Episode

844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
Description
FAMILY ISN’T EVERYTHING. How often have you heard phrases about putting family first? Most of us had a plaque on the wall growing up that said something similar. But if you’re letting family walk all over you, you’re doing a disservice to yourself. We get what we tolerate. If you don’t like something, but you tolerate it, you can’t expect people to change. So how do we have better relationships with our families? We have to create a request. And we have to keep our word. Telling people what you need doesn’t always feel good, but it’s necessary to take care of yourself. On today’s episode of The School of Greatness, I talk about boundaries and reparenting yourself with an inspirational holistic psychologist: Dr. Nicole Lepera. Dr. Nicole LePera is a Holistic Psychologist who believes that mental wellness is for everyone. She evolved her more traditional training from Cornell University and The New School to one that acknowledges the connection between the mind and body. Dr. LePera founded the Mindful Healing Center in Center City Philadelphia where she works with individuals, couples, and families taking gut health, sleep, movement, cellular health, belief, and mindfulness into treatment. Dr. Nicole Lepera shares her three steps to creating healthy boundaries and how to break cycles in ourselves. So get ready to learn how to be a self healer on Episode 844. Some Questions I Ask: What were your biggest limiting beliefs? (9:30) How do we become unstuck? (17:00) How do we manage the guilt of our family? (23:00) How do we regulate our nervous system? (46:00) What does it mean to “reparent” yourself? (1:0200) How do we become a self healer every day? (1:16:00) In This Episode You Will Learn: How emotion is tied to memory (12:00) What “interdependence” means (20:00) The three steps to create a boundary (29:00) How to “depersonalize” (39:00) Dr. Nicole’s definition of manifestation (57:00) About the “Small, Daily Promise” (1:13:00) If you enjoyed this episode, check out the video, show notes and more at http://www.lewishowes.com/844 and follow at instagram.com/lewishowes
Chapters
The Holistic Psychologist shares tips on how to become emotionally unstuck and find interdependence by breaking patterns, setting boundaries, and focusing on holistic health.
00:00 - 04:07 (04:07)
Summary
The Holistic Psychologist shares tips on how to become emotionally unstuck and find interdependence by breaking patterns, setting boundaries, and focusing on holistic health. Listeners are encouraged to visit lewishouse.com/844 for additional resources.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The traditional route to having a practice in Psychology used to be through a PhD or PsyD, but it has since changed.
04:07 - 07:24 (03:16)
Summary
The traditional route to having a practice in Psychology used to be through a PhD or PsyD, but it has since changed. Psychology has become more about exploring the human mind and its intricacies, rather than just helping people heal.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
According to the speaker, despite having a large number of memories, we really hold onto maybe five to seven strong positive memories which stand out in our minds more prominently than filler memories.
07:24 - 11:30 (04:06)
Summary
According to the speaker, despite having a large number of memories, we really hold onto maybe five to seven strong positive memories which stand out in our minds more prominently than filler memories. This is what makes up the bulk of our memories, and not the 365 days in between them.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Self-observation throughout the day is key to identifying our patterns, triggers, and emotional reactions, which are all related to our inner child.
11:30 - 17:12 (05:42)
Summary
Self-observation throughout the day is key to identifying our patterns, triggers, and emotional reactions, which are all related to our inner child. Developing a mindfulness-based meditation practice can help create self-awareness and foster a healthier relationship with ourselves.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
This episode explores the challenges of setting personal boundaries in relationships and the importance of self-reliance and emotional autonomy in achieving interdependence with others.
17:12 - 22:59 (05:47)
Summary
This episode explores the challenges of setting personal boundaries in relationships and the importance of self-reliance and emotional autonomy in achieving interdependence with others.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker talks about the complicated relationships with her family while navigating her mom's health issues, which led her to try different versions of having a separate relationship.
22:59 - 26:08 (03:09)
Summary
The speaker talks about the complicated relationships with her family while navigating her mom's health issues, which led her to try different versions of having a separate relationship.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The importance of setting boundaries and the difference between weaponizing them versus making a clear statement, as discussed in Melissa Hartwick's podcast.
26:08 - 29:28 (03:19)
Summary
The importance of setting boundaries and the difference between weaponizing them versus making a clear statement, as discussed in Melissa Hartwick's podcast.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The podcast explores the idea of tolerating negative emotions instead of acquiescing to them to avoid feeling bad.
29:28 - 31:49 (02:20)
Summary
The podcast explores the idea of tolerating negative emotions instead of acquiescing to them to avoid feeling bad. The host emphasizes the need to set boundaries and not send the message that guilt and anger can control our behavior.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
In this episode, the speaker talks about the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and not allowing negative thoughts or words from family members to affect you.
31:49 - 35:22 (03:33)
Summary
In this episode, the speaker talks about the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and not allowing negative thoughts or words from family members to affect you. She emphasizes the need to communicate calmly and stick to your boundaries.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker discusses her personal experience with traditional talk therapy and why it may not work for everyone.
35:22 - 38:25 (03:02)
Summary
The speaker discusses her personal experience with traditional talk therapy and why it may not work for everyone.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Dysregulation of the nervous system poses a major challenge to individuals, whether they have experienced severe or minor trauma.
38:25 - 42:15 (03:50)
Summary
Dysregulation of the nervous system poses a major challenge to individuals, whether they have experienced severe or minor trauma. This is because therapy, medication or talk therapy would only go so far in treating them if their nervous system remains unregulated.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Practicing gratitude can help individuals gain control of the physiological reactions in their body that can contribute to anxiety and panic attacks, even with small daily practices.
42:15 - 50:55 (08:40)
Summary
Practicing gratitude can help individuals gain control of the physiological reactions in their body that can contribute to anxiety and panic attacks, even with small daily practices.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
In this podcast, Kristen Neff talks about the importance of self-care and shares her personal experience with it.
50:55 - 57:59 (07:03)
Summary
In this podcast, Kristen Neff talks about the importance of self-care and shares her personal experience with it. She emphasizes that self-care is not the same for everyone and that it's crucial to find what works best for you.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The familiarity of a feeling in a relationship, even if it's not necessarily with the ideal partner, can drive one's partner choice.
57:59 - 1:00:41 (02:41)
Summary
The familiarity of a feeling in a relationship, even if it's not necessarily with the ideal partner, can drive one's partner choice. To avoid this scenario, it's important to learn emotional language to better understand and navigate relationships.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Often times, people may not seek growth and change in their lives until they experience a significant life event, such as a breakup, a divorce or a career ending.
1:00:41 - 1:06:54 (06:13)
Summary
Often times, people may not seek growth and change in their lives until they experience a significant life event, such as a breakup, a divorce or a career ending. It is important to learn to embrace change and overcome fear in order to achieve personal growth.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The goal is to navigate life with our childhood wounds and know how to make ourselves feel better, helping relationships in the process by breaking the habitual way of reacting to it.
1:06:54 - 1:12:33 (05:39)
Summary
The goal is to navigate life with our childhood wounds and know how to make ourselves feel better, helping relationships in the process by breaking the habitual way of reacting to it. By taking one step at a time, we can ultimately do more steps instead of setting unrealistic expectations.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
In this podcast, the speaker talks about her plans for introducing courses on reparenting, partnerships, relationships and many more areas to give people a more structured way to heal from their past traumas and re-align their future journey.
1:12:33 - 1:17:20 (04:46)
Summary
In this podcast, the speaker talks about her plans for introducing courses on reparenting, partnerships, relationships and many more areas to give people a more structured way to heal from their past traumas and re-align their future journey. These courses will emphasize the importance of focused attention in one area and help people develop consistency in their healing process.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
Many people are turning to Instagram as a source for healing and connection with others who are going through similar journeys.
1:17:20 - 1:20:26 (03:06)
Summary
Many people are turning to Instagram as a source for healing and connection with others who are going through similar journeys. The platform provides a space for individuals to share their experiences and find comfort in the community they build.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The speaker discusses the concept of the authentic self and reflects on how it applies to the present moment.
1:20:26 - 1:23:07 (02:41)
Summary
The speaker discusses the concept of the authentic self and reflects on how it applies to the present moment.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
An invitation to attend a self-love and healing celebration in Columbus featuring speakers, workout leaders, and workshops aimed at helping individuals break free from emotional cycles and challenges in their life.
1:23:07 - 1:26:54 (03:47)
Summary
An invitation to attend a self-love and healing celebration in Columbus featuring speakers, workout leaders, and workshops aimed at helping individuals break free from emotional cycles and challenges in their life.
Episode844 Become a Self-Healer and Break Free of Emotional Cycles with Dr. Nicole LePera
PodcastThe School of Greatness
The focus of our mind dictates the results in our lives.
1:26:54 - 1:27:35 (00:41)
Summary
The focus of our mind dictates the results in our lives. By choosing positivity over negativity, we attract healing, love, and peace into our lives.