.
49:37 - 50:54 (01:17)
Summary
The speaker emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and communicating your needs to others in order to be treated the way you deserve.