Episode
You’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
Description
I was lying in bed one morning, and all of a sudden it hit me… If I ever want to be truly happy, I have to stop doing THIS. So do you. What is this thing we need to stop doing? I call it the “Campaign of Misery.” In the background of your mind, there’s a campaign of misery running on a loop. And until you stop it, you will never experience the happiness, joy and contentment you deserve. I promise you - it is there. In the background - talking to you all the time. This is the missing piece to true happiness. When you remove the campaign of misery, you create room for joy. I recorded this episode the same morning I had this profound insight. What you're about to hear is a conversation with me and two friends and colleagues, Amy and Jessie. Pull up a seat at the kitchen table; I want you to hear me unpacking this breakthrough about happiness in real time. My two friends saw their “campaign of misery” immediately and started describing in detail the ridiculous ways they torture themselves. You’ll laugh, you’ll nod along, and you might even cry a little. We sure did. Because when you realize how much you rob yourself of the happiness you deserve, it is sad. I always say, this isn’t just a listening podcast, it’s a doing podcast. So by the end, there’s something specific I will be asking you to do with us while you listen. In three simple steps, you will join us as we put down the sword, grab a book of matches, and pick up the pen to write new default programming into our minds. Don’t worry, I’ll explain why you need matches near the end of the episode. And you’ll be so happy that I did. You have the power to change the way you think and the way you talk to yourself. You have the power to stop seeing all the reasons your life is hard and teach yourself to see how this could be easier. Yes, you can be happy. You can be content. But first, you have to stop making yourself miserable. Let’s support one another on this. If we fight this battle for happiness together, side-by-side, I am certain we will win. Xo Mel In this episode, you’ll learn:What happens when you get caught up in your storiesMy profound breakthrough around the importance of mindfulnessHow to start celebrating yourself right now, no matter your mindsetThe 3 incredibly powerful mindset hacks I did with my friends and colleagues, Amy & Jessie Go deeper: Do you want to create a better morning routine? Join my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge and I’ll coach day by day on setting your day up for success here. Morning Pages inspired by Julia Cameron: The Artist’s Way For complete show notes, click here.
Chapters
Mel Robbins shares a profound breakthrough she had in finding happiness and how to overcome a common challenge that robs us of it.
00:00 - 01:46 (01:46)
Summary
Mel Robbins shares a profound breakthrough she had in finding happiness and how to overcome a common challenge that robs us of it.
EpisodeYou’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The campaign of misery inside of us to protect ourselves or because of past experiences can hinder our pursuit of happiness and contentment, despite checking all the boxes to improve our lives.
01:46 - 09:14 (07:28)
Summary
The campaign of misery inside of us to protect ourselves or because of past experiences can hinder our pursuit of happiness and contentment, despite checking all the boxes to improve our lives. It is important to be proactive in doing things that make us happy and present, rather than just adopting a temporary "la la la la" happy persona.
EpisodeYou’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker reflects on their struggle with finding joy despite achieving their goals and how it is important to reparent ourselves.
09:14 - 14:40 (05:25)
Summary
The speaker reflects on their struggle with finding joy despite achieving their goals and how it is important to reparent ourselves. It is explained how a child's theta state of brain is like a sponge, absorbing both positive and negative things in their surroundings.
EpisodeYou’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Amy E. Smith discusses the harm of constant complaining and how to shift focus towards bettering oneself rather than complaining about external factors.
14:40 - 20:36 (05:56)
Summary
Amy E. Smith discusses the harm of constant complaining and how to shift focus towards bettering oneself rather than complaining about external factors.
EpisodeYou’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The way we communicate with our family and view big life events is often shaped by our "tribe language."
20:37 - 26:06 (05:28)
Summary
The way we communicate with our family and view big life events is often shaped by our "tribe language." It's important to recognize this dynamic and understand that we are all constantly learning and evolving at an emotional level.
EpisodeYou’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker discusses how growing up with a victim mentality led her to crave traditions and a sense of belonging, causing her to buy fake decorative items to create an artificial sense of heritage.
26:06 - 30:28 (04:22)
Summary
The speaker discusses how growing up with a victim mentality led her to crave traditions and a sense of belonging, causing her to buy fake decorative items to create an artificial sense of heritage.
EpisodeYou’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
This podcast episode discusses the benefits of guided meditation, prayer, and devotionals for introducing different thoughts and clearing the mind.
30:28 - 35:16 (04:47)
Summary
This podcast episode discusses the benefits of guided meditation, prayer, and devotionals for introducing different thoughts and clearing the mind. The host also shares a metaphor about finding inner peace amidst the chaos of daily life.
EpisodeYou’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
This podcast episode discusses practical tips for making the writing process easier, such as starting with an outline and avoiding distractions.
35:16 - 36:39 (01:22)
Summary
This podcast episode discusses practical tips for making the writing process easier, such as starting with an outline and avoiding distractions.
EpisodeYou’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The guest discusses their experience of overcoming writer's block by simply beginning to write and reflects on the notable difference between their first and last sentences.
36:39 - 40:13 (03:33)
Summary
The guest discusses their experience of overcoming writer's block by simply beginning to write and reflects on the notable difference between their first and last sentences.
EpisodeYou’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker expresses their frustrations with their cat's behavior and their disturbance during the night.
40:13 - 44:30 (04:17)
Summary
The speaker expresses their frustrations with their cat's behavior and their disturbance during the night. They also talk about their holiday stress and emotions towards it.
EpisodeYou’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
Changing your mindset and focusing on how things can be easy rather than what's wrong can lead to a happier and more productive life.
44:30 - 49:28 (04:57)
Summary
Changing your mindset and focusing on how things can be easy rather than what's wrong can lead to a happier and more productive life.
EpisodeYou’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This
PodcastThe Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker emphasizes the importance of creating new neural pathways to experience a happier life by letting go of negative thoughts and emotions and focusing on positive ones.
49:28 - 51:52 (02:23)
Summary
The speaker emphasizes the importance of creating new neural pathways to experience a happier life by letting go of negative thoughts and emotions and focusing on positive ones.