Episode
The Secret to Stopping Fear & Anxiety (That Actually Works)
Description
I used simple research from Harvard Business School and UCLA to tame my fear of public speaking and become one of the most successful keynote speakers in the world. I used this same tool to overcome my fear of flying. If nerves or fear are holding you back from applying for that promotion, asking someone on a date, speaking up at a meeting, or traveling to another part of the world, this brain hack will change your life. Your fears make your life small. Your nerves limit your potential. Your anxiety robs you of happiness and confidence. Today on the podcast, you’ll hear me coach someone through one of her biggest fears. You’ll hear the hilarious ways I used to cope with my fears and you’ll also learn why telling someone to calm down never works. You’ll leave this episode with a 4-step tool that you can apply to your life the moment you learn it. Stop letting your fear make your life small. Board that plane, step onto that stage, apply for that promotion, and never let your nerves stop you from living your life the way that you want to again. And please, share this episode not only with people you love, but particularly with all the young adults in your life, because research shows that this tool not only helps you tame your anxiety – it also helps you perform better on tests, be a better athlete, and compete at a higher level in academic competitions. Xo Mel For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com
Chapters
This episode offers tips on how to use a confidence anchor to control your mind in situations where fear and nerves might otherwise take over.
00:00 - 04:29 (04:29)
Summary
This episode offers tips on how to use a confidence anchor to control your mind in situations where fear and nerves might otherwise take over. Using research from Harvard Business School and UCLA, the host provides listeners with actionable advice to help them overcome challenges in various aspects of their lives.
EpisodeThe Secret to Stopping Fear & Anxiety (That Actually Works)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker shares their experience of having a fear of flying and the panic that solidifies due to lack of control over the airplane and surroundings, leading to doing unnecessary research on safety ratings of an aircraft before booking a flight.
04:29 - 13:38 (09:09)
Summary
The speaker shares their experience of having a fear of flying and the panic that solidifies due to lack of control over the airplane and surroundings, leading to doing unnecessary research on safety ratings of an aircraft before booking a flight.
EpisodeThe Secret to Stopping Fear & Anxiety (That Actually Works)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker talks about how to overcome fear and control in events in life and enjoy the moments by flipping the nervousness experience and seize opportunities to enjoy life as you want it.
13:38 - 27:52 (14:13)
Summary
The speaker talks about how to overcome fear and control in events in life and enjoy the moments by flipping the nervousness experience and seize opportunities to enjoy life as you want it.
EpisodeThe Secret to Stopping Fear & Anxiety (That Actually Works)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Learn how to use a confidence anchor to overcome anxiety and boost your self-assurance in stressful situations.
27:52 - 34:41 (06:49)
Summary
Learn how to use a confidence anchor to overcome anxiety and boost your self-assurance in stressful situations.
EpisodeThe Secret to Stopping Fear & Anxiety (That Actually Works)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The chemical structure in our body changes when we experience nervousness or excitement, causing the famous "butterflies in the stomach" feeling.
34:41 - 43:31 (08:49)
Summary
The chemical structure in our body changes when we experience nervousness or excitement, causing the famous "butterflies in the stomach" feeling. Understanding this process can help people use "confidence anchors" to alleviate anxiety and boost confidence in stressful situations.
EpisodeThe Secret to Stopping Fear & Anxiety (That Actually Works)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker discusses the importance of finding like-minded individuals in their 20s, and how practicing yoga can help achieve this.
43:33 - 49:35 (06:02)
Summary
The speaker discusses the importance of finding like-minded individuals in their 20s, and how practicing yoga can help achieve this. They also touch upon the physiological states of high agitation, such as nervousness, stress, fear, and excitement.
EpisodeThe Secret to Stopping Fear & Anxiety (That Actually Works)
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The technique of creating a confidence anchor can help individuals overcome their fears and reprogram their minds to be less nervous or anxious.
49:35 - 53:10 (03:34)
Summary
The technique of creating a confidence anchor can help individuals overcome their fears and reprogram their minds to be less nervous or anxious. By associating positive feelings and actions with a specific stimulus, like signing up for a yoga class, individuals can overcome their automatic fear response.