Episode
932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
1:23:18
Published: Wed Mar 25 2020
Description
“Consciousness is where we are granted choice.”QUESTIONSHow are you growing faster than other therapist brands? (1:28)How do we change a feeling of powerlessness? (7:25)What’s the greatest trauma people face? (17:24)What’s the level a child or the parent traumatizes the other? (19:23)How do we come to a place of worthiness? (29:00)What is the best practice on observing self thoughts? (37:13)What’s your biggest trigger? (39:13)How do we forgive our parents, even if they were doing the best they can? (43:20)How do we say no without apologizing? (49:30)How do you speak to a child that has a chaotic reality and has not observed their own thoughts? (1:01:30)What’s your biggest fear as a therapist? (1:07:32)YOU WILL LEARNThe issue with always thinking about what to do next (5:30)How to develop a consistency in practice in consciousness of action (9:45)The top tools for your healing journey (16:25)Why meditation is key to tuning in to our internal world (24:30)What to do when we get stuck in our familiarized comfort zone (27:50)How the practice of self observation removes focus without judgment (29:30)Why we must change our expectations (41:21)Why we find a way to keep connections with other humans (51:32)Great ways to say no without apologizing or explaining yourself (56:25)The importance of going inward and connecting with ourselves everyday (1:07:10)LINKS MENTIONEDThe Body Keeps the ScoreVirtual Self Healer Circle MembershipBrain on Fire by Susannah CahalanIf you enjoyed this episode, show notes and more at http://www.lewishowes.com/932 and follow at instagram.com/lewishowes
Chapters
Dr. Nicole LePera explains the Pyramid of Self-Healing, a tool that helps individuals understand and prioritize different aspects of their well-being.
00:00 - 05:01 (05:01)
Summary
Dr. Nicole LePera explains the Pyramid of Self-Healing, a tool that helps individuals understand and prioritize different aspects of their well-being. She also discusses an update on setting boundaries with her parents and how it has affected her.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The podcast discusses the phenomenon of feeling "stuck" in life and how therapy can provide the tools needed to break free of negative patterns and behaviors.
05:01 - 11:00 (05:58)
Summary
The podcast discusses the phenomenon of feeling "stuck" in life and how therapy can provide the tools needed to break free of negative patterns and behaviors. The host also explores why some therapists are able to make more progress than others in helping their patients achieve lasting change.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
In this conversation, the hosts discuss the importance of practicing conscious communication in relationships, listening instead of always trying to be right, and observing patterns in order to create positive change.
11:00 - 18:11 (07:10)
Summary
In this conversation, the hosts discuss the importance of practicing conscious communication in relationships, listening instead of always trying to be right, and observing patterns in order to create positive change.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
This podcast talks about the patterns seen in people's family and how to observe them.
18:11 - 23:56 (05:45)
Summary
This podcast talks about the patterns seen in people's family and how to observe them. It also touches on the importance of practicing tools in non-stressful moments for growth and development.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker emphasizes the importance of including the body in the holistic healing journey, especially for those experiencing nervous system dysregulation or adrenal fatigue.
23:56 - 29:26 (05:30)
Summary
The speaker emphasizes the importance of including the body in the holistic healing journey, especially for those experiencing nervous system dysregulation or adrenal fatigue. By becoming an observer of our thoughts, we can also do the deeper work of healing the ego and inner child to address repetitive patterns in our thinking and consistent feelings in our body.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
A discussion on the discomfort associated with identifying and challenging negative thoughts, and the importance of reflecting on traumatic feelings.
29:27 - 33:41 (04:14)
Summary
A discussion on the discomfort associated with identifying and challenging negative thoughts, and the importance of reflecting on traumatic feelings.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
This podcast gives tips for inner work, which involves taking care of physical needs, breath work, meditation, observing thoughts and removing judgment, and giving oneself a chance at believing in self-worth over time.
33:42 - 38:06 (04:24)
Summary
This podcast gives tips for inner work, which involves taking care of physical needs, breath work, meditation, observing thoughts and removing judgment, and giving oneself a chance at believing in self-worth over time.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Healing is a lifelong journey that requires consistent daily practices to avoid falling back into a dysregulated state.
38:07 - 44:47 (06:39)
Summary
Healing is a lifelong journey that requires consistent daily practices to avoid falling back into a dysregulated state. Our day-to-day experiences also offer opportunities to learn and grow if we remain observant and avoid negative self-talk.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
This podcast episode talks about developing empathy skills in relationships as we age and gain more experience.
44:47 - 52:55 (08:08)
Summary
This podcast episode talks about developing empathy skills in relationships as we age and gain more experience. It also discusses the importance of flexibility in relationships and accepting partners for who they are.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Learning how to say "no" can be difficult, but it's important to practice because it can prevent negative outcomes.
52:55 - 1:02:11 (09:15)
Summary
Learning how to say "no" can be difficult, but it's important to practice because it can prevent negative outcomes. Your mind may try to convince you otherwise, but it's important to stand by your decision, even if it upsets others.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The effects of childhood trauma can arise from parents denying a child's reality, living vicariously through them, or not being seen or heard, which can lead to unhealthy relationship patterns.
1:02:11 - 1:07:15 (05:03)
Summary
The effects of childhood trauma can arise from parents denying a child's reality, living vicariously through them, or not being seen or heard, which can lead to unhealthy relationship patterns. Modeling a healthy relationship is essential as most intergenerational relations are transmitted by caregivers who themselves have their own issues.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker shares their perspective on how humanity is currently awakening and moving towards healing at a fast rate.
1:07:15 - 1:10:38 (03:23)
Summary
The speaker shares their perspective on how humanity is currently awakening and moving towards healing at a fast rate. They emphasize the importance of asking and listening with an open mind, even when the information is difficult to hear, and how this is pivotal for everyone's mental health.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Presence and reflective listening are important for making someone feel seen, cared for, and loved for who they are.
1:10:38 - 1:16:34 (05:55)
Summary
Presence and reflective listening are important for making someone feel seen, cared for, and loved for who they are. It involves actively listening and understanding what someone is saying, as opposed to simply formulating a response in your head.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker talks about the "Focus on Healing" program that approaches healing through one area per month, with a full group addressing this topic.
1:16:34 - 1:19:52 (03:17)
Summary
The speaker talks about the "Focus on Healing" program that approaches healing through one area per month, with a full group addressing this topic. The program includes worksheets, PDFs, virtual training sessions, and an hour with the speaker or other experts.
Episode932 Dr. Nicole LePera on Relationships, Boundaries, and Childhood Trauma
PodcastThe School of Greatness
This podcast episode provides tools and exercises to help cultivate healthy relationships through setting boundaries and practicing self-care and self-love.
1:19:52 - 1:23:04 (03:12)
Summary
This podcast episode provides tools and exercises to help cultivate healthy relationships through setting boundaries and practicing self-care and self-love. It highlights the impact of boundary-setting on one's own life and the lives of others.