Episode

Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
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59:38
Published: Thu Jan 05 2023
Description

This episode will help you set the right goals for you. Goals matter. They make your life easier and they create a sense of purpose and meaning. But most people don’t set goals the right way, which is why they fail before they even start. That’s not going to be you. This episode is a comprehensive toolkit that will help you set the goals that inspire you and make you feel excited about the year ahead.  And, it’s part of our month-long series covering the foundational research and topics related to creating a better life. Today, you’re not only going to learn the correct way to set goals according to research, you’re also going to identify 1-3 goals for yourself, and I’ll be doing the same thing right along with you.  Have no idea what your goals are or where to even start? Don’t worry; you will by the end of the episode. You’ll apply the latest research every single step of the way.  And that’s not all.  You can access a free companion workbook at melrobbins.com/goals that will walk you through everything we’re talking about so you can go even deeper into this conversation. Expect your goals to change as you listen to this episode, so don’t worry about doing any of this “right.”  By the end of this episode you will have even taken the first steps toward your goal.  How cool is that? I can’t wait. Let’s get started. Xo Mel For full show notes, including all research mentioned in the episode, go to melrobbins.com/podcast. For a free worksheet that dives deeper into the episode and helps you apply what you learn, click here. In this episode, you’ll learn:1:15: How do I set goals the right way?2:56: Why setting goals is so important: the truth from research8:24: The exciting new research about goals from Dr. Birkman that you need to know10:56: My three goals for 202313:05: I’m answering your top question about goals13:27: Four science-backed hacks to use when you’re not sure what your goals are16:20: Three qualities of the best goals21:48: Two components of a goal that you’ve got to have in order to achieve it27:07: What neuroscience says about why your brain needs these two components31:25: The five mistakes we all make when we set and try to achieve goals42:41: A powerful question about goals from Columbia University researchers that you should ask yourself44:57: Why setting a “high-low range goal” will make you more successful50:33: The most important thing you should do once you set a goal53:06: Here’s the crazy irony about achieving your goals Disclaimer

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The host is starting a new series about setting and breaking habits, beginning with the topic of goal setting, which she claims makes people happier.
00:00 - 04:40 (04:40)
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Goal Setting
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The host is starting a new series about setting and breaking habits, beginning with the topic of goal setting, which she claims makes people happier. She will not only provide tips but will also conduct a goal setting masterclass.

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Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
In this episode, the host will guide the listeners in identifying and refining their goals to ensure success.
04:40 - 08:46 (04:05)
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Goal setting
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In this episode, the host will guide the listeners in identifying and refining their goals to ensure success. The episode offers a comprehensive toolkit to keep the listeners inspired and excited about achieving their goals for the year ahead.

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Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
The podcast discusses effective goal setting techniques and encourages the listener to set self-concordant goals that are personally relevant, meaningful, and enjoyable.
08:46 - 16:58 (08:12)
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Goal Setting
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The podcast discusses effective goal setting techniques and encourages the listener to set self-concordant goals that are personally relevant, meaningful, and enjoyable.

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Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
In this podcast episode, the host talks about the two components that are necessary for achieving a goal, and how identifying the "why" behind a goal is crucial for success.
16:58 - 24:03 (07:04)
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Goal-setting
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In this podcast episode, the host talks about the two components that are necessary for achieving a goal, and how identifying the "why" behind a goal is crucial for success. She shares personal experiences and research findings to explain why goals fail when the "why" is not clear.

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Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
The speaker discusses the need to make a change in order to enjoy life and suggests studying something new as a behavior change.
24:03 - 30:01 (05:58)
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Self-improvement
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The speaker discusses the need to make a change in order to enjoy life and suggests studying something new as a behavior change. Her personal example is learning to create a cutting garden.

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Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
The podcast discusses 5 mistakes that most people make when trying to achieve their goals and how to overcome them by using research-backed strategies.
30:01 - 34:59 (04:58)
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Goal Setting
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The podcast discusses 5 mistakes that most people make when trying to achieve their goals and how to overcome them by using research-backed strategies. The speaker uses the example of his personal goal of drinking less as an illustration.

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Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
Achieving a goal requires finding the sweet spot between something that is too easy and too hard.
34:59 - 39:24 (04:24)
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Goal Setting
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Achieving a goal requires finding the sweet spot between something that is too easy and too hard. This means setting goals that are achievable but still ambitious, which is especially important during challenging times.

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Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
Refining your goals can be done by asking yourself how will you know if you have succeeded in achieving your goal.
39:24 - 44:43 (05:19)
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Goal Setting
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Refining your goals can be done by asking yourself how will you know if you have succeeded in achieving your goal. Asking this question helps in setting specific and measurable goals.

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Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
The first step towards achieving goals is setting achievable milestones.
44:43 - 49:29 (04:46)
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Goal setting
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The first step towards achieving goals is setting achievable milestones. Starting with a super easy milestone gives a feeling of accomplishment which can empower to reach larger milestones.

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Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
Setting and working towards goals can increase overall happiness, and achieving a goal may not be as satisfying as the journey towards achieving it.
49:29 - 54:21 (04:52)
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Personal Development
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Setting and working towards goals can increase overall happiness, and achieving a goal may not be as satisfying as the journey towards achieving it.

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Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
This episode of the Mel Robbins podcast provides research-backed tips and tools for making new habits stick and achieving your goals easier.
54:21 - 59:19 (04:57)
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Goal Setting
Summary

This episode of the Mel Robbins podcast provides research-backed tips and tools for making new habits stick and achieving your goals easier. The episode emphasizes the importance of clarity and provides actionable steps for creating a better life through goal setting.

Episode
Goal Setting Toolkit: Why Behavior Change Often Fails & How to Set the Right Goals for You
Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast