Episode
Toolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)
Description
In this episode, you are getting a brand new definition of confidence.This definition is based on research studies on how confidence is built.Confidence is not what you think it is.It is not a personality trait you’re born with, and it’s not reserved only for extroverts.Confidence is a skill that anyone can master.And today is the perfect day for you to start.You and I are breaking down the science together, and you’re invited to join in as I coach several listeners who are struggling with self-doubt.By the time this episode is done, you will not only have a brand new definition of confidence, but you will also know how to put that definition to use to start building unstoppable confidence in your own life.Confidence is your birthright. You can’t lose it; you just lost your connection to it.Let’s get that back.If you are willing to get up every day and put one foot in front of the other, you, my friend, will not only be practicing and building confidence, but over time you’ll start feeling more confident too.Xo Mel Check out research and other resources at melrobbins.com/podcast.In this episode, you’ll learn: 2:00: The question Heather asked about confidence that so many of you have.3:50: Honestly, here’s what happens when you have more confidence.6:00: This is a “doing podcast," so here’s your first assignment.8:30: This is what you and I were getting wrong about confidence. Until now.8:45: Your new definition of confidence that embodies the research.13:45: Here is one of the simplest and yet profound reasons for my success.14:40: Did you happen to catch my 21-minute panic attack on TEDx?16:50: Neuroscience says it gets easier to feel confident when you do this.21:40: Feeling like an imposter? Great! Here’s why.23:30: Alex’s question led us to talk about Myth #1 about confidence.24:20: Here’s a surprising fact about confidence.25:55: Myth #2 about confidence needs to be laid to rest.27:00: Telling yourself that you lost your confidence? Then listen to Myth #3.28:10: I’ve loved this TED Talk for years. 29:00: Use tool #1 to interrupt your self-doubt and do what you’re afraid of..31:25: Confidence does not come before action; THIS does.31:00: There are two types of people when it comes to action. Which are you?33:30: Rule #2 is fun; research says it’s the fastest way to create new habits.35:45: Rule #3 is absolutely essential if you want to build confidence.38:00: Rule #4 is what I tell myself every time I’m about to do something scary.40:50: I don’t want to come to the end of my life feeling this.42:45: If you’re willing to feel this way, you’re guaranteed to keep growing.44:15: Do you like this person you’re spending your life with?46:00: Be careful who you give your number one commodity away to.49:30: Ultimately, here’s why you’re not feeling confident. Now change that.51:00: This is the hard truth about life that you need to hear. Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it here. Sign up for my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge to wake up your confidence. Disclaimer
Chapters
This podcast episode discusses the concept of building confidence from a research-based perspective, and provides actionable steps to gain more confidence in life.
00:00 - 03:13 (03:13)
Summary
This podcast episode discusses the concept of building confidence from a research-based perspective, and provides actionable steps to gain more confidence in life. A listener's question on the topic of confidence is addressed.
EpisodeToolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The lack of easily digestible information about confidence research makes it difficult for people to develop the skill of confidence and apply it to their daily lives.
03:13 - 07:27 (04:13)
Summary
The lack of easily digestible information about confidence research makes it difficult for people to develop the skill of confidence and apply it to their daily lives.
EpisodeToolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Building confidence is about being willing to try and overcome the fear of failure by putting yourself out there and learning from mistakes.
07:27 - 13:42 (06:15)
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Building confidence is about being willing to try and overcome the fear of failure by putting yourself out there and learning from mistakes. True confidence comes from repeated attempts and practice, not just feeling sure about something.
EpisodeToolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The key to overcoming the fear of failure is to be willing to try, to make mistakes and to keep learning from both successes and failures.
13:42 - 18:55 (05:13)
Summary
The key to overcoming the fear of failure is to be willing to try, to make mistakes and to keep learning from both successes and failures. With persistence and practice, knowledge and competency will eventually catch up, removing doubts and resistance.
EpisodeToolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Confidence is an action and being willing to try, which is why imposter syndrome can be a good thing.
18:55 - 24:13 (05:17)
Summary
Confidence is an action and being willing to try, which is why imposter syndrome can be a good thing. By showing up and persisting despite doubt, it is possible to overcome fear and become talented and respected in a given field.
EpisodeToolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Learn how to build your confidence around high achievers and thrive even if you're not naturally an extrovert.
24:13 - 28:21 (04:07)
Summary
Learn how to build your confidence around high achievers and thrive even if you're not naturally an extrovert. True confidence is simply being willing to try.
EpisodeToolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Building confidence and overcoming imposter syndrome requires taking action in the face of self-doubt and anxiety.
28:21 - 33:05 (04:44)
Summary
Building confidence and overcoming imposter syndrome requires taking action in the face of self-doubt and anxiety.
EpisodeToolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Mel Robbins discusses the importance of preparation in building confidence and reducing stress, citing the example of the Williams sisters' rigorous practice before tournaments.
33:05 - 40:57 (07:52)
Summary
Mel Robbins discusses the importance of preparation in building confidence and reducing stress, citing the example of the Williams sisters' rigorous practice before tournaments. She also shares a study from Johns Hopkins on the benefits of using an alter ego or envisioning one's future self to overcome self-doubt.
EpisodeToolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
This podcast features a discussion about self-confidence and its relationship with social media and technology, specifically among Generation Z and younger generations.
40:57 - 45:52 (04:54)
Summary
This podcast features a discussion about self-confidence and its relationship with social media and technology, specifically among Generation Z and younger generations. It encourages listeners to focus on their own personal growth and to reframe hard situations as learning experiences.
EpisodeToolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Social media can create self-doubt, self-sabotage, self-criticism, and a loser mentality.
45:52 - 51:40 (05:48)
Summary
Social media can create self-doubt, self-sabotage, self-criticism, and a loser mentality. To combat this, focus on curating a list of accounts that align with your goals and how you want to feel, and use social media as an additive to help you achieve those things.
EpisodeToolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker encourages listeners to keep trying and learning from their failures, even during difficult times, to build confidence and achieve their goals.
51:41 - 53:15 (01:33)
Summary
The speaker encourages listeners to keep trying and learning from their failures, even during difficult times, to build confidence and achieve their goals.